Michelle - posted on 02/28/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
I feel so lost on how to help my 6th grade son. He has been diagnosed ADHD without hyperactivity. He hasn't been prescribed any medication because he also has anxiety problems that the medications would amplify, I am told. I feel that he definitely has mild autism or Asperger's as well just from what I have read about it since he was in 3rd grade. We have been working on getting another opinion since it was dismissed by the last doctor. Anyway, I have two boys - one is a freshman in high school. The rule in our house has always been that if you have any Fs or missing assignments you are grounded until it is caught back up. That has worked well for my older son to keep him on track. However it is not working for my younger son. I don't know how to have rules be fair for both boys who have very different needs. The teacher has said that she has watched my son get up with his classwork to turn it in and either drop it or set it down somewhere on his way to the basket and then forget what he got up to do and go back to his desk to sit down again. All of his missing work is classwork and he has all Fs now in every subject. I recently met with his teacher and the school counselor and they are going to work on getting him a 504 since his IEP was closed back in 1st grade. We tried to get him another IEP in 2nd grade but that was denied by special services because they let him do all the tests out loud rather than on paper. My son is very smart. They said they will not hold him back because his test scores are so high so he is learning. The counselor recommended getting him tested for Asperger's again and possibly look into private schooling because he doesn't seem to fit the public school model. Any parenting advice or advice for schooling would be greatly appreciated.