My autistic 6 year old boy hits kids in school

Bellachicca20 - posted on 10/03/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm having a hard time with my autistic child hitting kids at school constantly..... He's about to get suspended if he does it again.....I have tried everything known to man far as disciplining him. Nothing bothers him. Ive taken movie and popcorn nights away, tablet time, sent him to bed early , made him write sentences but all that hasn't been effective. At the time he understands what he did was wrong but goes to school and it happens again! Please anybody....is there something I'm not doing that I need to be doing? I feel like such a failure being a single mother

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Myslys93 - posted on 05/28/2017

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I have Aspergers, and most likely understand what he's going through. When I was little, I resorted to biting other students who were messing with me. I was the one who got my butt blistered because I didn't understand that I was supposed to tell my mother why I hurt them. A lot of the time I was innocent, just trying to defend myself. Before you punish him, try to find out why he did it in the first place. He might be being bullied and defends himself by hurting his attackers, but doesn't understand to tell you. If that's the case, try and prevent him from getting into a situation where he feels the need to defend
Himself. Don't punish him if he was scared enough that he felt that he needed to hurt his attacker. Come to him in a calm and understanding manner. Being angry will make things far more difficult. Ask him his side of it and why he felt like he needed to do it. If his answer's vague, ask other simple question like "Did he touch you first", "Was he making fun of you", etc. Now, there were other times where I hurt another child because I was mad about something else entirely. THAT is when you punish him. Never punish him when you're angry. It will enforce his hurting people when he's mad at them. There are specialized schools that are taught how to handle situations like this. I spent over a decade at K.A.E.C (Knoxville Adaptive Education Center), and I stayed there that long because I wanted to. If all else fails, find a specialized school.

Lorryn - posted on 11/07/2016

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Hi! I'm a behavior consultant at a school for kids with serve autism as I'm sue you know with autism typically comes behaviors. I would advise looking to see if there are any autism services in your area that use Applied behavior analysis (ABA). It's an extremely effective way to reduce behaviors in children with autism!

Chris - posted on 11/02/2016

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My nephew is autistic, he is borned in 1998.
When he was little at school he insulted his mistress, was violent with his buddies. My sister of the out of school and put it in a specialized center.

Alyssa - posted on 10/05/2016

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I agree with the first reply. I can tell you are doing your best and I know it is hard especially when all the responsibility falls on your shoulders. Has he been diagnosed? What kind of communication have you had with the teacher/s regarding this behavior? It seems the school should be set up to help with issues along these lines since there are extenuating circumstances.

Suzie - posted on 10/04/2016

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Not sure that "discipline" is the right way to go with this situation as it sounds like he is having control issues - since he does realize it was wrong. It sounds like he needs more than you can offer. It sounds like he does not have the emotional tools to control his anger - which he may best benefit from a therapist to help you both learn to manage those outbursts. Parent child interaction therapy can be a great asset in situations like this.

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