need help

Melissa - posted on 04/30/2010

Many school districts say this, but they are required by law to do an evaluation, you may have to be more bold about requesting it than you are used to. That being said, should there be too many roadblocks have your child's doctor refer you to a developmental psychologist for a full comprehensive developmental screening.

Claudia - posted on 04/30/2010

Oh dear, remember that you are the grown up, you still stronger and wiser, but you need to call your pediatrician. Be sure what are you dealing with and battle it with the rights therapis. Behavior in this case... But until then, give him more protein (peanutt butter, chicken nuggets, fish sticks, turkey, any thing that you have in stead of breads and crackers. Change corn chips for crackers or any other rice or corn cereal insted of the others. All this is probably stuff that you already can change with out to broke your bank. Avoid colorants like the red 40 (it's used to be related to behavior, and take care because the kids food just to be colored with it). Change apple juice for grape or cranberries and try to swich apples for pears. I'm not an expert, but this is what is been helping us. We are praying for you, and be consistent with him. Praise him on the good behavior and warning if he is disrespecful with you or hurt your daughter, and time out if it happen again. He maybe could not understand your words, but with consitency will learn his patterns of success with you or trouble.

Kristine - posted on 04/30/2010

Talk to your EI team. My 2 sons both have ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) one is 4 almost 5 and the other is 23 mos. I didn't know my oldest had ASD until he was 4 and he went to preschool. My baby just got the diagnosis in december. Each one of their teams does A LOT for my kids. Even at home. We are working on routines and different things at home for them. Even though they do mostly "school" stuff, they are above and beyond board to help at home. They want to help them be well rounded both places. My oldest sons teacher has even come to my house to help establish "routines" which is so good for them. He does so great in school, but at home he has such anger issues and stuff. Probably because he isn't in the same sort of structured enviornment. But they are a great team! Try to get that. Also, I don't know where you are, but my boys have a DD caseworker from the county. She is such a gem, and so helpful. Sends me all kinds of paperwork about support groups, mommy time and everything else. Also, I let my kids watch Nick Jr Disney. My boys love Yo gabba gabba and Special Agent Oso. I let them watch shows like that because they are interactive and teach them stuff. It's helping my baby out a lot as well since he's starting to mimic. That's the only thing on TV most of the time and until it's time for "mommys shows" at night when it's time to settle down. Even then I watch shows that do not promote any sort of violence. I wait until after they are asleep if I watch anything like that. Get him some good mental help. I agree with the other moms though. It's probably something he's seen on tv, and he may be having some sort of reaction to something he can't control. Plus, he probably doesn't realize that its very wrong for him to be saying/doing it. IF he does, he's using it to get what he wants. Get him checked out. He's still very little, it's a good time to do it now.

Latisha - posted on 04/30/2010

we have done the ECI thing didnt see much change he was going to school for speech. but i need help with his anger. hes out of control i cant even take him to the park in fear that he will hurt another kid. we dont go to the store cus i cant handle him when i have my little girl cas he takes of or screams in the basket or just falls out of it tring to get out i feel like i have failed as a mom. what did i do wrong

Kadie - posted on 04/28/2010

Totally get him evaluated. They should give you lots of help and places that will give you what you need so you can cope with this and what he and you daughter will need.
I do think it is more that just Asperger's but just remember there is help out there. There are lots of spectrum disorders.

Virginia - posted on 04/28/2010

Well if he is 3 and you are having these concerns now than he must not have had any early intervention. A lot of what he is doing does sound like Autism to me. But it is very important that you get him in to see a developmental pediatrician. They will evaluate him and they should set you up with programs in your area. I can't stress to anyone enough how very important it is to seek early intervention if you see these signs in your child. My son would not be where he is today if I didn't seek the help. I can't even begin to describe how far he has come! Good luck and give us an update if you go and have him assessed.

Violet - posted on 04/28/2010

Depending on what state u live in , there's an Early Childhood Intervension that can evaluate him for free since he is 3yrs .The violent behavior could be coming from watching tv that has violence in it . My son used to talk like Spongebob . He even asked for Krabby Patty .My son did the hand flapping and he is ABSOLUTELY obsessed with toy cars. It got to a point where we could not go to the store with him cause he would cause a serious tantrum if we did not buy the toy car for him

Latisha - posted on 04/27/2010

and thanks to all of yall i takin all of his toy guns away from him

Latisha - posted on 04/27/2010

hi renee i have try to get his school to help with no succues he doent do any of that at school so they said they cant help, as far as tv we dont watch tv during the day he watchs a movie at night it called robots. but its a kids movie. so im really not sure where the shooting thing is coming is from but he is only tree and is getting older every time i turn around and that scares me. he is also very ocd bout supost to be like doors closed tv off lights on and the bath tub he says is to loud when the person that lives be hind us turns the water on i can berlly hear it but he screems and he doesnt like me to turn the water on when i do he screems I CANT HEAR and covers his ears

Bonnie Jean - posted on 04/27/2010

http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageS...

What does he watch on TV and movies, if he is on the spectrum he is using what he is taking in. This does not mean he understands what he is saying. Try showing him positive kid movies like " Veggie tales" movies that talk about right and wrong, being friends, being helpful etc. I stopped letting my children watch regular TV because of all of the violence and abuse I did not need them to pick up on mimic then not understand what they were copying.

Gwen - posted on 04/27/2010

Hi Latisha
your child is in very urgent need of health care. This is not normal behavior and I hope you can access a service near you even a mental health service may help you. Remove all games and TV and any violence from his environment in the meantime and could also be triggered by food allergy and drinks all colas, try and get natural foods and drinks to see if there is links with allergies while trying to get in to see doctors. I am so sorry this must be very frightening as he is capable of harming your youngest one even at this age. I would remove all weapons and put knives up out of reach in a locked cupboard until this is sorted out. Sorry love.

Renee - posted on 04/26/2010

Sounds more like autism but I'm no doctor. Have him evaluated at the school. Contact your school district special education office. They will set up an assessment. Do not leave the children alone together if he is threatening to hurt anyone. Where is he getting this shooting thing?



Hand flapping, lining up cars, injuring others - hmm not sure about that one. But he is talking?



What about staring at spinning objects line ceiling fans? Flipping light switches?

Staring at objects from all angles? Walking on toes? Fascination with dripping water?



Clearly he needs to be seen by a professional - developmental pediatrician if possible other than the school psychologist. You must seek therapy before he does hurt someone. Good luck