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I dont have any kids with autism, and Im not a doctor, nor do I plan to be. But I can offer advice to anyone who is willing to take it from someone who doesnt know everything medical, but I have lived it. I worked in a daycare for 2 1/2 years. We had a boy with autism that was very hard to work with in the beginning. My boss and I took class after class. I ALMOST, lol, completed my CDA classes (child development associate). We helped to potty train him, and got him to "use his words". We used sensory toys and kept the same schedule for stability. We had therapists come in a work with him as well as educate us on what to do and how to help him. My fiances niece is autistic, and no disrespect, I dont want this to come off the wrong way, but I am very interested in autism. I love finding ways to help my fiances niece in any way that I can, using the skills I learned from my job, and from looking things up online. I think I could give people a little bit of insight on what to expect, if you havent gone through it for long. Anyone who needs advice, or just wants to share stories, I would be more than happy to talk.

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Cindy, I read your last message about your son not acting like this before the diagnosis. In every case Ive heard of, thats common. They learn to sit up, crawl, stand, walk, talk, eat with utensils, and do most of everything on time. The milestones are in place and everything is perfect and "normal". Thats because most diagnosis' are made after 18 months. You may not be able to notice that somethings "wrong". Then they start to lose words, which means exactly what it sounds like. They stop saying mom, or ball, or simple words that they used everyday. They stop pointing at things to tell you what they want. Of course frustration sets in because now they dont have a way of communicating with you. My advice for the frustration is this...although some may not agree. Teach him sign language. Some people, including me to an extent, think that sign language is a way of never teaching them to use their words. Could be true. But for the time being, wouldnt you want him to communicate in SOME way until he does start to talk again? I think he would be alot less stressed and relaxed if he could communicate better. We taught Ryan sign language and he done great. Just use the simple words. Dont learn every sign. This way, hes not using sign for everything to express himself. He'll have to eventually use his words. But if you sign eat, more, please, thank you, love you...Things will be sssooo much calmer because hes found a way to express himself, even if its just a few words. Thats less he has to be stressed about. Just think about it. Let me know if it works for him! Good luck!

Cindy - posted on 03/03/2009

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Thanks for your reply. I know I'm probably just grasping at straws. He wasn't this way before the diagnosis was made though. I think even though I wanted to treat him the same as I always did I let the discipline slip a little and I know that it was a big mistake. I am really glad that you took the interest to answer.

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Hi Cindy. Im honestly not really sure what to do on this one. Im sorry. Now I feel like I really dont know what Im talking about. Lol. I would just say to let it go. I know that sounds really simple, and dumb, because you want him to have that socialness. But from what Ive seen, children with autism tend to stay to themselves anyways. I know it hurts other kids' feelings because they dont understand, but I dont know of any way to teach them how to play with others. Its just a natural thing for them to play by themselves. If I think back hard enough, I may be able to think of ways we interacted Ryan, the autistic boy from daycare, with other kids. It wasnt easy, I remember that much, but Im sure we found some ways. I will let you know. Im sorry I cant be more help. Thanks for asking though.

Cindy - posted on 03/03/2009

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Hi, I really hope you can help me. My son is 6 years old and was diagnosed with "high functioning autism" last year. He doesn't get along with his three year old sister and is always fighting with her when she wants to play with him. It really breaks my heart, because you can see it hurts her feelings. However I don't want to fight with him because I'm afraid it will only push him away from him further. Hopefully you cangive me tips on what to do because I'm so tired of the contant fighting.

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