My Autistic son always wakes up at night What would be a good way to keep him sleepig all night ?

Dorothy - posted on 07/13/2009 ( 65 moms have responded )

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He is on Meds but i hate medicating him. what do most moms do with their autistic child to sleep all night?

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Marianne - posted on 07/17/2009

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I agree with the weighted items. My 12 year old cant sleep unless I am next to him and he digs his legs right in under me. It hurts a lot when he 'digs' so I made him a weighted pillow which he lays over his legs giving him the same feeling of me being there, without the pain for me. he now sleeps all night

Patricia - posted on 02/04/2014

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My grandson has Autism, its the lowest form but he can go to sleep as late as 10:00 pm and will wake up by 1:00 am and doesn't go back to sleep until 4-6 am. we've tried warm baths and warm milk and nothing has worked. Then at times he can go to sleep as early as 8pm and sleep all night. If he sleeps with me he will sleepp all night. But if he sleeps with his mom and dad he doesn't. Will a change in room temperature be a factor?

Catherine - posted on 07/22/2009

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i personaly use a raido very low in my sons room he stays in bed if power goes out he yells mom raido but will stay in bed i use country or clasical music he knows all the words to the songs

Laura - posted on 07/20/2009

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I totally understand Mary. My daughter's diagnosis has changed my life and my family's life in ways I had never imagined. Sleepless nights are a small part of all that is involved with autism. I try my best to stay positive, embrace the good things and to not focus too much on the bad things. I'm so sorry to hear your daughter won't go to sleep every night even after she comes to your bed. There are some natural remedies that help with anxiety. I gave them to my daughter (I believe the website is nature remedies) when she was too young to remember her self management techniques. They come in drops (soothe jr).. 100% natural.

Kimberly - posted on 07/24/2009

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My son is 12 yrs old now and I have to say, I dealt with a lot of flack because he would get out of the house and we always had to keep it locked otherwise when we went potty or turned our backs, thinking he was in his room , he would sneak out and we wouldnt know this for a bit, well we went thru the legal stuff because of it and LOCKING your child in their room is against the law here in Missouri and I have to agree, so with social services involved we started having to share a room with him and locking it after we went to bed from the inside. Needless to say, no monkey business with him being in the same room. We have to sneak to another room, also our pediatrician put him on one benedryl at night to help with the sleep, now he's also on Clondine at night. No side effects and he sleeps all night!

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Melissa R - posted on 12/26/2013

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Hi my three year old nephew has autism and does not talk. He likes weight placed over top of him when hes sleeping and we've been using multiple blankets and pillows to make him comfortable, but now we are thinking about getting him a weighted blanket. Is there a way to find out what weight we should get for him and a place to buy one that isn't expensive. I've looked on amazon and they cost a couple hundred dollars which his dad/my brother can't afford and neither can I. If anyone can help we would really appreciate it. Please email me at f13.1312@hotmail.com subject fight against autism thank you

Rose - posted on 12/05/2013

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Clonidine offense helps with the falling asleep part but we found that adding trash done helps with the sleeping all night part after falling asleep.

Carman - posted on 07/22/2009

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Melatonin would help with the sleeping. I have a 9 yr old with severe ADHD and a newphew with autism and they both take 3mg of melatonin an hour before bed and it does wonders for them. Both my pediatrician and therapist recommend it.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/22/2009

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My son is 13 and has ADHD and Autism. He would wake up all hours of the night and go and eat. We found that giving him a healthy snack before bed and putting a small radio in his room with soft music on keeps him asleep all night.

Kim - posted on 07/22/2009

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My son was recently diagnosed with ASD (ADHD & Bipolar characteristics) and has had sleepless nights in the past. My son is currently taking Concerta & Risperdal which seems to be the right "combination" for him. Hope this helps! God Bless!

