My autistic son is stealing! HELP ME!

Dee - posted on 10/13/2010 ( 43 moms have responded )

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My son is 7 years old and has been stealing food and other things. He eats me out of house and home in the middle of the night and in the early morning. I've locked up the cupboards but I'd like to think he could stop this so I didn't have to lock things. He lies about everything and when asked for a reason just comes out with 'I don't know' constantly. I don't trust him at all and our relationship is suffering. I have now been put on anti - deressant seditives because of my anxiety and because I keep losing it with everyone, especially my son. His school have told us to get him tested for autism because they believe he has it and I can see their point. Our doctor has refered us to a charity who assess kids for things like this but the referal was refused with a cop out reason of 'you just need parenting classes'. I don't know how you would respond but I was wildly disapointed and very upset by the lack of help and understanding we got. Does anyone else have a child who steals who has autism? Can you help me? I'm at my wits end and am going to have to go back to the doctor for myself this week because I have started self harming. I'm scared that something my son will do will drive me over the edge. I'll do anything to stop that from happening.

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Heidi - posted on 10/18/2010

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My son is 10, and does the same stuff (Aspergers, ADD, OCD), we have to lock him in his room at night, or else he wanders the house steeling things all night. He steals and hides food, but also refuses to eat meals, and hides his food and says that he ate it. He also likes to steal tools and tear things apart his favorite is the toilet. He also turns the water off to the house. He also steals other wierd stuff. He did steal a cell phone from one of the teachers at his school, but most of the stuff is just trivial things. It is good to hear that we are not the only ones dealing with this.

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Hi Dee,

I am not sure of the spelling, but Prader-Willy Syndrome (say it like I spelled it, but I am sure it is spelled differently) is a syndrome that "mimics" autism...but an additional factor is the food. Children/adults with pws do not stop eating...they will eat everything and anything that is not locked up (including things like butter, spices, etc).

This is a genetic condition...simple blood test. Your doctor can order this test to make sure you are not dealing with a child with pws.

As well, take the parenting classes. You have a child with special needs and you are at your wits end. You need the support that you might find in a group such as this...as well, they will give you strategies to help you cope. If you CAN'T change your son's behaviour, then you have to figure out a way to change how you respond. If you believe there is "something wrong", you need to shift how you approach. Does he "lie" or does he believe his own truth? There is a huge difference...maybe he really "doesn't know." If he doesn't, you need to see the lies and the stealing in a very different light....is it stealing, or is it a compulsive behaviour? Again, two totally different issues.

Meds will only get you so far. You need to see someone on a regular basis to talk about this...

Many of us are pushed to the breaking point...you need to access as much support as you can possibly get...for yourself and your son.

Sheila

AMANDA - posted on 10/22/2010

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my son is 15 and autistic and you pretty muc described our struggles over the yrs. My son at 12 took my car and totaled it.once he took 200$ out of my purse brought it to school and said he was going to by icecream for everyone. I am also on antidepressants and anxiety meds. It had gotten so bad we considred putting him in some live in program but it's nearly immposible. For the past year behaviors have been so much better and he seems to be on a combination of his meds. We als deal with hygiene issues and the food. SOmetimes I feel like my days just repeat . Same arguments over and over. I don't think it gets easier it's just goes through stages as he gets older. But behavior issues have been soooo much better this year. Idk if it's because he's geting older.i feel like I could write a book of our lives and I also have came close to having a nervous breakdown. Were human though. I feel deppresion isn't a sign of weakness but a sign we've been too strong too long and it's ok to get help. I get goosebumps when I read stories that have the same issues as we do because we've felt so alone for so long. But your not alone.

