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Clingy??

Michelle - posted on 12/06/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am really looking for some help! My son just turned 1 last week and has become a clingy, crying mess anytime I leave the room. Sadly, he started a new daycare last week and has been crying from the time I drop him off and throughout the day, he even cries as soon as he sees me when I come to pick him up. This started right before the Thanksgiving Holiday and it seems to be getting worse. The only time he seems content is when he's in my arms or holding onto my leg. It's been the most trying time for me as a mom, he won't even go to my husband. I am glad he loves me so much, but I am just wondering the best way to approach this? Any suggestions welcome....

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Mandie - posted on 12/21/2010

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As a stay at home mom, I don't really come across this issue with my daughter too often. However, from the times that I have left her with somebody else, and from what I have read, there are a few good ways to deal with Separation Anxiety. First, if it is at all possible, you should stay with your child for a few minutes at the daycare before you leave to help him relax and get used to the surroundings. Be enthusiastic about the caregiver there; babies are extremely good at picking up on your feelings. Also it's a good idea to make your goodbyes short and to the point: tell him that you're going to work, will be back at whatever time, give him a quick hug and kiss, and leave. Don't come back where he can see you. I have found out from personal experience that if you go back when they are upset only to rush out again, it can only makes things worse. Acknowledge the fact that you will be gone, but don't slip out the back so he thinks you've vanished into thin air. It will take some time for him to adjust, but if you take it slow and reassure him, things should work out. If they aren't getting any better, you might want to think about a different daycare as it could just be the wrong place for your child.

Amy - posted on 12/19/2010

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i have heard that babies go in and out of this phase my son goes from wanting me to my husband if one of us leaves the room he cries. we try to make it into a game of bye bye but we return with in a few minutes so he understnads that we always come back. the only suggestion i can think of is maybe take something familar to him to the daycare if thats aloud, his favorite blanket, stuffed animal or toy but make sure its something you play with, with him so he associates the toy or whatever it is with you and then get the daycare provider to play with it to maybe it will ease the process a little bit. sorry i dont have more ideas but i havent left my son hardly at all with other people due to the fact im a stay at home mom and dont have reliable people to watch him.

Jaime - posted on 12/07/2010

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I don't have any suggestions sorry but it sure sounds like Separation Anxiety. My 11 month old gets it bad from time to time ... I blame a lot of it because he has been constantly sick these past couple of months.

He will grow out of it I'm sure, as annoying and stressful it can be, try to tune him out ... that's what I do anyways :)

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