Christy - posted on 02/09/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )
My almost 12 year old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD over a year ago. Her pediatrician tried all the meds available and we have not seen an improvement in her, so he sent us to a child psychologist. I am working on my master's in education so I have done some studying on children with disablilites and how to recognize things. I went into this first appointment thinking she may have asperger's and OCD. She is an excellent student. She makes the honor roll with barely any effort. She does obsess about certain things. She could tell you what kind of dog is on the street just by looking at it and then knows everything about that breed. She is really struggling socially!! The psychologist said she feels that it may be aspergers because of her social problems. I spoke with her teacher last week and she expressed the same concern. She feels that my daughter tries to hard to fit in with the other kids, that she annoys them. There are many times when my daughter acts like my 2 year old though. She has to be told every step to make in order to get ready for the day. Routine things she can't remember to do. It has been very frustrating for us because we know that she is very smart, but can't remember things she does on a daily basis. I have tried everything to help her remember and nothing works. I have to remind her every day. Its exhausting getting her ready every morning. Today she told me she doesn't like her school anymore because everyone is mean to her. * We moved to PA a little over a year ago from OH. I feel terrible for her. I actually started to cry because I don't know how to help her. I'm not even certain if she actually has aspergers or not. The psychologist doesn't want to diagnose it just yet. My heart breaks for my daughter because this is a tough age and time and to feel like you have no friends and hate school is scary. My gut instinct is to take her out of school and home school her to protect her!
She has had a couple traumatic events happen in her life. When she was 3 her father, my then husband, died from brain cancer. She has no memory of him at all. When she was almost 7 her and I were hit by a drunk driver and I was taken to the hospital by ambulance. She thought something happened to my heart. It was this accident that started her stress ticks. She has been having some type of tick ever since (except during the summers). The ticks change and vary in severity depending on what she is doing. Video games make her tick so much more!!
How do I help her socially with other kids? How can I get her to remember a routine so that I am not constantly after her? It feels like the psychologist is going to take forever to get to a solution or some type of help!!