Tobey - posted on 10/20/2010

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Hi Dee, My son is 20 and has HFA (high functioning autism), ADHD, and ODD. He too steals food in the middle of the night. It started out slowly, and not too noticble. Then it progressivly got worse the older he got. We too have to lock our food cabinet, and refrigerator and freezer. If we don't, he will literally eat an entire box of crackers, or an entire carton of ice cream, drink 3-4 soda's etc. It's not that he eats just one of those items, he eats them all! Then come morning he doesn't want to eat breakfast or lunch! If we thought it was because he was really hungry in the middle of the night due to meds (like another mom said her son was), we wouldn't do this. However, he is not interested in making a meal, or eating the healthy fruits, vegetables, or other healthy snacks we keep on hand. He only wants the junk food, and lots of it. One would say just don't buy the stuff then. Well the rest of the family (husband and other child) don't want that, because they want to be able to treat themselves to this stuff at times. So the only recourse is to lock the stuff up! We see a psychologist, and they offer no explanation as to why he does it. Our son says he does it because he is an adult and we can't tell him what he can and can't eat anymore. That would be the ODD part of him talking! Lol... It is so very frustrating. I don't think it is PW syndrome because he doesn't eat all day, just the middle of the night, and he is not overweight. If you lived in the US, I could suggest what you need to do for a diagnosis, but I don't know what to offer for you since you live in the UK. If you can get your GP to refer you to a neuropsychologist, that would be the best thing. That type of doctor can do the testing needed to get the diagnosis. Good luck, and know you are not alone!
Tobey

Alison - posted on 03/27/2012

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Hello Dee



These posts are all from 2010 and I'm wondering how you have got on since, to see if you got any help, if things have improved for you.



Our daughter has not been diagnosed with Autism, in fact we've not spoken to anyone about it yet, but starting to wonder if she could have it.



She frequently takes food, (but always treats) from cupboards, fridge, freezer, even caught her in our friends freezer and in our neighbours cellar where she has a freezer, I can only guess she was looking for ice cream as she denied even being in there, despite me having caught her and having to help her climb back out the window that she went in through. Which brings me to my next point.



There are many other symtoms, which I'll post in a separate post as it's not related to your question.

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App+7mnejhu - posted on 04/25/2012

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I begged the school, drs family to help, no one listened. I was told you are just a stressed out mom. She is just behind because she is a military child. They told me all sorts of things, but I knew there was something wrong. I kept going for 5 years, and when I received my diagnosis of add, I thought maybe that is what she had. I was sent to a nurophsycologist and she tested my daughter. She has aspergers autotory processing disorder, sensory intergration disorder, and math dislexia, (sorry about spelling). I understand the level of frustration, You are not alone, it does not make you a bad mom. Try to take a break and remember that the things they do are not a reflection of you ad you do not have to know all the answers. Keep following your gut and find a support group, like a special needs pta at the school. I hope it all works out for you, :)

Coralie - posted on 12/01/2010

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Being a parent of a child with extra needs you learn that you have to become ur childs advocate. If you dont no one else will. Its sad but true. I kno that here in Australia if you dont push you dont get. I found this really hard because I only ask when I really need help. Unfortunately there are people out there who use the system!! So you need to start using the system to advantage you child. You and your children are entitled to these services. Find a Doctor who understands autism, and what you are going thru.Its hard but not impossible. Make use of your family/friends. Ask for help. Help those in your life understand that your life is different to most parents and you need support. Whether it is a meal, babysitting or just a cup of coffee and a chat. It help to educate those around us or they will never "get it". If you can find a support group this helped me especially when my son was younger and i was trying to get my head around it all. I also found a friend who was a great hugger! It sounds weird but after days of my son physically pushing me away a hug did wonders. Keep ur head up and your eyes looking ahead.

