Askin daddy to be more supportive nd helpful

Tonya - posted on 02/21/2010

lol Lexi that is the best!!! My babys dad is awsome he helps out with everything cooking, cleaning, he does the dishes and laundry all the time I never do laundry and rarely do dishes it kicks ass he also takes time when he comes home from work to ask me about my day and just hold me in his arm. But it wasn't always like this. He use to be very lazy and didn't know how to show emotion, we have been together for years and I had to kick his ass to the curb a few times and when I found out I was prego I sat him down and told him Look I know your father never showed affection but I'll be damned if my son grows up that way!!! I told him either he learned to show affection and emotions or be like his father the rest of his life and be alone.. He shaped right up, sometimes a guy don't know anything different from how they saw thier dad or lack there of. maybe he needs to be told how to be a father to his little girl...

Lexi - posted on 02/21/2010

I just said I was too tired to have sex and if he could chip in more, I wouldn't be so tired and we could have sex again. WORKED LIKE A CHARM! Now he spends loads of time with her and even changes her and feeds her when I ask (most of the time). Our relationship is better too cos he actually tries to make me happy in bed. Sorry ladies if you think this is sexist but it is our only weapon, everything else (cooking, cleaning and childcare) he will just take for granted.

Adena - posted on 02/19/2010

i have a similar situation except we live together and it just seems like he expects to cook clean and take care of the baby my 2 yr old and his 9 yr old all at the same time but i cant get it across to him that i neeed help! if i wanted to be a single mom i would move out.i will let the baby cry until he gets sick of it and picks him up or i tell him"hun i need you to tend to the baby cause i'm cooking" but mine wont even change a diaper!!

Rebecca - posted on 02/17/2010

Thanx Ashley nd Faith but we dnt live together @ the moment nd its hard to get him wen he is around cuz he tends to himself nd tht hurts cuz the baby could be cry nd he wont move an inch to check on her I would have to stop what am doin to get her.... I understand the fact of being scared of the baby cuz shes little but come on... She still needs a father in her life regardless of the fears.... i jus hope he comes around soon cuz it'll be to late if he doesn't... I JUS FEELIN LOST IN THIS SITUATION....

Faith - posted on 02/16/2010

Confront him, as with most guys they cant read our minds. My hubby was also scared (lol) of our firstborn. Also I began really listen when we would argue...the usual response from him was "tell me what you want me to do" Sometimes its that simple, but also that hard to get across. You time is important for you to be a good mommy, wife and functioning human being, It is hard when they work tons, but you all will eventually find your niche :)

Ashley - posted on 02/16/2010

I guess I would confront him about it if I were you. Maybe he has a good reason I know my hubby is scared of babies when they are as small as they are now. It's hard enough to be a mom without help all day. When he is home I would want him to help too. My hubby doesn't get home till about 8pm and by that time I am so spent I am on a short fuse. Just tell him how you feel maybe he thinks he is doing more then he is and it's just a communication issue. I think if you don't confront him and ask him it will just start to dig at you and you may never forgive him for not helping when the baby was young. Hope that helps