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Lyn - posted on 05/01/2012

I didn't get and still don't get the support for my son from my family. Most think that he is just quite. I think looking back over the years, After loosing 3 our our Grandparents I see that they just can't help it. They did not raise their kids with all the knowledge we have. We are the lucky ones. Each day more and more comes out about Autism, and that is fantastic, but it is our job to be forgiving for those that do not know better because they don't know what we do. NOW, that being said - you are your child's best advocate and always will be.

Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2012

It's very difficult dealing with grandparents, mine just think there is a magic pill out there. Unfortunately, all you can do is try to educate them in regards to your son's differences and difficulties. Copy her on articles regarding autism and give them to her every time she opens her mouth to say something negative. Good Luck!!! In regards specifically, your son is just like most others - what boys wants clothes for a birthday. It's nice, It's useful, BUT not very fun!!

Debbie - posted on 05/01/2012

The party is for your son and not for his grandmother so if she isn't happy being there for him, then she shouldn't come. If someone has a problem with my son, it's their problem and not mine or his and don't feel guilty for speaking up on his behalf. As parents, our first responsibility is to our kids. Some people, family and friends included, won't ever understand no matter how hard you try. It doesn't mean that they're terrible people but they weren't cut out for it.

Tanya - posted on 04/24/2012

My son is only really interested in cars, balls, bubbles and his favourite programme which is In the Night Garden. I buy him all of his favourite things for his birthday and let everyone buy what they want for him or I tell them things he needs. I also let them know that although he may not be interested in that particular thing or just tosses it aside, I'm appreciative of what they got him and it was a great present. Usually he has a try of everything in his own time and sometimes has come to even enjoy the gifts he wouldn't otherwise had. I would ignore the g/mother and anyone else who has negative things to say, it's your child's party and EVERY child deserves a fun day with family. If she continues to say her piece about it, tell her she's more than welcome to not come next time if that's how she feels. Your son comes first - always.

Terrie - posted on 04/21/2012

I have alway told people when you get my son a birthday present think Joel. It doesn't matter if you got him paper and and tape last year. Get him paper and tape again this year, he is going to be just as excited about it again. Also if you get him close he is going to scream bloody murder because that is the most boring thing in the world you can get a kid. lol I can't help his reations. I would start inviting friends and forget the grandma to be honest with you. Tell people with your child likes. My son used to be into scrolls and someone made him a scroll out of rolling pins and cloth. He still has and plays with it till this day. Best present he ever got. They didn't even have to go and buy what they made it out of. He also likes calanders. They got him calanders. What is the harm in getting a child what he wants? He has calanders all over the place and loves it. Yeah him. He's happy, I'm happy. lol I know it is hard for you to disclude the grand parents, but you have to think like this, your child probably understands what she is saying, don't believe me, read Carly's Voice. You can get it at Amazon.com

Annette - posted on 04/21/2012

Our son Ryan has autism also. I don't blame Ryan being bored with clothes, not very stimulating pressies,, good on you for getting him a ball. Unfortunately you can chose your friends and not your relations. We are very lucky to have understanding grand parents. People are quick to judge the condition and not the beautiful child inside. I strongly suggest getting an iPad for Ryan, he would love you forever, they are great!

Carol - posted on 04/20/2012

My son was the same age when he decided that he hated the attention that all the presents brought. I was busy with the food, drinks, chairs, other kids, family, blah, blah, blah (what is it that husbands do at parties again?) - I never noticed that he was squirreling the things into his room and opening them in secret. He had opened over half of them before he was caught. Luckily, it was "just" his family and not his friends party. My father-in-law was pretty upset, but he's gotten over it. We told him that he didn't have to get him anything in future. (he has though) We told his friends not to bring anything but themselves. They had a great time. We're about 2 years into knowing that he has Asperger's and my family still tells me that he's just a geek (geek is good in my family, not an insult) and that's why he doesn't fit in at school. We also parent all wrong, if we'd just do things differently, he'd fit in better. You know your kids and you know what's best for them. Take what anyone says with a grain of salt.

Katherine - posted on 04/20/2012

How rude. I would just ignore her even though it hurts. She is set in her ways. I would also tell her that she doesn't have to come to the parties if she feels that way. I have NO problem telling anyone in my family things like this. I'm not delicate about anything especially when it comes to my kids.



So that's my advice.....she can take it or leave it.