Stefanie - posted on 11/10/2010

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can you see a develpmle therphist to see what going on is he only steeling food that could be part of a disoder call proder willy syndrom they are hungrey all the time an will eat anything .it crap when they say it bad parenting that very out dated thinking if you feel he has autism or something there has to be a place u can get him tesd i try an get him tesd under learing disbilty or something an then they may find autism or something alot of insurence company for some reasion wont pay if it autism .were i live they just opast an autism insurence bill but i no alot of my therhiys were listed as other things to get it cover by insurence .also .maybe you can make a reward board an everytime you catch him doping something good he gets a sticker .some kids with autism may no how to lie if they do it a very high leavel skill to have .i cant lie to save my life or no how to . but we are all diff good luck

Nickie - posted on 11/10/2010

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I would go to a different doctor for a second opinion, and more if that is what it takes. You need to take him to a child psychiatrist. I have a 17 year old who has Aspergers/ODD and he will take food,money and lie right to our face even if we caught him red handed.

It's rough and many doctors will tell you it's your fault etc. Just hang in there, get yourself some help as well. He needs you in tip top shape and will continue to need you.

There are many books out there that are a great resource as well. I think one is called "The explosive child". I can't remember.

Just hang in there and keep trying to get help.

Sam - posted on 10/24/2010

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hi Dee,i also live in the uk.When i was trying to get a diagnosis for my son i was not getting much help either ! I phoned the social services duty team and asked for help which they did.When you have social services involved ( disability team) you seem to be listened too more ! I still had to keep fighting and shouting and in the end it payed off ! Hang on in there you will get there in the end although it might seem that way at the momemnt ! sam x

Florida - posted on 10/22/2010

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I think you can self-refer to Pathways. Actually I'm sure of this, as I've done that before. They have all sorts of services in place, and from there you could get other referrals if need be. They have visitors that will come to your home (or wherever you choose ???) to help and give advices and solutions to various behaviour issues.
Good luck !

Laura - posted on 10/22/2010

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Yes, my autistic son steals food and seems to want to always have food with him (especially SALT, but also sweet things). He tries to hide his "treasures", but will tell the truth if caught. Although he eats constantly, he eats VERY slowly and is somewhat underweight. Having food with him seems to be a comfort to him.

Kimberly - posted on 10/22/2010

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Oh My First take a deep breath,his insurance should pay for mental health. at that age it is not easy my sons doctor put him on something to sleep at night other than that i just dont buy what he steals anymore my son likes sweets or i keep it in my room locked.my son was gaining weight so his clothes would not fit so now he is trying to stay in shape but at seven it was really hard i would also give him treats when he did good and i try to keep friut in the house it is better for him let me know if that has helped.

Lynn - posted on 10/22/2010

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Dee, I am in UK too and my son was not diagnosed with Aspergers until he was 10,so I know what you are dealing with to an extent.
Ask a health visitor to refer you to parenting classes, it is called parenting puzzle,I did it and it taught me coping strategies and appropriate responses to defuse situation's with him.It is only 2 hours a week for 10 weeks and so worth it and it is free.
Even our local vicar did classes with me because she was struggling with her healthy son,it is not about bad parenting, it is about learning different ways of thinking and ways of responding to our ever changing children.
I was getting nowhere with doctors,so I packed a suitcase for my son,took him to the health visitors office and told her to call me when she had sorted something out,until then she could have my son.Amazingly,she got us sorted with a fantastic peadiatrician from great ormond street within 15 mins,we saw him following week and he was great.He spoke to us for an hour,assessed my son and said to me quite simply 'Why has nobody ever told you that your son has aspergers?'
I completed a 3DI test,(3 hours of questions for me,they put into a pc),I got written report and diagnosis within 5 days.
Give me a ring( 07824 705477),I will call you right back and you can vent,ask questions,whatever you want.I am doing it alone too,it is overwhelming and can consume you,but you need to take care of you and demand help.
One thing you will learn in coming months is how to be vocal when it comes to requesting and demanding help and services for your son and for you.

I am beginning to wonder what else is happening with my son as his behaviour is getting more bizarre since he hit puberty and he is also doing the drinking as much pepsi as humanly possible and eating everything he can get his hands on all evening and comes down during night begging for food.
That will be my next battle with doctors.