Liana - posted on 07/22/2009

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Have you tried melatonin? its found naturally in the system so there's few if any problems in taking it long term. Good luck

Tomarsha - posted on 07/22/2009

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I have a 6 yr old son who is autistic. And believe me i know all about that not sleeping all night. My son had to go through several different meds before we finally got it right. He is on clonidine. Its a blood pressure medicine. It works well on autistic kids with calming them down. Since he's been taking this i have had no problems with him being up all night. Hope this helps

Paris - posted on 07/22/2009

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I had not slept in 5 yrs until we tried Body Balance by Life Force it is ajuice that balances the gut. A lot of Autisic children have digestion problems and when you are uncomfortable you can't sleep. It took about 3 weeks but the change has been unreal. She now sleep throw the night. If you need more info please contact me, it's all natural and I sware by it.

Flo - posted on 07/22/2009

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I DINT MEAN FOR THE CHILD TO READ THE BOOK OUT OF SYNC CHILDI MENT FOR THE ADULT THIS BOOK TURNED MY LIFE AROUND IT HAS MANY WAY TO HELP CALM THESE KIDS

Flo - posted on 07/22/2009

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MY EXPERIANCE WITH SLEEPING MEDS IS THEY GAVE HER WEIRD THOUGHTS I USE TO SIT IN HER ROOM AT NIGHT FOR HOURS HOPING SHE WOULD FALL ASLEEP THE SECOND I LEFT SHE WAS UPONCE I WAS ASLEEP ON THE COUCH AT ABOUT 3AMI LOOKED UPSTAIRS THERE WAS MY LITTLE GIRL COVERED IN MAGIC MARKER POLKA DOTTED FROM HEAD TO TOE MULTICOLERD DOTS NAKED!AS SHE GOT OLDER IT DID WORK TO GIVE IN TO LET HER WATCH TV OR LISTEN TO MUSIC OR TO READ THE BOOK OUT OF SYNC CHILD WAS A BIG HELP I HAVE TRIED MANY MEDS BUT I COULD TELL THEY WERE DAMIGING HER THOUGHT PROCESSES I THINK THE ONLY REAL ANSWERE IS TO EXHSAUST THE LITTLE GUY BEFORE BED FLO

Candice - posted on 07/22/2009

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My kids doctor recommends melatonin. It keeps them sleeping through the night. It's natural, no harsh side effects.

Jyl - posted on 07/22/2009

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Hi Dorothy. Until my son went on Clonidine and Risperdal, I thought I'd never get a night's sleep. As much as I hate to give him meds, you do what is ness. for everyone. Good Luck. PS He LOVES to swim. It really tuckers him out, that or he goes to the Bouncy House place in town for a few hrs. & that does it! (for both him and me!!)

Tomi - posted on 07/22/2009

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We bought our son a memory foam mattress, works great for him, sleeps for about 7-8 hours now. He still has a hard time getting to sleep (takes 1-3 hours) and lately has been taking every pillow in the house and putting them on top of him, so we are going to order a weighted blanket for him next.



You can get great sensory items at www.integrationscatalog.com I've ordered from them often, they have some great tools!



I've also seen the weighted blankets on ebay, have not ordered anything from them, but it's another option.

Tina - posted on 07/21/2009

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My son also was waking up at night. We did meds for him but unfortunately in the morning he would be so tempermental. I just let him now play his DS before saying lights out and I try to keep him active during the day without any naps. Sometimes I end up sleeping next to him but lately he has been doing fine until the early morning hours like 5:30am. Hope this helps a little. As a mom we just have to keep trying until we find that click.

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Tami - posted on 07/21/2009

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Melatonin is a hormonal suppliment and does not have to be used every night. Many DAN doctors recommend it. Also, some doctors recommend Benadryl.

Jeanette - posted on 07/21/2009

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For years, my son was on benedryl just to help him relax and fall asleep. It helped a little--he might take two hours to fall asleep without it and one hour with it. More recently, a counselor suggested Melatonin and I did some research on it (since no doctor suggested it), and it does seem to help people relax, but the recommended dosage is from 3 to 5 milligrams--any higher is potentially harmful (I don't know the type of harm, but I just make sure his dosage is not over the 5 milligrams, and if he was smaller --he is 5 feet 10 now and weighs 170--I would stick to 3 milligrams. Anyway, the Melatonin has worked really well. He no longer complains of insomnia and he is no longer hard to get up in the morning. He goes to bed between 9:30 and 10:00, falls asleep within half an hour, sets his own alarm and gets himself up by 6 a.m.

