When did your child start talking?
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Kim - posted on 07/31/2012
my son will soon be 3. he has spoken before but now he does not talk at all he has no attention span and will not sit still I can't read books to him try to teach him signing etc. I am super frustrated because I feel like there is nothing I can do to help him but then I feel guilty like i'm not doing something right. I cry all the time just wondering if I will ever hear his voice or hear him trek me he loves me. I am at the point that I don't know what to do next or where or who to get help from. I just want to hear his voice and I can't help but feel like I did something wrong and that I caused this. I guess I just needed to vent any tips, pointers, encouragement is appreciated. thanks
Sharon - posted on 01/25/2011
Hi, my son who was diagnosed at age 16 with Aspergers and Temporal Lobe epilepsy and is now 20 years old only started talking at age 3 and half. Just after his 1st birthday though he did have a vocab but gradually stopped using it. Then suddenly a few months after his 3rd birthday he started communicating and in sentences. He has always been a child of few words but if it is something he is interested in he can talk forever on that subject and his memory is phenomenal. He matriculated end of 2009 with a university entrance. Don't give up, we treated him like his siblings (older brother and sister who don't have aspergers) with no difference just a lot more patience is needed. Good luck.
Update as to how my son is doing. He will be 23 years old in January and in his second year of University in 2014. He started first year in 2013 and in his first week he had a meltdown as there were not a few hundred pupils but now thousands at University. One Sunday After four hours of trying to get him to talk he opened up to me as to how scary university was. I told him it was ultimately his choice if he wanted to continue and told him to let me know by Monday morning if he wanted to continue. My husband and I prayed he would make the right decision for himself. Monday morning in walks my son and says he is ready for University. I was so proud of him. Whenever I saw him getting quieter I would ask how things were. Which for someone with Aspergers is quite something as most times they don't like talking and to know when he is even quieter is quite a challenge. As a family we made it through his first year and I am so proud to say he has consistently obtained distinctions throughout the year with his Psychology course and has passed the other four subjects he is doing as well. Along the way he has made friends and has even stayed over a few weekends at his friends houses. I asked him if he enjoys staying over at friends and he said to me yes he does as home is a bit boring. In no way did that hurt me as I realised that he was now seeing the world a bit differently and realising that it is normal to want to go out and spend time away from your home. Home will always be there. Don't give up moms, just take it one day at a time.
Update 29 December 2015 - In less than a month my son will be turning 25 years old and in 2016 will be in his third year of his degree at University. To date for every Psychology test, assignment or exam he has achieved Distinctions. Some days are tougher than others for him but we take it one day at a time. Today (29 December 2015) the two of us went to see Star Wars and it was good for him to get out as he doesn't like crowds and the noise in the Malls. We only go to movies when he feels up to it and the two of us thoroughly enjoyed today's outing. With 2016 around the corner may it be an amazing year for each and everyone even with the challenges we face.
Robert who will be 26 years old in January 2017 has just completed his three year BA Degree at the University of Johannesburg (at times it has been quite daunting for him but he persevered) and after applying to do Honours in Psychology in 2017 he was accepted. To get into any Honours program is extremely difficult as there are so many Students applying and they only take the top few Students of which I am proud to say Robert is amongst the top students in Psychology this year. He has also applied to be a Tutor for 2017. It is going to be a tough year next year for him as well as us his parents but as we always have done we take it one day at a time. To all of you don't give up.
My youngest Grandson of 4 has just been diagnosed with Aspergers as well and he is such a darling of a little boy and together with my daughter, his mom, and her husband we will face this next challenge together as a family.
My son was 5 and then it was only to repeat things said to him. When he started sensory intergration therapy his speech began to be initiated by him. He still says things in a funny way. My friend says he speaks like Yoda. "Happy to see you I am." Sometimes things that happened several hours to several days earlier he reponds to and I have to try and figure out what he is talking about. He refused to sign or to use picture cards. When he did start speaking he was using sign language with other non verbal class mates. He is extremely intelligent he just was not able to speak until later, I read a report (I forget where) that said children with a speach delay will also have a reading delay.
ASD children all speak at their own pace. Some sooner some later.
Barbara - posted on 08/10/2012
I worked as an ABA Therapist for years with many different children. Each child is unique in their timeline and ability to speak. If you are not using ABA (applied behavior analysis) I suggest you look into it and see if it's something that interests you. I also sugges simplified sign language to help with the frustrations of not being able to communicate well. Also touch board systems are great resources as well. Good luck. There are so many resources now for you to choose from and use.
Merimcd - posted on 02/23/2017
The specialist did not know if my son was ever going to talk and around 5 yrs old he finally began to say a couple words. He is still limited and understands more than is able to say. His delay in understanding is difficult but with working with his specialist, teachers, etc he is learning slowly more appropriate ways to ask, express, etc. In the past we used PECs, talking board, iPad, but he wants to talk so we have to help him know what words to use. It is detective work and a lot of observation on my part to figure what he wants to say, do, etc. My son is almost 14. I know other children similar to my son's language and they are more verbal than my son so it will take time, good SLP, teachers, etc to help in this area.
Cathy - posted on 02/02/2011
My son is 4 and a half hopefully makes it to school this year! He talks only in script hard to understand alot of the time, he had a thing for DVD's and want me to assume a character. Half the time I dont know the movie and he gets sooo frustrated with me. Good luck Post if you find the answers to help
Sarah - posted on 01/31/2011
My son tuned 4 on Dec 19 and just started talking. For the past 3 years I have been telling people, "he's almost ready to talk!" I know it's frustrating, but just be patient and keep working with him. We used the PECS board, sign language too. The day my son started talking was when he wanted a cookie. He was really focused that day, and I bent down to his level and asked him to say cookie and he said it! He was having a pretty good day so I was prepared to test him but he said it right away! Your son WILL talk, our autistic wonders teach us patience in the worst way! Good luck on this journey!
