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Who has the right?

Fern - posted on 12/27/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I'm just curious to see what your opinions would be about who has the right to make the choice of having another child or not in a relationship.



I'll use my family as an example:



Me and my fiance have a little girl who is 14 months, after i had her i felt like i would like another one, my fiance on the other hand has made it clear that he doesn't want another child. At first i found this quite difficult to come to terms with as i'm only 23 and felt like i had just made all my eggs redundant (probably stupid i know) but now 14 months have past and i feel pretty much fine about it, things feel cosy and i like the way life is, i'm enjoying working towards making a better future for our little girl. Even if my fiance did end up saying that we could try for another baby i would only want to if he was 100%, our little girl was concieved with love and with both of us wanting a baby, if we were to have another one that's how i would want that baby to be concieved, not just due to one of us giving in.



So in your opinion if one person wants a child and another doesn't where is the even ground? How would you compromise?



Fern

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Tracy - posted on 12/30/2009

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Hi, My husband was the same as ur fiance in that he was very happy with one, my husband hated the whole childbirth, he does not see it as natural..... so he was no one's enough.... i wanted at least one more.... it took 3 years for him to change his mind, however i never pushed him into it..... if u are happy with one then that great u do whats best for ur family, i could now go for more but i think it will take him another 3 year to be ready for the next... lol.... ur young so u have plenty of time to have another one, i say if u want another just be patient and don't hide it if u do want another just don't push it, he may come around....

Erin - posted on 12/27/2009

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my hubby and i have 3 daughters.we never agreed on a set number, we are very happy with our girls and have never "tried for a boy". i sometimes think i want another baby, i love being pregnant and have a newborn in the house, but my hubby says he is done, he thinks 3 is a good sized family. he is 1 of 3. we have decided to leave it up to fate, me, personnaly, i am not taking any percotions to stop myself from getting pregnant and my husband knows this. if he wants to prevent a pregnancy, then its his responsobility. if we never had another baby, i am very happy with my family the way it is right now, and i know if we had another baby my husband would love the little bundle as he loves the three we already have. if a child is ment to be , it will happen

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