HOW DO MOMS DO IT WITH A CHILD WITH AUSTIM

CRYSTAL - posted on 05/16/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I HAVE A 21/2 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WITH AUSTIM AND A 5 YEAR OLD THAT IS FINE HOW DO I MANAGE BOTH WITH OUT HAVING ONE BE UPSET.

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Jennifer - posted on 05/16/2009

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In my opinion it is ok if your children get upset. Life does not go your way all the time. Even your child with autism needs to learn that they can't always have their way.

Relationships are all about give and take. This is a good opportunity for them to learn these skills.

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Judy - posted on 05/20/2009

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you just have to take one day at a time they are both differant and both have differant needs and give them lots oflove

CRYSTAL - posted on 05/19/2009

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i want to thank everyone for there words that they said it helped out a lot thank you all so much.

Toni - posted on 05/18/2009

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hi crystal. i have a three yr old with autism and a one yr old who is fine. i feel like my one yr old thinks she takes a back seat when it comes to her older brother but i just have to treat them both the same especially with the boundaries and rules that i set. i sometimes feel like they get treated differently but i no they dont. my daughter does miss out on a lot of things that she likes like swimming because my son does not like the water and we do not go that often but somtimes i think when they are a little older you can explain that not all children like the same things. i no that it is very difficult being pulled in two different directions but im sure that you wil be fine. i think that in life childeren have to see the not everything they want to do or dont want to do is going to be ok. like they say you can not please everyone in life although it is hard cos they are your childeren and you dont want to see either upset.

Sandra - posted on 05/17/2009

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just by taking one day at a time.. I care for a 6 year old boy with Autism and his sister who is 7 years and fine. the other sibling has accepted his differences with out too many problems and they generally get along fine, with the odd upset. It helps to keep a strict routineand we have also provided a bolt hole for our girl to go to if she wants time away from him.

Anne - posted on 05/17/2009

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I have 7 kids 2 are autistic. One is agressive the other is inward meltdowns. We have the same expectations for them as the others. (6 out of 7 have ADD/ADHD. The child without either is bipolar) So we have behavioral expectations that they are all expected to adhear to. Having autism does not give you a liscense to be a brat, to disrespect others, and not be accountable for actions. It may only take them longer to learn this then so called "normal" kids. Be consistant! That is the number one thing autistic kids need. They need to know where their line is drawn in the sand that cannot cross. Good Luck

Bonita - posted on 05/16/2009

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Hi I think I am lucky I have a 5 year old that is Autistic a high functioning one at that and a 2 1/2 year old that is fine because my oldest is about at the same level as the younger one I am able to treat them very simular and I find a very strict routine has helped settle both the boys also I don't think there is anything wrong with upset children as it teaches them how to deal with different situations.

Shonta - posted on 05/16/2009

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I have a 9yr who is high functioning. She is our only child and we do not plan to have any more. I honestly do not know how people do it with more than one child,much less a child with special needs. I guess you have to learn what works for your and your family.

Becky - posted on 05/16/2009

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I have a now average 9 yr old, and a 7 yr old autisic child, She was diagnosed at 3, and it was hard at first for the older brother to understand why something where ok for her and not him. I will not lie to you about the fact that the older sibling WILL feel underappreciated, and like things are sometimes unfair. The best thing that you can do is explain things to them as fully as possible so they understand that the younger child has a problem and THAT is why you behave differently toward them... I also make it a point to spend a little extra time with the older child to make him feel more appreciated. I actually made his bedtime one hour after the younger one so I could spend 1 hour a day just us two. I hope this helped, the best way is to just explain in child terms that the young child has a problem..... good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 05/16/2009

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In my opinion it is ok if your children get upset. Life does not go your way all the time. Even your child with autism needs to learn that they can't always have their way.

Relationships are all about give and take. This is a good opportunity for them to learn these skills.

Jennifer - posted on 05/16/2009

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In my opinion it is ok if your children get upset. Life does not go your way all the time. Even your child with autism needs to learn that they can't always have their way.

Relationships are all about give and take. This is a good opportunity for them to learn these skills.

Jennifer - posted on 05/16/2009

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In my opinion it is ok if your children get upset. Life does not go your way all the time. Even your child with autism needs to learn that they can't always have their way.

Relationships are all about give and take. This is a good opportunity for them to learn these skills.

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