My world is crashing

Elisha - posted on 05/17/2017 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone. My name is Elisha and I am a mother to 3 beautiful boys. I have been having the worst month of my life. My youngest boy has had some speech delay and he has been going to speech and OT. Well the therapists said that I should get him screened for autism and it has completely turned my world upside down. He seems like such a happy, healthy, smart and sweet 4 year old boy who doesn't talk much. Now all I can think about is "what if?" "What will his future be?" I am lost and just need someone to talk to.

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Elisha - posted on 05/22/2017

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Thank you Melissa! It is so nice to have people in your corner! I have definitely been doing my research and gathering info! It's so hard though because everything is so gray! It's a fine line. He has very few traits that I would say fall on the spectrum but he is otherwise a 4 year old boy! He is so smart and able, funny, sweet! Loves his brothers and his family! He knows what you're telling him, he knows how to gesture and he does have about 300 or so words and with speech and ot he gains more and more every day! He just doesn't talk like "abnormal 4 year old should" I know it's hard to think that anything could be wrong with our children. We only want what's best. And although I know he has no "severe" signs it's still tough to swallow! Life is hard enough, I hate for one more thing to make it any harder! I have prayed every night for the best outcome and have definitely put in work myself with my precious boy! I just want what every mom wants for their children "a good life"

Joysareflowing - posted on 05/22/2017

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Hey there, Elisha....I feel for you, girl. Hang in there! When I was told my daughter might have autism just this last fall, I did what these other sweet mom's recommended -- I researched it through and through. And before we even had the formal diagnosis, I was 98% sure of it myself. Arm yourself with knowledge. Usually we fear most the things we don't know. And know this -- the earlier you get a diagnosis, the better you can help him. And there's so much help and hope out the for kids with autism. Also -- do trust in God's help! My faith has grown tremendously during our journey with autism. In a way, it starts to become absolutely necessary to look to the Creator of my child's little body, of her little nervous system, and to ask him for wisdom and the strength to do what must be done. Good luck as you move forward! Everyone here is here for you. You are not alone.

Wheeler - posted on 05/19/2017

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Hi Elisha,
Shame, it is not easy hearing the diagnosis for the first time. Even though it is great to have a definitive answer to your child's "symptoms", it is scary. My best piece of advice, get researching. The more you learn about it, the easier it is to cope with, knowing what to expect etc...
Please also remember, he is still the same sweet, loving boy he was before the diagnosis, never loose sight of that. These children are all amazing individuals, with great potential. My son has taught me more about love and patience than I have taught him.
Never give up, and keep the Lord close. If it wasn't for the love and the sence of peace He gives, I would have given into helplessness a long time ago.

Elisha - posted on 05/17/2017

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Thank you for your reply! I appreciate your feedback very much! I have been in contact and am definitely taking the steps I am just so incredibly worried. I am trying to stay positive and strong and continue to be the best mommy I can be. It's just like you said "a tough path to travel"

Ev - posted on 05/17/2017

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Elisha--the world is not crashing down on you or that child. You need to take a breath and contact the public school in your area and have them help you get in touch with those that can actually test him for Autism. Just because a screen was suggested, it does not mean he has that. Once you have him tested or evaluated as they actually call it; you can take the steps you need to get him the proper help he will need and set up at school when he starts school. It is not an easy path to travel but it can be done and there should be a group of families in your area that are also dealing with it if it is so. Also contact Autism Speaks.

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