Paulette - posted on 01/24/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
We have lived in the same house for the past 10 years and have accumulated a lot of things. Every room particularly the kids is jammed packed with crates of toys. We are going to sell the house and move to a new house we are building but we really need to declutter so we started while the kids were asleep going through the toys and getting rid of broken things or stuff they just don't play with much. I knew this would be traumatic for my 2 boys with an ASD as I have tried on many occasions to get rid of things and they become hysterical hence the reason why I have never been able to bring myself to throw anything way since they were babies. My husband insisted that it must be done but of course if was exactly as I had predicted and they have both been having meltdowns this morning for the last 2 hours. Of course I have tried explaining why but they won't listen. I just don't know what to do, every other mum I know raves about how it feels so good when they clean up and the kids even help, but for me I just feel like crying and the kids are just traumatised. I guess I could just stick to my guns and eventually they will calm down but what I am worried about is they will never accept it, agree with it or forget it and will blame us forever!!! What should I do???