falling sleep

Cindy May - posted on 01/04/2011 ( 21 moms have responded )

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my little girl is one now.
in the beginning i followed all the advice about putting baby down, not slapee, eyes must open so they can learn to fall asleep on their own etc etc etc. then the teeth came and she was inconsolable - so we started rocking her to sleep. Then I was given a sleep traiing schedule and I just can do it. So I have been looking up on the internet how to go about sleep training without crying - and all i can find is set the routine so that it signals bed time for them.

open to any and all advice.

latest thing is she won't let me rock her - every time i lay her down in my arms she starts wiggling and moaning until she is fighting me - my husband now has to rock her to sleep.

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Kristy - posted on 01/29/2011

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Maybe try giving her one sleep a day after lunch, Once she is up in the morning wear her out and then have lunch a little earlier around 11am as she will be tired as she iswnt use to only having one sleep and then when she gets up in the arvo keep her up. I changed my son from 2 naps to one in the afternoon after lunch and he went from sleeping 10 hours a night to 12 hours within a week. He does self soothe though as he sucks on his hand till he falls asleep. Also having a bedtime between 7 and 8pm might help if she goes to bed at around 6ish. Good Luck.

Cindy May - posted on 01/26/2011

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She is sleeping 9-10 hours a night and then 2 daytime naps of 45 min-65 min.

I tried just sitting with her tonight and she sits up, pulls up on the bars, walks around cot, bangs wall, gives me her blankie through the bars, gives me her dummy. I finally put my hand by her leg so she couldn't flip over and sit up and after 15 min she finally went to sleep - total of 70 min.
I will try pretending to sleep as well.

Divya - posted on 01/19/2011

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To wean het off rocking will be difficult in the beginning but once u pretend to sleep she will play on her own... And fall off to sleep... How much is she sleeping in the day?

Divya - posted on 01/19/2011

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Hi Cindy... Yes her cot is right next to me.... Once she sleeps I put her back.... And she doesn't wake up again...

Noelene - posted on 01/18/2011

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Hi CindyMay - i went to a sleep clinic when my little boy was about 13 months and they explained a new way of settling baby to sleep called camp bed method. I would put my little boy in his cot and lay beside the cot (on a little thin mattress for comfort) and put my hand in to pat his back then i stopped patting him and just put my hand inside the cot beside him. You gradually move your bed away from the cot until you are out the door. I put soft music on and a really dim night light and it worked for me with no tears.

Cindy May - posted on 01/17/2011

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Divya - Do you put her in the bed with you? is she in the same room as you? Should I put her in her cot and pretend to sleep in her room? I am ready to just stop rocking because all she is now is comfortable for a while then starts crying and thrashing. Please explain again in detail what you do so I can try it.
Thanks

Divya - posted on 01/17/2011

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I went cold turkey.... I had to rock her sevral times at night... Now I let her sleep on her own she comes close to me and eventually falls off to sleep... She took time initially... I used to lie down n watch... She played on her own and finally slept.... Give her milk and put her in bed and pretend to sleep... See if it works.... Be patient... All the best :)

Jeanett - posted on 01/16/2011

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my son is 13 months and been falling asleep on his own since he was 9 months :)

Cindy May - posted on 01/15/2011

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Thanks everyone - now trying to make her sleep routine start a but later so try to put her down about 8pm instead of 6.30/7 with more formula as well - hopefully it will work.

Aneta - posted on 01/14/2011

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Forget about sleep training without tears :) there will be some crying of complaining until your baby learns soothing herself. You should establish and follow a routine, which is suitable both for you and her and strictly follow it. Introduce a transition object that will help her soothe - that will be a preferred stuffed toy. Just make sure your baby is safe when your leave the room, attach some bumpers if needed, eliminate pillows and blankets, no bottles in bed too. Put a comforting light with music next to her crib. Make sure the nursery has the right temperature ( 18 -20 degrees C is recommended), or at least open the window for a while before the sleep time. Make sure there is a small light in the nursery, but its dark enough. Good luck!

Sara - posted on 01/12/2011

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I breastfeed my daughter and she usually falls asleep to that. There are times she wants to lay down before she's asleep, so I lay her down on her stomach(she sleeps a lot longer if on her stomach), cover her up, and pat her back and sing. She used to be a really bad sleeper, but she's starting to get a lot better. She does go to sleep about 8, sometimes later.

