should i allow school to refer my daughter back to a pyscologist

Kim - posted on 07/09/2009

responding to donna> my son has a.d.h.d, learning delays and latent seizures, they have ruled n.o.s. ( not otherwise specified) on aspergars.spectrum.dis.. his psych and counselor see that he is very capable and responsive and has a desire to socialize. i always tell them i think he is dealing with aspergars characteristics yet they don't wont to put him in the category, nor do i but if this is what is then i would like validation.how are your children doing now? what were your childrens symptoms shown?

Eva - posted on 07/07/2009

Quoting nicola:

should i allow school to refer my daughter back to a pyscologist

my daughter is almost 10 and really struggling now with her peers at school i have tried all of the after school activities but she is still struggling to make friends now the school aresaying they want to refer her back to a psycologist to see if she is getting worst but i dont know what this will acheive has i have no idea what they can do for a child with asd. can anyone advise me on whether there would be any point to this.
thanks for reading and i would be very gratefull for any help given

As an Aspie I benefitted from talking with a counselor now and then when growing up.  I was able to tell my counselor about my confusion and fears with regard to interacting with peers.  Often he or she was able to explain the dynamics of peer interactions in such a way as to give me insight into how to approach people my own age.  The best advice I ever got was from my counselor who said, "find someone your age who acts in the way you would like to present and then watch them and learn how they behave.  This helps you to learn methods of interaction which will benefit you best."  It worked and still works... even though now I'm an adult.

Donna - posted on 07/07/2009

Does your child get into trouble a lot as well as having difficuties with other children. The reason I ask is because my son who is now 17 has had 3 diagnosis made. The first being adhd the 2nd Aspergers and the 3rd is Pervasive Development Disorder. I thought tooth and nail to get a proper diagnosis. My son was in and out of school because of problems with social and communication skills in the end we were referred to the Maudsley in London and they confirmed the final diagnosis. Please ask your GP for a referrel or anyone else involved with your child

Kim - posted on 07/07/2009

how is your daughter doing this summer? what kind of personality does she have? my son is not considered to have aspergars yet i am seeing some characteristics that make me wonder. he has a psychiatrist and counselor to help us with his adhd and learning delays,he also has latent seizures. i let them know i see how confused he can be with reading peoples emotions and how to respond well. they said they have ruled this out. so i could use guidance too! with what you said about not knowing what they can do, find out, okay? i know that my son has wonderful care from his 'team' and we both feel comfortable with his doctors. it feels like they are missing something but i am still jumping in and swimming. we all communicate about how he is and he always opens our eyes. seeing the world his way makes my mind open up and start whirring. seeing the world his way is many times how i am able to help him understand what someone may have meant by the way they spoke to him or how they responded. my son is 12 now and really doesn't have friends. he has 3 sisters and interacts and plays games and pretends with them, the usual stuff. he jokes around with a few boys at church and it encourages me. he is able to socialize but it is not the same for him as with his siblings...there is a definite uniqueness. i know living with asd is heart wrenching. do you think she is getting worse? i don't think this is something that gets worse, that is , it changes and can be more confusing but does not get worse. i do not have a clue. maybe we can help each other figure out a little bit more.

Hayley - posted on 07/05/2009

It is very hard to make these kind of decisions, and I always go with what I feel is right for my son. I think that it may help going back to the psychologist as they may have ways that could help you and your daughter, new ideas are coming out all the time. The way I feel also is to grab what ever they are offering you as you don't know when you may need to fall back on the information that they find out. good luck with making your decision. xx