December babies

Lauren - posted on 01/13/2011

I was adopted and my parents had a 4 1/2 b-day for me (not that I remember now) and on my oldest son'd 1st b-day- his grandfather was buried. We had repast and at the dinner, everyone sang Happy Birthday to him. It was weird for me but my son didn't care. I think having the party later or earlier is a good idea. When they are younger, they don't care. Have the party whenever you want! It's a day to celebrate not to stress out. If you do it in January, you will be less stressed. Have a cake on the actual day and have the party later. We do the same with our oldest (August baby) because his b-day doesn't always fall on a weekend. Same thing. Do it the day that works best for you.

Michele - posted on 01/07/2011

My son just turned one on the 31st. I invited almost 30 people for his bday party and only 4 showed up. :( I'm strongly considering doing what a friend told me his mom did. My friend is mid 20's and his mom always threw him a bday party in July!!!! Sounds fun and I just might do that!

Krystle - posted on 01/07/2011

Yeah my daughter turned one on December 29th, and it was so hard on our wallet coming up with Christmas presents and her birthday party, but we somehow managed.

Beth - posted on 01/05/2011

I was the same way at first but i just bought my lil girl the out door toys like a coozy coop and a wagon and still let her play with them inside. her bday is the 29 but i make sure her birthday and christmas are two different celebrations its not there fault that their bday fell on XMAS or near it.

Shaniqua - posted on 01/04/2011

MY DAUGHTER'S TURNED 1 ON THE 18TH. IT'S BAD TO SAY BUT I ALMOST FORGOT BECAUSE IT CAME SO FAST AND GETTING PREPARED FOR CHRISTMAS AND EVERYTHING. I'M USUALLY 2WKS AHEAD ON PLANNING A PARTY I WAS BASICALLY DOING EVERYTHING FOR PARTY 2DAYS TO HER PARTY. IT WAS HER FIRST BIRTHDAY SO WE HAD TO HAVE A PARTY, CAN'T TAKE THAT AWAY FROM ANY CHILD. SO WE HAD PARTY THAT SAT AND CHRISTMAS THE FOLLOWING SAT. SHE REALLY ENJOYED HERSELF. BUT ALMOST FORGOT TO GET BIRTHDAY GIFT!! BAD MOMMY LOL BUT SHE AT LEAST GOT 1 GIFT FROM MOMMY AND DADDY ESPECIALLY SINCE SANTA WAS BRINGING THE REST FOR CHRISTMAS :)

Meredith - posted on 01/04/2011

I can completely understand the frustration. When I found out DS's due date was supposed to be dec. 11 I had to laugh. I am Jewish and hanukkah started dec. 11 last year. He came on Dec. 7 so I had an early hanukkah present. This year we had a huge december! Hanukkah started Dec. 1, his birthday was the 7th, and then we went to my DH's families houses for Christmas Eve and Christmas.

I dont feel bad that his birthday is so close to the holidays. Especially right now. I think it is cool because he will get a full month of celebrations.

As far as the toys...I would see if there is a specific place that things can be out. Especially the large ones. My neighbor cycles through toys so that her kids dont get bored with them..an idea I might try too.

Paulette - posted on 01/03/2011

My son was born Christmas Day. So I know exactly how you're feeling. I threw him a birthday party a week before his Christmas, and made a big deal out of it, although he is only 1. We also bought him outdoor toys for this summer and such.

A friend suggested to me that when he gets older have his parties in the summer or first when school starts and then when Christmas comes just have a little gathering with family at the house.

Ubaid - posted on 01/02/2011

I think it's fun to celebrate both occasion in 1 month. I know it's stressful that your baby is not getting present or much attention as christmas and b'day is very close and for that I suggest you that why don't you all celebrate your babies b'day month in Nov or month after in Jan so that way baby get more attention and present for both occassions.

Marlena - posted on 01/02/2011

i dont feel bad that my daughter was born 4 days before christmas. i actually kinda like it. i can celebrate twice!

Tiffany - posted on 01/02/2011

You know. My daughters birthday is the 16th of December and mine is the 26th, and I feel lucky because I do know what it is like to have a birthday right around Christmas time. My parents have always been great about keeping my birthday and Christmas separate, and I intend to do the same with my little one. I lived with my mother in law for a short time this summer and I had more problems with her having a messing house then with my daughter having toys all over. I would just get him the toys you feel are appropriate for your little one and if you have to get him things that are not in season oh well... you mother-in-law can deal with it and hopefully you will be able to move into your own home soon. If it really bugs you just sit down and chat with each other and discuss how you both are feeling. I KNOW that's hard but it could help and i don't think you want to ruin your relationship with your mother-in-law... Good Luck!!!

