Carol - posted on 09/12/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
I'm going to my first meeting today with all of my asperger son's teachers at his new middle school. He's never been officially diagnosed and both the doctor and his elem. counselor said we don't need a diagnosis, just say he has it. Even though he's already 11, we've never had to deal with asperger's problems before last year. We didn't even know he had it until 2 years ago - long story (in a nut shell,he's just like his dad and we only recently found out his dad was diagnosed with it when he was a kid - explains a lot in both their childhoods).
Last year was the first of a few times I cried myself to sleep after seeing how his "friends," as he calls them, treated him - and then to hear what they've said when we couldn't watch him was enough to break my heart. This is about the age that my husband became aware that they were all making fun of him and he started to feel like a lonely loser. I don't want this for my son!!! How can I get the teachers to watch out for him and how can I get some socialization services for him from the counselor??? What questions or requests would you make for the teachers and counselor? I've spoken with the counselor a few times and she keeps saying that since he's doing really well academically, they can't give him an IEP or 504. Everyone with Asperger kids or autistic kids say that bull. How can I make them do it, and do I want to have them do it?