Melissa - posted on 01/10/2010 ( 40 moms have responded )
UPDATE (September 8th, 2015)
My daughter is still doing great. She is in 1st grade now and excelling in all areas (including social). I created a facebook group (Concerned parents - Melissa) where I talk about my story and the strategies I used with my daughter (look under ''Files''). I feel that many of you could benefit from hearing each others stories. Many of you have valuable information to share with each other. I get dozens of emails every month, and I can no longer answer every email. Please join the facebook group for more info...Thanks. Here is the link : https://www.facebook.com/groups/948103018561175/
UPDATE (March 9th, 2012)
I felt it was important to leave an update. My daughter is almost 3 years old now, and is very social, no delays what so ever. When I was worried about my daughter, I did do ALOT of research on the topic, and found different strategies I could use to work on improving her eye-contact, social skills...if anyone is interested in finding out more about these techniques, you can send me an e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org
I know how this can be stressful and make a parent feel powerless, and I want to help if I can...
UPDATE (january 12th, 2010)
Hi everyone, I decided to edit my inital question to provide some update on my situation in case anyone else wants to share...
Today I consulted a psychologist who specializes in autism. After discussing my daughter's behavior/traits, he feels autism is unlikely. Because my daughter is not showing other signs of autism, and is very interested in her environment. Since she is constantly looking at everything around her, turning her head to look at something different every 5-10 seconds, and she isn't focused on anything (including my face !) for very long, he feels she is probably easily distracted and thinks she may have attention difficulties (ex. attention deficit disorder). Of course, no diagnosis was made, but I will keep an eye on her development and be sure to consult more professionals.
I'm am still intersted in any info. that you think could be helpful...
ORIGINAL QUESTION :
I have some difficulty getting my 7 month old daughter to make eye contact when I say her name. Some days she will respond 50% of the time, sometimes 25%. She smiles often, and doesn't seem to have any other problems, no developpemental delays...
I find I usually have to "work" for her attention. I will repeat her name, sing to her, snap my fingers...after doing these things, she usually looks at me, and if i'm smiling, she usually smiles back.
She loves to look at everything around her, the dog, the cat, her toys, if someone walks by, if there is a noise she turns her head. If I leave and come back then say her name, she'll usually look at me and smile. She likes to be held.
Because I worry about autism (my cousin was diagnosed with severe autism), I do try to get her to make eye contact ALOT. Maybe I'm asking/expecting too much from a 7 month old baby. If I try to get her attention 5 times in 5 minutes, she might make eye contact 2 or 3 times out of the 5. But, for the other 2-3 times where she practically refuses to look at me unless I really try, I really worry. Maybe she's just sick of me trying to get her attention so much !!! :-)
I know this is very limited information and I'm not seeking diagnosis from this community, I intend on bringing her to see a pediatrician, but I am interested in your opinion.
I know that no (or lack of) eye contact may be a sign of autism, but should a 7 month old respond and make eye contact to their name being said 90% of the time, 50% of the time, 25% of the time?
Please share your thoughts and your personal experience...
Thank you !