I'm having a hard time potty training my son.

Andrene - posted on 08/01/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My son is 6 years old and refuses to poop in the potty. He will urinate with no problem but wont make number 2 in the potty. Any suggestions. I'm desperate and frustrated.

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Shannon - posted on 08/02/2011

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Okay this may sound a little gross but have you tried putting down a layer or two of toilet paper inside the toilet covering the water? Quite a few kids are afraid of the splash when the poop hits, the paper muffles the sound and stops and water splash coming up. It is still the only way I can get my autistic daughter to go poop on the potty, and she's been doing it that way for over a year.

Antonietta - posted on 08/02/2011

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where does he poo? in a diaper? undies? does he have a routine as to when he poos? do u think hes scared? if so have u tried a potty seat? sorry all the questions there could be so many reasons he doesnt want. what happens if u leave him butt naked? if u havent tried it do it. this way u can see and understand where he would do it. i would strip my son naked and put him in the toilet and tell him u do caca here u tell mommmy when ur all done. most of the tie he did it on the bathroom floor so we would pick it up put it in teh toiletand say bye to it lol i knwo silly but it worked. now he understands it needs to be done in teh toilet so he goes there to do it doesnt always get it in the toilet bowl but we r pne step closer. have u tried giving him rewards? that could work. i hope any of this helps stay strong and dont get discouraged it will come

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Ruth - posted on 08/15/2011

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Because Nicholas has Odd , his issues are a control issue and not going out of deviance. Nicholas is one of my four boys so I have already Portugal trained 3 boys

Ruth - posted on 08/14/2011

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My 4 year old son has Autism ( ODD) and we are also still having a problem with my son still soiling his under wear . Sometimes it is out of deviance , because i have put him in the naughty seat or not ben able to stay outside .
All of the Specialiststhat i have seen have assurd me that this is normal . Whether it is out frustration , or wanting to defy the rules , it may be the only thing he can have control over . I did stop using the pull ups , because it mimics wearing a diaper , We wear big boy underwear during the day , and to preschool ( we do have accidents and have to be prepared with litter baggies and clean clothes ) at night time we wear night time pullups and underwear . I wouldnt be so concerned yet , you may want to discuss it with your peditrician or your sons therapist they may have some direct advise. I have a book named The Autistic Child and it is great advise for the challenges we face good luck and hang in there!

Lori - posted on 08/14/2011

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I am happy to hear your son will potty in toilet- many kids will not. I work in the elementary school and see so many sweet kids that do not potty in toilet, but if they do potty at school, they seem to not want to do poo-poo at school- typically. Why? Not sure. Best luck to you and your precious boy,

Stacy - posted on 08/14/2011

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Time is the only answer, and don't push it, pardon the pun. All you can do is offer a reward. Something that is so worth it...and don't give it up until you get results. Try to make it a game. If he wears diapers, and he poops in the diaper, take the poop out (not with your hand hopefully) and show him where it really belongs... in the toilet, then let him flush, or he might be afraid of the noise perhaps? so then don't flush with him around... Good luck. My son is 6- still doesn't wipe so great so he just gets his shower/bath right after usually. When he has to poop at school, life is gonna get interesting. Yup. I feel ya, it is frustrating. Have a glass of wine.

Andrene - posted on 08/08/2011

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You all have been so supportive. Thank you. it's good to know that someone else understands.Thank you all

Andrene - posted on 08/08/2011

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thank you. I appreciate your input. It is so frustrating trying to get him to go.

Andrene - posted on 08/08/2011

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I haven't tried that yet. I guess when I get him to actually let it out then I can start putting the tissue down.

Andrene - posted on 08/08/2011

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He poos in pullup and boxers. I haven't tried letting him go naked yet. I'm definitely going to try it. Thanks so much for your suggestions.

Heather - posted on 08/04/2011

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Hi Andrene,

My son was the same, he would not poop on the potty. It was recommended to me to let him pretend he was "hiding" in the bathroom (he would "hide" in a corner of his room in a diaper and poop and then ask me to change him) on the toilet and poop. Believe it or not, I tried it (after trying EVERYTHING) and it worked!!! He has been fully trained since that day. Good luck! All the best! :) Heather

Brandy - posted on 08/04/2011

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Ok this is going to sound gross and well it pretty much is but have u seen what his mess looks like? Is it hard like a rock or is it soft? I only asked because my son had that problem. If its just a little mess comming out at a time then its more like his body pushing it out. My sons dr said that he needed stool softeners to help. But he might be holding it in because it hurts so bad to go. I had to put diapers on him till he understood and could feel his body more. Most insurances with a rx will cover diapers. It saves from having to clean up undies and him being teased. My son is now 10 and still has accidents but he is more aware of it. Its a mater of getting him to just sit on the potty and telling him that he cant get up till he gives me a mess. He will still to this day cry I dont want to sit down but he always does and gives me a mess about 5 min later and is fine for a few days.

Melissa - posted on 08/03/2011

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Quite a few kids are afraid of the splash when the poop hits, the paper muffles the sound and stops and water splash coming up.

Funny you should say this. My son who has done number 2 on the potty for quite awhile, just started freaking out about the splash. so he looks like a woman in a publlic bathroom, hovering over the bowl, instead of sitting on it, so the splash cant get him. I dont know why i didnt think of putting the paper down. just worried that if he does it himself, half the roll will end up in there and he will clog and overflow the toilet. not looking forward to that cleanup. lol

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