LeeAnn - posted on 01/29/2011
My son has been diagnosed first with HFA and more recently Asperger's. He was an extremely quiet baby. He spoke his first words within a normal time frame a year to year and a half but he was slow using sentences and didn't use language to make his point. He simultaneously had chronic ear infections from 5mos. to 2years so the docs aren't sure if that was part of the delay. after his tubes were inserted his use of language did improve. I read his baby calendar not long ago and was surprised to be reminded that he loved to shriek -funny how you forget.
Joanne - posted on 01/27/2011
My step-son Bradley who has Asperger's starting talking around the age of 3 1/2 to 4. I found it so odd as my son who is 1 month younger was talking up a storm at 2.5. That is how me and my husband new something was wrong with Bradley. Although, once he learned to talk we couldn't get him to be quiet!! He is now 11 and LOVES TO TALK! Especially to adults.... they are more at his level.
Kristin - posted on 01/27/2011
My son didn't start really talking until he was 3. He had speech therapy since he's been 2 and still has speech therapy. He has Aspergers so his "talking" is very direct, we are trying to work on his conversational skills.
Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2011
we are PECS lovers as well...any way to augment communication even the IPAD works wonders (and no it will not stop him from using his own words when/if ready) my son was 5 did not verbalize at all prior did use sign after 4 he did not wake up and start talking in one day he did what every learning child does he babbled mouthed and by 6 was using his own words then he echoed for about 6 months now he is talking like a college professor lol we still use intensive speech therapy and will continue until I am comfortable that he will not regress..:) dont give up hope every child is soooo different..
Morgan - posted on 01/26/2011
My son is know 3 1/2 and just started using 3 word sentences..of course only when he chooses too. He is starting to speek a whole lit more know. I think every child with autism is different. There is no telling when they will come out of their shell and start talking..Good luck :)
Joanne - posted on 01/25/2011
My son said his first words at 3, shark and bubble it was great to finally hear his voice, I used pecs to communicate with him. he is now 4.5 yrs old and can put together 4-5 word sentence, his pronounciation is poor most people cant understand what he is saying but i can, most of the time.His choice of words is a bit odd, i can relate to the Yoda comment LOL. have you had his ears checked? My son also had bilat hearing loss due to severe ear infections the hearing specialist stated that he would be able to speak due to the severity and he had to get grommets put in surgically. i have read alot of literature and my kids with ASD have the same problem. Maybe worth getting checked. all the best i understand your frustration.:-)
Jocelyn - posted on 01/25/2011
Thanks ladies :)
I do use PECS with my son, along with sign language and he has a Gotalk device that he uses as well. We also have a speech therapist and an aide that goes with him to preschool :)
I think I was just looking for some success stories! At this point it just feels like he's NEVER going to talk and you have helped to reassure me that he will eventually talk...I'd just rather it be sooner than later lol
Josie - posted on 01/25/2011
At 3, our son was still not talking. I found out about Preschool Program for Children with Disabilities. They worked wonders! He's now 8, in 3rd grade, and doing well! There are still major delays, including social, but the school is still helping. In fact, he's been at the same school since he started PPCD at 3. Everyone there knows, and loves, him.
Taneisha - posted on 01/25/2011
My son is 6 and has maybe 20 words. He is now trying to imitate you when you say things. We use the PECS system with him which helps him with his speech as well because he not only gives you the pec he wants but attempts to say the word as well.
Tina - posted on 01/25/2011
My son didnt start talking until he was almost 4. I noticed something was wrong at age 1 1/2 when he didnt say the dada and mama stuff that is normal for that age. He started a special pre-school at age 2 and started speech therapy. By the time he started Kindergarten he was able to communicate more clearly, but still had shut downs and behavior problems. He is 15 now and his speech is fine and behaviorally he is MUCH better, although he still has issues with social situations and interacting in High School. But he played football this year for the 1st time! I think getting them in the right programs and whatever help is available in your area is key.
Thea - posted on 01/25/2011
Hi, my son is nearly 4 and his speech is mostly babbly, I use the PECS system but mostly photos stuck on the fridge of all his foods, drink and activities so he can choose by pointing. I work at a special education school and work in a classroom with amn autistic boy who cannot speak at all at the age of 10 years. It is really a case by case basis, you cannot predict when it will start. I do hope that it starts soon for you and your child, my best wishes to you :-)
Peggy - posted on 01/25/2011
my PDD son is now 8 and he is speaking but not always clear. It took a long time to get where he is now, the right school helped a lot (the past 2 years is when he has made the most progress). The key is getting a great speech therapy going and giving him different tools to communicate (picture boards etc.) Eventually it will come!
Tanya - posted on 01/25/2011
My son is 3 1/2 and he only really started talking when he turned 3. Only in the last 2 months has he started using 2-3 worded sentences and it's only things he has picked up from me. He asks for things when needed, but other than that he talks to himself in his own lil language, he's very verbal in that respect. I was told talking to him all the time whether he responds or not, is one of the best things possible and so far it has worked in our benefit as I didn't think I would ever hear his sweet voice. Have you tried picture cards? my son never really took to them but I've heard they work well for some children.
Christina - posted on 01/19/2011
My son in 5 1/2 and doesn't speak. He will say bye sometimes and will occasionally pick up a word and say it repeatedly for a couple days then you'll never hear it again. He has receptive language, he understands everything that is said. He can also get on the computer and type the alphabet backwards and forwards. I am trying to get him to spell words but he's too interested in the alphabet and won't cooperate. I figure the speech will happen when he's ready, if not we will find other ways to communicate. We have started PECS at school but he's only making limited use of it.
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