Becky - posted on 07/18/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )
My 3 1/2 year old son has been diagnosed PDD-NOS Atypical Autistic. After a year and a half of intensive therapy my son finally was diagnosed and was starting to make progress until he aged out of the state funded program. He was then sent to preschool by our school district. He is suppossed to be in a class that helps him with his specific needs, instead there are only 3 children out of 14 in his class that have special "attributes". He started regressing immediately even though we have been doing therapy at home. His speech is the only thing that is still continuing to develop. It is now summer and he is home with relatives during the day until I get home from work. Everyone works with him on specific therapies and even keeps him on a pretty good schedule. What's my desperate plea for help you may ask? When he is at home with me or my husband he is out of control. He hits, slaps, kicks, spits, screams, and whatever else you can think of, almost the entire time until bed time. He does play some with his cars and trains but as soon as something rolls a way he doesn't like or comes out of order he starts back into the fits and temper tantrums. He does not act this way when my mother watches him, he sort of acts out when my aunt watches him, but as soon as I walk in the door he turns into the most strong willed and difficult child you have ever seen. His issues over come him and I guess he finally feels like he can let loose and be himself. I am consistent with his discipline and with routines. He fights me on everything. He tortures the poor dog (thank god he is tolerant) and when I correct him he hits me or spits at me. I will put him in time out and he will scream. When he comes out he then hits me again, I repeat and so does he. I talked with several therapists and no one has been able to help. I have even resulted to spanking (yes I know I shouldn't because it reinforces the hitting thing) but nothing else had worked so I thought I would try it. That didn't work either. He simply laughed at me turned his bottom toward me and said again momma - like he enjoyed it. He doesn't really feel the pain the same as you and I so he doesn't understand that hitting and kicking hurts. I have tried ABA and not much help their either. Since he is now talking more (which I wouldn't trade for the world) he tells me don't tell me no or don't tell me to do________(fill in the blank). If I tell him not to do something or redirect him he looks at me and says I will do it and then DOES IT! We spend a lot of time together and he gets my undivided attention. He goes into bouts of screaming and temper tantrums for almost no reason at all. I know most of his triggers and things had really started to look up with his behavior when he was in the state funded therapy program. Since that has stopped the behavioral issues has greatly increased and I don't know what else to do to stop them. I have extreme patience with him, but lately I am becoming just completely overwhelmed. I have been in tears many days and just don'y know where to turn. Please any suggestions would be appreciative.