Carrie - posted on 01/14/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi, my name is Carrie, I live in England, I'm 29 and I am hoping to meet moms in a similar situation to me. I have a 10 year old son who's needs have been very demanding since he was first born. He constantly screamed as a baby, and as he got to toddler years he would smash things up in a temper, attack his older brother (22 months older than him) pull furniture apart etc. I know these things can sound crazy when you think of a toddler causing such chaos, people probably wonder why I didn't stop him or give him time out but I tried and he was so physically aggressive and strong that it was difficult to do anything with him. He started nursery just before he turned 3 and I was soon being called in because he was smashing everything up in the classroom, it was so bad that they were having to take the other children out of the room. since then we have been in touch with health visitors, psychologists, psychiatrists, paediatric care, educational support, behaviour support teams and 7 years on we are still struggling. He has physically harmed people and us too. It was suggested that maybe he was on the autistic spectrum in 2007 but after the assessment they came to the conclusion he wasn't, however 18 months ago he was re-referred for another assessment but we are still waiting to be seen.
Obviously as he gets older, he's getting bigger and stronger. I am very worried for his future. He can be loving and kind but he has a very different side too. He can also have times where he looks like he's not really aware of what's going on around him, like he's in a world if his own. Academically he is very able, not always willing to learn but does have the ability too. His IQ was done a few years back and it was above average for his age. He was put on risperidone about 3 years ago, he then started refusing to take it for a while but went back on it a few months a go. His behaviour is starting to get worse again and I guess I just want some support and advice from other parents who may understand this. It's hard because he has no diagnosis so we don't really know what we're dealing with. One thing I do know is that he can't carry on like this. Please, any advice you have I would be truly grateful.
Thank you in advance.