Danielle - posted on 07/17/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
my husband and i have full custody of our 5 year old son from his previous marriage.(we've also got 3 other children)but i've been in andrew's life since he was 2 1/2 and i've noticed things over these 2 1/2 years that put up a red flag.when we have to leave from somewhere like his grandparents,his mom's,church,walmart,really just about anywhere,he flips out,screaming and crying.if we're riding in the car with the windows down or the music is up a little (not loud to any of our other children) or there are more than 2-3 children playing he covers his ears.he always says he's itchy and always scratching.he's been hitting other children alot lately.he also has this deal where he is "scared" of going to bed,or going to the bathroom alone or when i ask him to do something he either says "i'm scared" or "i don't know how" or "i can't" to EVERYTHING!he's an extremely picky eater,will only eat mac and cheese,pb & j,bologna and cheese sandwiches,hamburger,cereal,that's about it.if i try to make him try something else,he goes into this hysterical fit.we also have a problem getting him to go to sleep at a decent time,i put him to bed at 9:30 but he doesn't fall asleep til about 3 am,then when it's time to get up and get ready,it's always a fight with crying, whining,i tell him to get dressed and he says "i can't" or just collapses in the floor and refuses. i see all of these signs and have talked to the pediatrician and they referred me to a specialist and the specialist is sending me a packet to fill out.she said if they see the need then they will send the packet to his school and have him tested.now this is my problem,my husband works from 2 pm to 12-5am just depends on when the work is done.also my son goes to his mom every other weekend.needless to say my husband doesn't get very much time with him and see all these things,plus he isn't educated on autism.i don't know how to tell him without him flipping out and thinking i'm calling andrew stupid or something.please help me!!!!!