Sara - posted on 07/21/2009

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My son is 8 years old has Asperger's when he was 4 we took him to Riley's Childrens hospital and they had us give him 3 mg of melatonin (its something that the body makes to help us sleep and our kids don't make enough) he has taken it every night since and sleeps all night. You can find it in the vitamin section of any grocery store. Just make sure you get the 3 mg not the 3mcg.

Christina - posted on 07/21/2009

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I tried melatonin, vitamin D and flaxseed oil- it made a huge difference for my son Dylan! He finally sleeps through the night - minimal waking up and no sensory fits in the middle of the night. I know you probably do this- but strict strict bedtime routine -- and i also give him a quick 10 minute deep pressure massage also! Good Luck!!!

Kim - posted on 07/20/2009

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Oh, and a nature sound/white noise machine and cool temperatures at night have helped a great deal as well!

Kim - posted on 07/20/2009

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It used to take me hours to get my (now 4 year-old) daughter with PDD-NOS/ADHD to sleep. On the advise of her pediatric neurologist, I began giving her 3 mg of melatonin with her evening cocoa. Along with the tryptophan from the warm milk, and a consistent routine at bedtime - it's worked wonders, at least with getting her to sleep. She is still a restless sleeper and will toss and talk quite a bit; I have to admit to continuing to co-sleep with her so that I can intervene quickly when she starts to toss and soothe her before she awakens completely. It's the only way we both get a somewhat contiguous night of sleep :-P

JoAnne - posted on 07/20/2009

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My son was diagnosed with PDD. He slept with a bear for years. I also added a night light. His poor bear has finally been allowed to retire but the night light must stay on! Each child is different so it is a lot of trial and error, especially if you want to avoid medicines.

Paula - posted on 07/20/2009

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I haven't tried meds yet, but blacking out light and a fan on high seems to be working pretty well. (the white noise?)

Marie - posted on 07/20/2009

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hi there my son Ryan has Moderate to Severe Autism and he has never slept well at all, he is on melatonin but we find really things like making sure you have blinds or dark curtains not too many toys in the room so they dont get distracted or a bath n massage and calming down before bed, its trial and error really. but you do ever so well its very hard to cope when you dont get your sleep.

Mary Ann - posted on 07/20/2009

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Laura, my daughter comes into my bed every night too. Most of the time she falls back to sleep, but usually once a week she does not and the night is as described above. I've come to terms with it pretty much.

Laura - posted on 07/20/2009

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There isn't one night that my daughter doesn't wake up around 1am. She gets up and comes to my bed. We cuddle up and she ends up falling asleep again. I have tried supplements and organic tea, but came to realize that unless I plan on medicating her for the rest of her life, it's really not worth it. I have made sure though that she exercises during the day. She and her sister have a night routine that starts with a bath, cereal, brush teeth, read a book and go to bed.

Mary Ann - posted on 07/20/2009

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My daughter just turned 9 and she always has had trouble with waking up in the middle of the night and either eventually falling back asleep after a few hours or is up for the day as early as 2 AM! We have tried everything from melatonin, Clonodine, magnacalm, lavender and Benadryl. Nothing works. Either my husband or I will stay in her room to keep her in her bed so not to disturb the rest of the family. We do not allow her any stimulation including lights, music or books. She must stay in her bed. We have not come up with any other solution. I would love to hear someone who has success with something other than what we have tried.

Karry - posted on 07/20/2009

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my son uses melatonin which I did get from his doctor but you can get it at a pharmacy, because it is helpful for everyone not just autistic kids. On the bottle it shows it as a dietary supplement so if you are going the homepathic way it is used alot. Hope this helps I know my son does well on it.

