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i am at a loss with 2 toddlers 1 has autism?

Sabrina - posted on 02/04/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my 3 yr old son has a strong possability of being autistic and i have no idea how to inform myself more on the issue i do not want to single him out and make him feel like he is not normal he has an older brother who is 4 and i want to boost my lil mans confidence and work with him but i don't know what would be the best way or books to start with to be better pre-paired..he also had to have open heart surgery when he was 17 months he had a severe case of Aortic coarctation..he has recovered from that and doing well aside from his speech and communication he completely melts down if he see's you cut his food and he spends 20 minutes trying to put his food together and if you give him soup or chilli he will sit and seperate everything into piles and eat one certain pile at a time he has a hard time sleeping somewhere new he must sleep in his bed or his carseat i do not know how to correct him or what punishments are right for him becouse he does not seem to respond to anything i do i need help

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Kim - posted on 03/02/2012

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I have 2 1/2 year old twins, one of which is in therapy for autism. It is hard when one is non verbal and behind, the other doesn't understand. His twin treats him like he is her little brother instead of the same age. There is still a bond, just not a social bond. I suggest getting him behavior and language therapy (we are learning different types of non verbal communication) and also realize that you have to treat him differently, it is just a fact. They don't follow the regular flow of things so you have to adapt and change with them. I have found that even though it is frustrating, repetition is more effective than punishment. If he reaches for something he can't have, we tell him no and push his hand down, but we have to do that 30, 40 and sometimes 50 times before he will stop. It's just he nature of his condition. Don't forget that family therapy and mommy therapy are important too!

Courtney - posted on 02/04/2012

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Hello my name is Courtney and i have a 5and half year old boy with PDD - NOS he is non verbal and has epilepsy/seizures. My opinion read lots of books if you haven't already.A really good book is The Every Day Advocate by Areva Martin big big help. I will keep you in my prayers hang in there and stay strong, as for the treating them differently I wouldnt but you should know your oldest one cant help what he does and has hard time understanding things but they can learn from each other. Also my son went to a ABA Therapist she was actually his teacher for Behavior a big difference in him.I am still learning too and its hard i only have one son and can imagine your stress.Hang in there.

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