Barbara - posted on 10/21/2010

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Please call me at 847-321-0556. It is easier talking with someone than writing down. I really think I have something that will help.

Barb

Kimberly - posted on 10/21/2010

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Not very helpful information for you. Find out what resources your city/state has for autism. Most autism sites are helpful and can get you started. Your doctor can do more than that but parenting classes....spare me. Autism has changed my life and you need support. My daughter is a teenager and has asperger's...her appetite is like a Football Player...so I need to do more research in finding out why she eats that way. Stay Encouraged because it will get better. I don't understand everything and why it happens but I do my best to keep a sense of humor...and yes its not funny(my daughter's behavior) but if I don't get some type. of relief somewhere I will lose it. You are not by yourself. Keep me posted.

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2010

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Hi there.. my son is 6 and has Aspergers, O.D.D and A.D.H.D.. He is difficult most times to say the least.. He is CONSTANTLY EATING. and also steals food from the kitchen when i have told him not too....I also at one stage moved everything in different spots so he cant reach stuff. And he is also CONSTANTLY lying.. its unbearable.. I have had many a breakdown about him to the point of giving him away to his father.. (I was a single parent after divorcing his father, for nearly 5 years) I used to run out the house with the keys and lock myself out from him.. :( I do feel your pain hun.. Please go get him checked.. i signed consent forms at my sons school in the first week of his schooling life.. nothing got done.. ova a year later and with me doing it privately, that i got him diagnosed. So push the issue please, so then you know, but also , get support for yourself.. as i did also do the self harming stage out of pure misery... but u need to be strong, determined and push to the doctors to go through all the channels to find out what is going on with your son... Just remember, you are the strong one, he is the child and you love him unconditionally, no matter what u feel bout him on day to day basis. Your his mummy who wants him to be the best, and if he has problems, get the best help for him.. Big hugs to u! x

Kyla - posted on 10/20/2010

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My son is 11 and autistic, i have never had a problem with him stealing food from the cupboards alot other then the normal [kids will do that] but during the summer he did steal a chocolate bar from the store when i asked him why he said because he wanted it, its hard with a child with autism to teach them the difference between right and wrong, if your son thinks its a game he may be doing it to get a rise out of you? or the other thought is maybe hes scared you will say no to him and hes having a growth spurt and really is hungry alot. I have 4 kids and the saying "Kids will eat you out of house and home" is true, try talking to him and telling him you wont be mad or angry if he asks you for something to eat and that he should do this first instead of just taking because the food is for everyone not just him.

Carol - posted on 10/20/2010

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My 10 yr. old grandson also started stealing a few years ago. He lies about having taken things, even when confronted with the item(s). When confronted with the stolen items his response to why he took it is always "I don't know". It started with small items and has escalated into things like lighters, cell phones and money. If someone had a special snack they bought for themselves he would just take it. We have to hide things like cake and cookies. Both of his parents are convicted thieves and I have always thought it was something genetic until reading this post. He has always been a compulsive eater most of his life. The last time we bought new jeans though and he had to get a size 14 husky he started realizing that he needs to lose weight. The jeans fit snugly around his waist but were about 6-8 inches too long! He has started trying to make healthier choices about what he eats and has started exercising more.
Don't let anyone tell you you are "over reacting". There are still a lot of people who don't acknowledge ASD and believe it is just bad parenting. I hope your new doctor is able to help your son.
Please stop hurting yourself! Maybe your clergy can help you with this issue. I don' t really know that much about self hurting but I do know it is usually brought on by depression. I understand why you are so depressed but you are gaining nothing by doing this.
God bless you and keep on fighting for your son.

