Melissa - posted on 02/27/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
I guess it's human nature or something.
I love the comments about how my son is so lucky because _____'s child has much more severe autism. They come from people who seldom see my son or meet him on a good day. [My son has moderate autism and has precocious abilities in some areas, but he still really struggles in others.] I am not very nice about it (sorry to say!). I tell them point blank that he does so well because of years of hard work, not because he just happened to. Don't downplay my child's issues to try to console or pity me. I don't want it! My heart breaks for those whose children don't respond well to therapy or who didn't try to get them help. I can only imagine how crummy they feel from people's ignorant comments.
I usually do really well, but sometimes I just get so fed up when people say things about the stress. I am a military wife to a husband who is gone the majority of the time, I homeschool the older children, and I have my little guy's issues to contend with (which are of course way worse when Daddy's gone). Our nearest family is almost a 15 hour drive away and with moving coast to coast every few years, we don't have close friends next door or anything. So when my family says they understand, it really just makes me angry, like, "What part of that do you understand, exactly?"
Sorry, that was a big rant. If you have one,feel free to slap it down here too. :D