How can I stop my autistic son's constant screaming?

Tara - posted on 10/09/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 year old son with mild to moderate autism and he has very little language skills. Lately it seems like he yells or screams almost all the time. If we look at him, try to feed him, touch him, dress him, talk to him... at least half of the time he screams really loud. It is stressful and exhausting and we can't communicate effectively with him to try to help him! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as we are not sure what to do and we are all feeling overwhelmed. Thank you!

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Erin - posted on 10/11/2011

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I have taught children with ASD for the past 7 years. Some suggestions for you are using visuals with him and/or teaching him some basic signs (ASL). Also, if he has some sensory issues, something may be occurring which is causing him to scream. A suggestion would be to keep some data about what happened before the screaming occurred and when/where it occurred. You might see a pattern. Also, what did you or someone else do while the behavior occurred. Behaviors occur for 2 reasons, to get/obtain something or to escape/avoid something. If you are giving him attention for it he might be screaming to obtain attention, so a replacement behavior should be taught (example: he can tap your leg if he needs you instead of screaming). If the screaming is to avoid something, you can play detective and see what it is that causes him to scream. Hope some of this helps!

Enas - posted on 09/13/2013

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my son is 4 years old and he is autistic
he screams in 4 situations
1- he is happy or excited because he doesn't know how to express joy
2- when he wants my attention
3- when he wants to go toilet
4- when he is bored

it is really very stressful but here what i do in each situation
1- i just jump with him with a big smile and saying heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh in a moderate voice to teach him that he can express with saying something and lower voice
2- i dont give him attention unless he stopped screaming because he can get my attention by other ways so i just wait until he uses them then give him a big smile and hug and respond quickly when he comes calls me or take my hand to go somewhere
3- i just take him to toilet with saying "i want toilet"
4- i get him a toy that has sounds and he really like and show it to him while i make my face looks excited to get his attention.

sometimes i am stressed and cannot do any of above so i go to my room and lock the door to keep away and when i do this he comes looking for me but doesn't make him stop screaming

Katherine - posted on 10/09/2011

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Have you tried ABA or RDI? What about ASL?


ABA=Applied behavior analysis
RDI=Relationship Development Intervention

Lana - posted on 10/11/2011

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hi if your sons language skills are limited one thing the preschool does that you might not do at home that you might try is the use of visual aids so he can tell/show you how he is feeling but they can also be used for you to tell/show him what you want him to do. I have just started using them myself for my 3yo with ASD

Saint - posted on 08/14/2012

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My 3 soon to be 4 year old son screams constantly, and even some times it seems on purpose, but most times i see that it is something that he simply cant help and would stop if he could. As a young single mother, raising a child with Autism leaves me feeling absoultely out numbered. And at times i feel like im going to lose it. Everything, every activity or event or errand or task is just so freaking stressful. And he's so smart,he speaks spanish, adds, subtracts, READS,plays solitaire, spades, a junior computer wiz,and his memory is amazing, but his reaction when things dont go right or excite him is him screaming at the tip top of his lungs. HELP!!

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Brenda - posted on 06/18/2014

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My next door neighbor's child appears to be autistic. He is constantly vocalizing - usually contentedly, or apparently so, but for several hours each day he screams. He appears to be about 3. We don't know the neighbors, other than to say hello.

I'd like them to know that we sympathize with their situation. Thought I'd ask moms out there with a similar problem for their advice. Is there anything I can do or say that would be helpful? I'm very reluctant to speak with them because I don't want to invade their privacy or make them uncomfortable.

Kristeen - posted on 02/28/2014

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I have a three year old does all the same stuff to the point I'm fed up he doesn't sleep either he wakes up and screams so everyone in house has to get up. I have tried sign it helps but not with his crying. Me and my mother in law together can not calm him. He screams and doesn't stop. Hours on end. It's terrible! You try to talk to him, he gets worse you let him go, don't count on quiet for a few hours. I don't understand. I have had ppl evaluate him several times nobody knows

Kathy - posted on 09/14/2013

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I have a 4 almost 5 year old who screams when he's upset, loud like were killing him screaming. I'm at my wits end .I can't get him on the school bus, he hits, bites ,scratches and unbuckles himself, jayce is very well spoken and has great verbal skills but nothing stops the screaming.

Marie - posted on 06/09/2013

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My son (7yo) has been screaming for about 2 hours... I cried, hugged him, sang to him so many things... I calmed myself down by praying... I just hope that God gives me a clue! I am doing so much to the point that I quit my job, moved to a different country and now I got the opportunity to help others by opening my own therapy center. In the meantime I have to deal with no having a nanny because she left without notice complicating things even more. I am dealing with recruiting for the center and trying to keep my current job at the same time. Today I took off for that reason (not having someone trustworthy to care for my son and my daughters) It is a very difficult situation. I just hope that I can slow down time so I can help him. I see that the older you get the worse it gets for everyone and for people with special needs is even more difficult. I'm tired of staying strong but I have no other choice. I just need to take it day by day if I want to go on. I still have hope that one day my son will speak and be ok. Education and Information are important factors. Having a support group and the right team for a family is also extremely important. Having faith and patience helps. I try to follow this advice but some days are easier than others.. Today has been very difficult...

Tara - posted on 10/10/2011

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Hi Katherine, we are on wait lists for ABA and IBI programs but the wait is long. We have our son part time in a pre-school for children with special needs and he recieves a bit of speech therapy and occupational therapy there. We have a private speech therapist that comes once a week and a respite worker that knows ABA that comes once a week as well. My husband and I have also taken the Hanen - More than Words course and try to use that as well. It just seems like we can't get rid of the screaming. He doesn't scream very much at all when he's in pre-school. Thank you for the suggestions, I have never heard of RDI before but we will look in to it! Thank you so much!

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