Melissa - posted on 10/20/2010

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i know what your going through. i have a ten year old boy that does the same thing. mine has been diagnosed with servere adhd and pervasive developmental disorder ( a form of autism). i had him tested. not sure where you live but if its anywhere around maryland, you could say something to his doctor that you want him to go to kennedy krieger institute to be tested. thats where my son went and found all that out. they are very good there. they also never turned him down sayin that "you just need parenting class". that is no reason not to test him. i had to argue with his doctor for awhile until they sent him.

melissa

Debra - posted on 10/20/2010

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ONE OF MY BOYS DOES THIS AND ITS HIS ADDERRALL THAT CAUSES HIM TO, I TRY TO GROUND HIM BECAUSE HE DOES AFTER BEDTIME AND WE ARGUE OVER IT ALL THE TIME, SO I DECIDED AND TOLD HIM THAT I CANT KEEP HIM EATING BUT AT LEAST DONT HIDE IT IN HIS ROOM AND PICK UP HIS JUNK. IT DID HELP WITH THE EATING AND AT LEAST WE ANT ARGUING, I PUT HIM IN FOOTBAL AND IT DID HELP WITH HIM BEING ACTIVE, TRY GETTING HIM VERY ACTIVE BEFORE THISTIME HAPPENS AND MAYBE IT WILL HELP, I DONT KNOW EVERYTHING, IT DID HELP MINE

Kelly - posted on 10/20/2010

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Have you looked into finding a family liaison or something like that? I believe you can find them through your school district (they are funded by the school district, but they are advocates for you and your child). They may be able to provide help with diagnosis and with an IEP. They are also a wonderful referral service - they know who to go when you need help. Your school should also have some sort of evaluation process as well (through the school counselor - it's a GADS assessment and they should have ideas of where you can take your son for a professional evaluation). You can also talk to his pediatrician - they can refer you to a doctor who can help him and not just the charity services (was it something like child find?Every state has Child Find services if it wasn't them - look into them and they may be able to point you in the right direction).

I think you also may need to go back to your doctor and explain what's going on - they will be able to help. I think you also need someone who you can talk to on a regular basis - venting can help a lot as well as advice on how to cope. I'm sorry that you are going through this. Don't give up, there is someone out there who can help you guys.

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You need to learn your rights as a parent. You also need to find a Special Education Advocate (a lot of them work for free) and find out about Special Education in your state, In many states, if the school tells you that they think your child has X condition, the school district is required to pay for the testing. Honestly, if your son does have autism, some parenting classes probably wouldn't be a bad idea because the challenges only get tougher as they get older. You have to be able to hold it together.

Sara - posted on 10/20/2010

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My daugther has Aspergers, ADHD, ODD, and OCD. She eats all day and in the summer when not on meds eats all night also. I don't keep anything in the house that doesn't need to be cooked. I do keep a basket of fruit. She is allowed to have as much of it as she wants. She steals and lies also. I just explain that I cannot trust her until she earns it. It is part of life and we have to remember that they don't choose to be this way. ODD is one of the many conditions that often come with Autism. So just because ODD fits, doesn't mean he shouldn't be checked. I pride myself on being someone that can take any set back and move on without it getting to me too much, but I did go on anti-depressants a couple of years ago. I lost my mom and it didn't do me as bad as living daily with something you know will never go away. I finally sought the best psychiatrist and therapist for my daughter. One gives correct meds and one helps her learn new ways to interact with people. Keep pushing forward and try to get family to help so you can take a day to get away and refocus.

Jen - posted on 10/19/2010

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My 13 year old with autism has similar compulsions. I am unsure why this is, he is going through a growth spurt and we have had to lock up all the food in the house to keep him out of it. It is very frustrating and you must remember you are doing the best you can. Join a support group, try and get all the literature you can get your hands on, and definately get some counseling. You are not alone, and you will have some battles ahead, but you are stronger than you think and you will see light at the end of the tunnel.