Tiziana - posted on 01/11/2011

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Every child is different, mine sounds just like Candice's. We had a routine and no matter what he would not go to sleep when I would put him down, he would just cry and cry. I am not a fan of the cio method, so one night so upset of listening to him crying I got him out of the crib brought him in the living room, lowered the lights and the tv and just let him do whatever, I did not talk or play with him. After about 20 minutes he came to me rubbing his eyes, put him in the crib and he was out. He was pretty good with the time always between 7 and 8. Now the last few night he seems to wanna stay up later. I dont mind he gets his 12-13 hrs of sleep a day and he is a happy little guy.

Ellie - posted on 01/11/2011

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I hve found the most important thing with children is routine, if you follow the same bedtime routine every night it wont matter what time you put your baby down, they will sleep, all my 5 have milk, wash and teeth, story wth music lightshow whilst reading.. 10 minutes later asleep! All of them including my baby cried when getting used to it, and every now and then if something is a bit different she will get upset, but rubbing her hand or back or stroke her hair works.. i find though once i have said goodnight it is best not to speak again, just lie her down if she gets up and over her again.. the mportant thing is not to get upset yourself cus your baby will pick up off you :)x

Kim - posted on 01/07/2011

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That's tough I'm sorry! I have been lucky with my two (knock on wood) Ever since they were about 3 or 4 months old they have been putting themselves to sleep and go to bed every night at 6pm and wake at 6am. We would let them cry a little and then go sooth them to sleep by touching their head or rubbing their cheek. I would never let them cry for long periods of time, but eventually the crying decreases and they learn how to self soothe. They are finger/thumb suckers and sleep with a blankie and they go right to bed.

Carrie - posted on 01/06/2011

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My daughter is 12mos and she wasa pacifier baby. Well we decided to stop when she fell asleep 2 nights in a row and now she likes to be rocked. Well I work and go to school and I havent been at school till now and I havent been working a lot so all she wants is me. But now she will fall asleep anywhere and when I still lay her down she screams and cries. She just laid down and she took a night time Abby Cadabby and only whined for a minute. I would try a doll or toy like a glow worm try putting a night light or even a radio with soothing music. And dont get upset bc my daughter i swear knows when I am. :) good luck! Im going through the same thing

Sarah - posted on 01/06/2011

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It will only take a day or 2 of letting her cry herself to sleep for her to understand that she is in the crib to sleep and she won't be getting rocked. It might be a hard couple of nights for you but it really does work. My son goes down at 7 and goes right to sleep and sleeps until 7 or 8 am. Good luck!

Cindy May - posted on 01/05/2011

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Thank all - I will look into the books and feeding her more. It could be she is not full enough but she stops drinking her bottle - has a look around - we go and say good night to everybody and then I put her down - maybe i shall try more feeding then before putting down.

Candice - posted on 01/04/2011

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don't know if I am crazy or lucky but I put my son to bed when he is ready - whether it's 7pm or 10pm - usually no later than 11pm but he is usually very good to put to bed. Also it depends on what time he has his daytime nap to whether what time he goes to bed at night. He is great company to have around so I don't mind him being up and he;ll usually just play with his toys or sit with us and when he is tired will come hug us or want to be with us so we put him down and he goes to sleep all night most of the time. My son HATES rocking...think I have jinxed it once or twice and plus I'm told its bad to do as a habit for your child but also for womens hips! Just do whats right by you and don't listen to everyone else.

Belinda - posted on 01/04/2011

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Im a big beleiver in that when they play up like that its for a reason theyre not just being naughty. At least thats the way it is with my daughter. Recently she had become very difficuilt to get down just kept screaming but was obviously tired I thought it was her teeth too as she had not long cut one and they do seem to come in twos. I worked out however it was because she wasnt full. I would give her her meals and offer bottles as usual as well as snacks and she can be quite fussy and difficuilt to feed. I just perervered at feeding her for longer, got her to eat more and now she goes down like an angel.

Tameka - posted on 01/04/2011

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I use the "No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. Her book has so many ideas in it. If something doesn't work for you there is another option. I used to rock my daughter to sleep too and when she was nine months I was tired of it. As soon as I stopped rocking her she'd wake up. I hardly ever slept!! Now my daughter has a drink of milk before sleep and I stay with her (I read a book to pass the time) until she falls asleep. She falls asleep about 5-10 minutes after her milk. Much better than spending hours on end with a protesting baby in your arms!

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