How to make my 4 years old autistic son follow instruction?

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De is non-verbal. Only able to babble or speak one word. Just diagnosed lately to be in the spectrum disorder. I'm sad to see his high regression more than his little improvement after 8th sessions of speech therapy. ; (

He just his kindie life since May and we have changed him to the 2nd kindie since July. My husband and I put him to join the mainstream students coz we want him to learn to socialise. But, now it's closed to 2 months at this new kindie, he seems to give same problems as the previous one, i.e. start disturbing other children, fussy in food and not really listen to instruction. I'm quite sickening with him and really tired thinking ways to train him up.

Anybody has any idea how to make my boy to follow teacher's instruction?

I don't hope him to be dismissed from this new kindie. It's really hard to get one to accept him.

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Sarada - posted on 03/11/2014

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my son is 4 years old talks alot and talks very maturedly but he is not following the instructions of the teacher or my maid or some times by parents also.... like he will not repeate the rhymes or not follow the actions what teacher says... how to over come the same

Catherine - posted on 09/07/2009

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Just have alot of paitence and it takes alot of repitition. That is still to this day what I have to do with my Makayla and she is 7 gona be eight this December. Also pray real hard.

Lisa - posted on 09/07/2009

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I completely agree with Birgit, he needs to be in a structured environment where there are teachers that know how work successfuly with children that have ASD. Please don't become frustrated with your son, he is working within his developmental paramenters...

G. Ivy - posted on 09/07/2009

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A picture exchange communication system (PECS) can greatly help to get him to communicate. He may also need a visual schedule. AJ used it for about one mos. before he started to understand the structure. As for the class environment, a smaller classroom and teachers who know how to teach a child with Autism is what's need best. Try looking in your school district and see what programs are aval. Also see if your state has a birth to three/ birth to five group. I understand your frustration with his behavior but remember its hard for him too. It's not easy trying to follow the pack when they can't understand you. Also try putting things in to a song. I find that AJ listens better when I put things into a song and game.

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You need to understand that your son will not magically absorb social skills or language by being integrated in a neuro-typical environment. I assume you are talking about a pre-school or daycare setting when referring to "kindie". He will need to be taught how to socialize, among other things. I would strongly suggest that you contact your local public elementary school. The public school has a program specifically designed for children with delays. In the meantime understand that your son is not behaving badly because of willfullness. He is trying to communicate the only way he can and knows how to: by being disruptive. Since he does not talk, he does not know how else to make himself "heard". A picture exchange communication system (PECS) can greatly help to get him to communicate. He may also need a visual schedule. Also, remember that ASD is a developmental delay. So while his chronological age may be 4, his developmental age is probaly closer to that of a 2 or 3 year old child. A more structured environment with a much smaller classroom and teachers who know how to teach a child with Autism is really what he needs right now! I completely understand your frustration with the lack of progress, his behavior, etc. But try to remember that he physically cannot help but be this way...

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