Kathy - posted on 10/19/2010

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You should not see getting food in the night as stealing...his body is telling him he is hungry and he doesn't have the inhibition thoughts to not get the food. Can you try creating a refridge drawer or basket on the counter with foods just for him to go get for himself when he needs something. Autistic kids frequently have problems with not being hungry when we think they should be and being hungry at other times. My 14 year old will actually cook meals for himself at 2 am. There will be so many things that you must not let your kid do in our society that he will feel are perfectly rational...this is one you can label a 'quirk' and try to relax about. Just last night, I had a perfectly happy kid until he went to the kitchen for a second dinner only 90 minutes after finishing the first. Without stopping to think, I said, 'you just ate.' He has had 24 hours of tears and hiding and yelling and would not leave the house all day today. Try to think of a 'normal' that you and your child can live within that might have different hours, meal times, and other details but has mutual respect and love.

Jan - posted on 10/19/2010

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Dee, I would try to find your local autism parent support group or autism organization and get referrals from them for doctors. Parents have always helped me find the right answers. God Bless you as you continue your search.

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You have to keep fighting for help for you and for him! Sometimes they don't know they are doing anything wrong. They are taking things they need.
There is a disorder that may be Prader Willie where they don't feel full and keep eating. Also you need professionals to sort out the different problems. Try the Autism Society or Children's Social services and find a new doctor or counselor if you can. Push the school for answers as well. I also will pray for you to find the help you need and deserve. Hang in there. Stay strong!

Jilly - posted on 10/19/2010

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You are not alone Hun! Trust me all the best you are still in my prayers!!
oxo

Jilly - posted on 10/19/2010

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Dee, you are NOT over reacting. I had talked to one Doctor for 4 years about our son and nothing was done till I went to a different GP.

Please find a better doctor one who cares enough about you and your family to look into it!

That said I must admit I did threaten to take them to court if later I found I was right and nothing was done sometimes you have to get a tad rough with them!!!
{{{{HUGS}}}}

Jilly - posted on 10/19/2010

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I have both an autistic Hubby and Son and neither one of them have ever stolen anything. However autism affects people in different ways.
Both my Hubby and Son can't lie to save their lives; it's always been a bit of a family joke that they are so honest!
I would suggest that you go to your GP for a referral to the children's hospital in your city? I am not sure where you live or even if you are in Australia as I am, but my GP was so much help so please talk to yours and get help! Autism is defiantly something that is easier to deal with once you get a diagnosis.
All the best and I will pray for you if that is ok!! Please let us know how you go!!
{hugs} Jilly

Dee - posted on 10/19/2010

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Thanks Sharon and co. It's good to be in touch with people that understand what I'm going through x

Dee - posted on 10/19/2010

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BTW- we have spoken to the school since this message was posted and they seem to think that he has something called ODD and after reading alot about it, this seems to be the only comorbid disorder where he fits all the criterea. Some of his problems don't seem to fall into ADHD or ADD but when I read about ODD, it was like staring my son in the face. Now I have worked out what his problems may be I have an angle to work. The doctor I spoke to didn't seem to care less that my son was causeing havok everywhere he went and that my life and mind were falling apart at the sceams but I am changing doctos and ready to take a new shot at it.

Dee - posted on 10/19/2010

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Because I live in the UK, you must go and see a GP (general practistioner) and be refered to a specialist from there, you cannot do it any other way unfortuantly. I have spoken to a different doctors practise and they are willing to accept my family and I. I shall go fill in the forms tomorrow. My mental state needs sorting and I don't want to just be given drugs and told to deal with it, I want to sort out the underlying issues, not put a plaster (bandaid) on them.

Sharon - posted on 10/19/2010

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Hi Dee, I think you should find another doctor. Don't go to a regular pediatrician. Find a doctor that knows about Autism or OCD. Maybe a neurologist and then go from there. What state are you in? And remember, in the grand scheme of things, stealing food is not like stealing money or cars...try to keep your humor and keep talking to other people, friends, doctors etc...

Evelin - posted on 10/18/2010

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Hi again Dee,

Don't let anyone tell you that you are overreacting...and if they do, then find the next doctor that will listen. Keep up the great job advocating for your child's health and don't let it overcome you. :) Hang in there!