Nicole - posted on 07/20/2009

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Melatonin... you can buy it at CVS or any other drug store and you do not need a prescription. My son's pedi recommended it because it's not harsh. I cut one of the pills in half and about an hour later Tanner will fall asleep and stay asleep... It was hard because he would go days without sleeping and then sleep straight for 2 days. This should work! :) Oh... and Tanner's isn't on any medications so you might want to ask your dr if it would effect anything. :)

Tia - posted on 07/20/2009

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I'm from Indonesia with autism son. my son always wake up at night but he will sleeping right away after drinking milk. he usually called his daddy to make him a milk. Next month he will be 5years old. im sorry, my english not good enough but i hope it can help you.

Wendy - posted on 07/20/2009

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I have a 13 yr old son with Asperger's and I have found that alot of his sleep issues are based on anxiety. He did not start waking up until he started having problems in school (about 1st grade) The doctor prescribed him medication at 11 and it made him gain about 20 lbs in 2 months (He went from being underweight to over weight and when the doctor said in front of him that he was overweight he took it too seriously and we had a stuggle for several months just to make sure he was eating) Needless to say we stopped the medication and started Melatonin, it does help him and he is aware of it. He will ask for some in the summer when he is having trouble sleeping. I had never thought of using a weighted blanket gut I am sure going to give it a try. Thanks all!

Alisha - posted on 07/19/2009

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for my daughter (Aspbergers/ODD/EBD) i found that a combination of melatonin and a weighted blanket worked wonders. She was taking clonadine and respridal but they caused night terrors so I went a more natural way and she hasd been sleeping wonderfully for months now.

Francie - posted on 07/19/2009

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My 13 year old AS son has also always had trouble sleeping. Melatonin has helped, but I think he is also able to go to sleep easier on days where he has had a fair amount of physical exercise. He plays hockey, and the nights after he has had a game or practice he is able to sleep more quickly. Perhaps engaging your son in some exercise (more than an hour before bed) will help him to burn off some of the energy that keeps him awake.

Kali - posted on 07/19/2009

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My 11 year old has a lot of trouble sleeping. I found music like Enya and nature sounds help to put him to sleep. He also likes to have the tv on to music videos or just the radio some nights. The other thing that I've done with him was to have him take a nice warm bath with lavendar in to to relax him. We also have a nightly routine where I read him a story and he goes right to sleep.

Mary - posted on 07/19/2009

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I had to get out of his room for one and turn off t.v. and lights, he had to have no distractions, it took me a long time to figure this out, he was crying all night so I would lay with him, turn tv on give him his music player, anything so he wouldn't cry for hours and stay awake until finally I realized he didn't want any of these things, only wanted to be left alone so he could go to sleep....lol

Amanda - posted on 07/19/2009

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my 5 year old has asd and adhd , had the same problem we have tried the melitoin help him to sleep but would wake with nightmares, so we stopped it , we stick to routine , minni tramp inside , sensory blanket time , every once in a while when he starts waking aeveral time a night we give him vallergan(not a long term medication) , only 1 maybe 2 doses and he back in routine.

good luck with it i have the brocken sleep its the worst

Nadine - posted on 07/19/2009

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My youngest son has ADHD and it is very hard to get him to go to sleep. I use Melatonion to help him sleep. This is something our body produces and some people don't produce enough. So if you deceide to try this you are just giveing him something his body already makes.



Now my oldest son who ia Aspergers would fall asleep but not stay asleep. He takes 50 mg of Trazadone and this has been a god send.

Val - posted on 07/18/2009

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My autistic son had the same exact problem, His doctor told me to to give him 1mg if melitonin about half hour before bedtime every night and I have never had a issue with him even waking up at all at night. It's been 2 years now. I only had him on it for three months and his body just got use to not waking up during the night. I swear by that stuff. I know many that have used it and every one said that it worked for them or for their child.

