[deleted account] ( 10 moms have responded )
My son is 13 and recently diagnosed PDD-NOS. Also diagnosed at age 5 with ADHD. I have never before had an IEP or any services for him. I am so freaking out. Do you all have any suggestions on what services I should ask for? The only thing the school is offering is a social skills class with the goal of 1-2 minutes per day of one on one peer contact. Its a joke really. My son is and has been failing ALL his classes since beginning of last year. He is finishing 7th grade and I don't think he is ready to go to 8th grade and high school! The school's own findings say he struggles with executive functioning - anything that requires pencil to paper. He is very dependent on me to help him manage his daily life. For example, he can not even dress himself appropriately or remember to take his back pack with him to school if I am not there to ask and/or remind him. Some think this is laziness but he is very driven and tries very hard. He finds the simplest of daily tasks to be complicated. He is a smart boy and if given a test, he can answer questions but he just can't produce written work, get it turned in, with a name on it, to the right teacher. Middle school has been just awful for him and the depression and anxiety are affecting his health. He's left school with migraines, chest pains, nausea, and he has diarrhea every day. Bullies are also a daily problem. He has no friends - not a single one. I'm feeling really helpless and the school, unfortunately, is poised to fight. I don't want to ask for Rolls Royce services if he doesn't need them. I understand the school has limited funds. Some doctors have suggested that I ask for an aide to shadow him at school but I'm worried that will create further social difficulties, dependence on others when he needs to learn independence, and will cost the school a fortune. He is very high functioning in the autism spectrum but not doing well at all in school. Any suggestions are very much appreciated. IEP meeting is tomorrow morning!