Dee - posted on 10/18/2010

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I've just come from the doctors, i went to ask for help for myself and for my son. I was told that I was probably just over - reacting. I feel let down and utterly depressed.

Sharon - posted on 10/17/2010

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My 10 year old son is autistic and he has the same problem with food. We also have locked the cupboards and the refrigerator because he was sneaking food into his room and hiding the wrappers. This has helped with the sneaking of food but not with his want to eat all the time. He has been tested for Prader-willie syndrome and does not have it. Some of the medications that he is on has weight gain as a side effect but says nothing about the compulsion. He also takes other things like the green markers from his classroom. This is not a result from not knowing how to parent. Parenting classes might be a help as to how to deal with the everyday stress of raising a child but you need to talk to someone who understands the whole autism thing. Believe me, I totally understand your stress but of all the things to get stressed about to me this is small on the scale if the locks help. Please get yourself some self care. For one you deserve it and for another, you will be better able to take care of your son. Who does your son see for doctors? Is he on any medication? One of the med's my son is on helps him with OCD like tendencies. The doctor that prescribes meds and diagnosed him is a pediatric neurologist. I don't know if any of this helps you but please know that you are not alone and you can email me anytime, I will be glad to let you know what has helped me. I kind of look at things as this is how it is, as much as I don't like it I try to deal with each situation as it arises and hope one day things will calm down. Take care and let me know how I can help you.
Sharon

Nyree - posted on 10/17/2010

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I am not sure where you live, but your child's school should be able to test him to see if he has a diagnosis of Autism. You would also want to get one from a medical professional, but the school should provide a good start.

I am not sure that the information you provided really points directly to Autism though. I am not a doctor, however I am finishing my masters in autism and we have studied this to the nth degree. You need to speak to his doctor and get a referral to a psych. they will be able to do a battery of tests to help you determine if there is a real problem or if he is just rebelling. (which is doesn't sound like it)

Good Luck and like the others have said, you need to take care of yourself before you will ever be able to take care of your son!

Kate - posted on 10/15/2010

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it is SO important that you look after yourself. Go back to the doc straight away and tell him how you are feeling, and about the self harming. it is important to get a proper diagnosis. Tell the doctor what the charity said, and how it was very unhelpful... maybe they are right, but no point them throwing you out the door with no assistance whatsoever! Maybe your son's teacher or school could write a letter explaining the behaviours of concern that they have observed at school as well. This provides more evidence that it is not "just you".

Good luck and best wishes. Keep your chin up.
I hope you can see that there are people who care about the pain you are feeling. sometimes you have to keep pushing to get the help you need.
hugs and best wishes from australia to you.

Linn - posted on 10/13/2010

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my daughter is 11 and has been diagnoised withADHDmPDD,OCD,She takes little things, she loves to hold and is attracted to marbles balls, little cars or horses, rocks, she was stealing for awhile, but her Dr. dosn't beleive she gets the connection.If it's laying alone somewhere, it dosn't belong to any one. Latley if she takes something not hers, we take something of hers and she has to earn it back by not taking anything. . Also using a token system for not taking things.

Evelin - posted on 10/13/2010

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You should contact your county's local Social Services Office to see if they can provide you with the help you need for your son. There are programs that will aid you with the funds necessary to properly diagnose and treat your child. He also sounds like he might have some sort of compulsions, i.e. the overeating. Hang in there, and remember that your child needs you safe and healthy in order to help him. You are doing the right thing in seeking help. God bless you and I am praying for you. I don't know how you feel about faith, but I can tell you that God gives me hope to go on, day to day. As I write this, tears are pouring down my face because I am also going through a very difficult time with my own health and my autistic son's issues. Remember that sometimes we are our loved ones best health advocates and if you feel your son needs help, don't give up trying to get it for him until you succeed. God Bless.

-Evelin

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