Stephanie - posted on 01/02/2011

the 26th is my sons birthday for me it is a very tough time cause christmas my sons birthday then his fathers birthday is the 27th as well so christmas is always a bad time for birthdays but I guess I also don't have the problem of a mean inlaw good luck with that and I'm very sorry ur son seems to have to pay for it

Jade - posted on 01/02/2011

my sons turned one on christmas and i feel a bit bad about him havin to share his birthday with everyone :/ coz brithdays r super important in our family but we r deturmined to celebrate both occassions and from next year on we will be celebrating his birthday about a month ahead of time so he will not miss out on havin a birthday party specially when it comes to him being in school as noone will have left for school holidays yet
i find it a bit hard to have to split his birthday n christmas and he will always get treated a bit special on christmas but he will have his own day to celbrate aswell
i also find people are silly when it comes to presents, we made sure we got him both chirstmas presents and birthday presents just wrapped different so we know which was for which lol but some people like my sister were just plan rude about it, she haded me his presents(two of them) and said this ones for christmas and this is for his birthday not like he f'in knows the difference
i was shocked at her rudeness but didn't make a scene because i wanted everyone to have a good time, i was very hurt by the comment though, does she think that just coz his birthday is christmas means that he doesn't diserve to have his own special day??? its really hard but some pleople are just plane lazy when it comes down to it and the 'combine' presents but as long as you make him feel special nothing else matters

good luck with it and just ride out the probs with ur mil hopefully she'll come round and realise one day
xoxo jade

Tameka - posted on 01/01/2011

I'm making a big deal out my daughter's birthday every year. She was born on Christmas Day and, frankly, it doesn't bother me. I could get hung up on it and my daughter will learn to be disappointed or I could (which I do) help her celebrate her birthday on the 25th. This year we did the "Christmas thing" in the morning and in the afternoon we had her birthday cake and presents. She will always have extended family with her to help celebrate her day so there will always be plenty of love for her. I also plan on giving her presents in June as that is when her sister's birthday is. My eldest gets presents on my youngest's birthday so my youngest will be getting presents in June too. Only seems fair and my eldest is looking forward to them both opening presents!!!

Alisha - posted on 12/31/2010

I know where you are coming from my son turned 1 on the December 17th and we live with my grandparents and I feel bad that all of his toys are taking over their living room and they don't like it but I'm lucky they aren't completely rude about it. In a way I feel bad about my sons birthday being so close to christmas but then again he was the best christmas present I could have ever asked for. So I understand what your saying I'm just happy people have still been nice enough to get his both birthday and christmas presents and haven't been rude about it. With the whole toy thing I let him play with whatever he wants to, I keep all the smaller toys in our room in a tub and the big toys in the living room since there isn't any room cause we share a room. But good luck and hopefully things work out for you both in the long run just try not to stress out too much about it.

Elfrieda - posted on 12/26/2010

I kind of feel bad for my son, too, but I'm also kind of glad. We'll keep his birthday parties small and low-key, just because it's ANOTHER gathering in a month with so many already. But it's not really a bad thing, because it will help us keep it simple with our other (future) kids. That's what I want to do anyway, but this extra little reminder is good. I think a book and one present and a small party and ones choice of supper and a homemade cake are perfect for any birthday.
And I don't know where you live, but if we're lucky and get some snow we can have a tobogganning party, or a snowfort building party. Good times.

Krystal - posted on 12/26/2010

I totally understand. I live with my mother and law and she gets irritated when his toys are all over but what are we supposed to do? He is at the age where he NEEDS to play. We can't just hold him all day to keep things clean! He turned a year old on the 21st and got a few things for that and nothing for Christmas from anyone but my husband and me. It really does feel like people are punishing him...

Candice - posted on 12/26/2010

Well I just keep telling myself our son is equal just like everyone else in this world and has a birthday so he should get just as much attention on this day as everyone else. Doesn't mean just because it's close to christmas he misses out on things or gets less, or we don't acknowledge it. My son's born on 31st December and yes it will be a hectic week but birthdays to us are more important than christmas so we will surely have more fun than christmas this year knowing that he will be one on friday!

Lucy - posted on 12/25/2010

My son also turns one tomorrow!! Can't believe a year has gone by already.

Your mother in law doesn't sound very nice. I don't understand though, is she living with you or are you living with her? If it's your place, I wouldn't worry about what makes her happy but if it's her place, then I understand your situation. Your poor little guy :( Maybe you could take out one toy a week and keep rotating them this way he won't be deprived and there won't be too many around to annoy your MIL.

As for my kid getting the short end of the stick - well I make sure to throw a birthday part separate from Christmas so he gets gifts for both occasions.