teenage boys with aspergers!

Louise - posted on 02/16/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi I am new to this so here goes ,is there anyone out there with a teenager with Aspergers or /and dyslexia ? I could do with some advice on behavioral issues

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KariAnn - posted on 01/29/2013

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To Dena,

I have two sons with Aspergers who are now almost 16 and 14. When my oldest son hit middle school his whole personality changed. His anxiety went up because of the fast pace of the environment he was in. As a mother I know how difficult it can be to raise a "non-typical"child. I have found that over the years that know one knows my sons better than I do and so after much thought and prayer we pulled both of them out of school and I home school them. I found an accredited private christian school in Nashville, (I live in Nevada) which has a home schooling program. They are still in school, but this school believes in the children working at their own pace. You are asigned an advisor and they are wonderful. The boys work from workbooks and it's like helping them with homework and only takes 2 to 3 hours a day for all of us. It has been a huge blessing. It was a sacrifice for me, but as mothers we all know that there come certain times when we have to ask ourselves, What are we willing to do? If you work outside the home, you might have a friend or family member that can help you. You can't be afraid to ask for help ever. I hope this helps. I also have a third son who is in the gifted program at school, so none of my boys are anything close to normal. My family has just learned to make up our own rules and not care what other people have to say about it. That's the most important. If you know it's right for your children, then to hell with everyone else.

I wish you all the best & will keep you in my thoughts!
KariAnn

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Julie - posted on 11/26/2013

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I have a 16 yr old boy. I am a single mom with a dad who is around when he wants to be. I have not had real atable employment for the last 5 yrs so that is an additional stress. Lately (the last two years) my son has gotten very upset.
He hit me for a while until I called the police which my son blames me for of course. the police told him to write a 500 word essay why it is bad to hit your mom. I had asked for 10 counseling sessions. No help around here.
This year he is calling me by my name, not mom. He is making holes in the walls and breaking doors. I am scared to be home. I don't want him in Juvi as that will just give him new ideas. He is smoking pot and his "friends" tell him to do this or that and he thinks he is "cool" and does them then gets detention. I am afraid that he will try a drug or do something to be cool or as a result of being out of control. He is not a bad kid. We can have several days of just awesome times then BAM! I see the signs..... I am not big or strong and he is both. What to do???? I can't take TV, computer away. Not going to happen-not realistic. He'd come after me. I am lost......

KariAnn - posted on 01/29/2013

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Oh Louise, you sweet thing! I have three sons. My two oldest both have Asperger's. They also have other issues along with that, but my best friend growing up and my uncle both were dyslexic. You know your son better than anyone and even though you might not know exactly the logistics of what to do, you have an insight to your son that no one else has. The other mom has given you great advice. The only thing I would add is to read to your son every night and then slowly have him say one or two words. My oldest sons stutters so we did this with his favorite bedtime story ( even as he got older, who cares) slowly we had him say one or two words and then he would every other word. Pretty soon he could read the whole book. We just always told him to take his time and then praised him on what a great job he did. You sound like a great Mom and I know from experience that whether your a believer or not, God watches over these very special children and as long as you are searching for an answer, you WILL find one!

Dena - posted on 05/06/2012

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I am new to the site. My son has Dyslexia(severe) and was just recently diagnosed with Asperger's. He is 12. I see that you posted this in 2009. Do you have any advice for me? He hates school. He receives accommodations for his Dyslexia and has since the second grade. He Hayes school!

Annmarie - posted on 02/18/2009

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My son was diagnosed when he was 4, now he is 17. I am a mother of 6 and my son is treated the same as all the other children. For a long time I allowed my son to get away with certain behavior due to his autism. I realized that he is still a child who will " test" the boundaries and instead of focusing on the autism I just altered my communication skills for him to understand my expectations.

Kristen - posted on 02/18/2009

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I have a 17 year old boy with Asperger's. It's one of the hardest things to watch your child go through. Your school district is required by LAW to (no child left behind, etc) to provide him with either work in his same classes, but tailored to fit his ways of learning and things like that. Check with any and all psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, in your area- also any universities. They quite often have groups for teens with aspergers, ranging in age from 12 to 17 where they meet , even like say go out to eat. Because people with Aspergers find it harder, if not impossible, to pick up on the normal social cues that guide societal behavior, like most people do.  That's all I can write for now. I recommend a wonderful book I found. "The everything parents guide to children with aspergers" by William Stillman. Feeel free to contact me again if you'd like. And remember something that gets me through sometimes. Before it was formally diagnosed as an actual condition no one knew exactly why HE was so different. HE- Albert Einstein- was most certainly an Aspergers sufferer. Kristen Schoonover

Maxine - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hi,



My name is Maxine or Max. I have a son who is about to turn 13. What behavioural issues are you experiencing?



 



Max

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