Marissa - posted on 12/31/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
My 5 year old has been not formally diagnosed but we've had 3 different doctors feel that he had Aspergers. I used to teach special education and my speciality was autism. I didn't work with kids with Asperger's, though. I worked mainly with kids similar to my 3 year old who was formally diagnosed with PDD_NOS, a 16p11.2 duplication, and a few other things.
At any rate, I'm at a loss with what to do with my 5 year old. He's becoming so oppositional lately, screaming, tantruming, argueing, etc. For example, this morning he was fignting with his twin brother and became violent but hitting, etc. I sent him upstairs to his room more because I needed the time-out from him and I had tried counting, reminding, and modeling behaviors prior to this. None of them worked and this happened to be the last straw kind of deal. I turned my back to talk to my husband and he snuck down the stairs. The kids were drawing dragons and M walked over to his brother's paper, grabbed it, and crumpled it up then laughed as J cried.
He's having troubles with toileting. He's not gone poop on his own for a year and a half. We're going to a GI about it and now we've got a few more things we have to do this weekend as he's now gone 7 days without going to the bathroom. This is with giving him miralax once a day and a monthly asssist with purging everything. He's now not able to go pee on his own and we are getting a bladder ultrasound next week to see if there's anything structurally going on but they think it's all related.
I've tried talking to him, modeling behaviors, pulling him and a brother together to practicing how to do things.role playing, timeouts, and nothing seems to be working. We have a friend with a 9 year old with Aspergers and she said that M is similar to her son with a lot of what M is doing right now. We're seeing a new developmental pediatrician in a week and a half and are hopeing to get some help but I can't wait that long on this behavior. We've seen someone for almost a year and a half with him and we were no closer last appoitment than we were on our first appoitment to him giving any suggestions. In fact, his suggestion was to spank him everytime he did something wrong. Obviously I'm not doing that.