Jill - posted on 07/18/2009

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My son is five now and sleeps through the night. He has been a pretty good sleeper since he was about three. I suggest helping him to get out all his energy by going to the park (that's what I do but I live in Ca.) it is not always that easy other parts of the country. Maybe if he is ran hard enough in the day he will sleep better at night. I would stop naps if you haven't already and then put him in bed by sevenish. Also, make his nightly routines consistent. Maybe it will help, I hope so for your sake. It can be exhausting I know.

Michelle - posted on 07/18/2009

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My son is 7 yrs old and has PDD- Asperger's, ADHD, Childhood Benign Epilepsy & OCD. He is on Trileptal, Concerta & Risperdal. He always went to bed on a schedule and slept through the night, but he kicked and moved around a lot. Once he started the Risperdal, he sleeps so much better and does not move around any more. The med. did have to be adjusted once so far since March. He does take it on a schedule everyday. My daughter is Bipolar and she is also on the Risperdal, she is 4 1/2 yrs old. Now before starting the medication she would stay up until whatever hour in the night and then get up by 7 or 8 and go on for the day. Sometimes she would nap and then other times she would not. She would also get up through the night to snack. Now she is on a sleep schedule like her brother. WE are still working on all of her issues out though. Good luck!

Er - posted on 07/18/2009

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Try talking to your pediatrician about starting him on Melatonin. That helps my guy sleep through the night better :) Also, having a schedule helps. We found that allowing him to sleep with a radio on really helps, too. Even though he's a teenager, he has an early bedtime to allow for him to have wind down time and give the time for the Melatonin to work. That has really helped him to feel better rested.

Erika - posted on 07/18/2009

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Hi
My son now 5 yrs old use to have the same problem. I have resolved it by showing him a picture of himself sleeping 30 min b/4 bedtime....then show it againing 15 min and again at 5 min and then i let him hold the pic. I reinforced..."It's time to go to sleep"...I put 30 min of mozart and if he challenges me, I use lavendar incense...it took me a week or repetition and being consistent...but it works! My son is not on any meds. I hope I was of some help.

Brandy - posted on 07/18/2009

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I don't really know myself. I'm still trying to figure it out. My four year old seems to sleep through the night if he doesn't take a nap. My 2 1/2 year old still wakes in the middle of the night, with or without a nap. Both of my boys are autistic and most other moms that I've spoken to have the same problem. Actually, I have a harder time getting my 4 year old to sleep. He just sits in his bed at night and either cries for one of us or he just laughs his head off - about what, I don't know. I think kids with autism or other asd's just have this problem. It seems to be something that most of us just have to get used to. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful. Just wanted you to know that you definately are not alone in this.

Gail - posted on 07/18/2009

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The whole lack of getting to sleep and then staying asleep is something that I have dealt with for 23 years. Unfortunately for me, it does not seem to go away. I have learned to sleep when I can and have adjusted my son's room so when he does wake up, therer is nothing in there that he can hurt himself with or do damage to the room itself. I do lock the door from the outside and this has helped. At least there is no wondering the house in the middle of the night and possibly getting into dangerous things or, heaven forbid, leaving the house.

Céline - posted on 07/17/2009

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My son also is on Clonodine but did not always work, Although he is old enough now to stay in his room and keep busy and quiet....he knows to come wake me up if something is REALLY wrong. When was younger...i did not want to lock is door so i put on a small alarm between the door and door frame. It was battery operated but made a racket when it would go off. He knew the alarm was on there therefore stayed in his room.

Misty - posted on 07/17/2009

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My 3 year old son also has sleep issues. He is on clonidine for this. This is a blood pressure medication, but they use it for the side effects. He has not trouble falling asleep, but he gets up several times a night, so the melatonin didn't work for him.

Karleen - posted on 07/17/2009

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My almost three year old (ASD) uses a weighted blanket and soon so will my 14mth old. I make weighted blankets and vests for local Early Intervention programs and many of the blankets I make are for sleep issues. Goof Luck.

Jennifer - posted on 07/16/2009

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I have a 3 year old that has autism what help him is if i have soft muic on .

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