Tracy - posted on 02/09/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )
I have a seven year old daughter diagnosed with PDD-NOS. She is a bright girl in a main stream class. Last year she has had severe behavioral issues both in school and at home and on bus. Now that she is in second grade, she seems to have made a lot of improvement in school (so much so that the school psychologist wants to remove her behavioral goals from her IEP) although continues to have problems on the bus and at home. She sits up front by herself (the school's idea) but still has some problems lashing out on her younger sister on the bus (who is in Kindergarten). The reasons that I get from my seven year old are: "because she was touching a dirty window"," she had a hole in her hat today and it annoyed me", or sometimes, "she looked ugly."
She will have a fit if one of her sisters comes downstairs while she is doing her homework because "this is her homework time and no one else is allowed to be here." This morning she destroyed her sisters mp3 player because in her words "she was supposed to be getting ready for school and not listening to music." She no longer sits with the family at meals because she can't tolerate the chewing sounds (and perceives her sisters as "staring at her") and will typically only eat pizza, yogurt, or chicken nuggets. In the car, if her sister accidentally touches her seat while getting on, she throws a fit because "it is now all covered with germs."
It amazes me that she has been able to have more self-control during the school day because not much has changed at home. (She does sit by herself at a separate table during snack time because of the dreaded chewing noises) I have been taking her to an outside social skills group which she loves and has been helpful with basic social skills. She received a late diagnosis and I never really learned to deal with her behaviors at home. I try not to "appease" her all the time but I really have to pick my battles with her. Should the school be more involved with dealing with these behaviors or is it simply not their problem? I would love some advice. I'm sorry if this was too long.