i'm not stupid

Charlene - posted on 08/18/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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i am sick of people saying im stupid because i have a 1 year old and 22 weeks pregnant. i don't understand what there problem is, its people who dont even know me like the mil friends she bumps in to when im with her and one of her friends said i look to young to look after a baby and it was in a realy nasty way. i am nearly 21. i think its good when children are close in age. my children mean the world to me.

i was just wondering if anyone else has children close in age and are getting people saying nasty things.

thanx and congrats to you all with your new babies :) x

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Megan - posted on 10/02/2009

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Hey..I am in touch with that..I have 3 kids and pregnant with number 4 and i am only 23..Started young and i wouldnt trade it for anything. I have a 5 year old born May 4th 2004, a 4 year old born June 26th 2005, and a 1 year old born May 13th 2008. This one is due December 26th. I love having my kids close together and congrats to you on the new baby! If you need to talk you can message me if you want :)

Kerin - posted on 10/01/2009

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I just turned 21 and I have a 4 year old, 2 year old, and then my December baby on the way. I often get told I look too young to have children of course it does not help that I look 14. The best advice I can give it to just brush it off. I know it's infuriating, but you know you are a great mom and that is all that matters. When people see me in piblic with my boys I often get asked "Those are YOUR kids, how old are you?" after much trial and error I found the BEST response to be "I'm older than you think I am" and to leave it at that. I also believe it is good for children to be close in age. My boys are exactly 2 year 4 days apart (so yes my oldest was also 1 while I was expecting) and they are soooo incredibly close to each other. It's amazing!

Irena - posted on 09/27/2009

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It doesn't really matter how old you are when you have your babies,The younger the better I would say,specially coz I got to be a mum when I was 29 already,too late 4 my opinion,but anyway that's life.Now I'm expecting another one and the difference between two of them is going to be almost 5 yrs.No matter what the gap you have between your babies,the only thing it matters that you love them and I'm sure u r going to be a great mum to both of them.And for those people that make such remarks,they r jealous,don't listen to any of that.I wish you all the good luck and enjoy your babies.

Cheers

Cassandra - posted on 09/27/2009

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You poor thing. People need to learn how to shut their mouths. What a horrible, negative attitude to give anyone, let alone a pregnant woman. I am 28 and have 2 daughters. One is 8, and the other is 5. I am now 27 weeks pregnant with my third. A boy!! I am so happy that I have 3 beautiful children to look after and love. Maybe those who judge you are miserable in their own lives, and are jealous. Don't worry what people say. I wish you the best of luck, and I'm sure you're a great mom. :-)

Cassandra - posted on 09/27/2009

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Hello everyone. Im due with my 2nd a little boy come Dec 3rd. Although the dr doesnt think ill make it till dec.... I have a almost 4 year old daughter. Im kinda terrified bc my kids will be a little over 4 years apart.. i feel as if i forgot everything about babies.. hahahaha im sure it will all come back to me.. but the little diapers and what not.. crazy that i just cant remember my daughter that small anymore.. hahahaha

Candice - posted on 09/26/2009

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My boys are 1year and 3days apart and I would not have it any other way. It is easy for me that way. My baby is due in Dec and I am scared because of how far apart the kids are in age. So no you are not alone

Brittany - posted on 09/26/2009

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forget them. I just turned 21 and i have a 16month old and am 26 weeks pregnant. You do what you want!

Alanna - posted on 08/23/2009

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Congrats!!!!!!!!

I am I have a 5 year old an 8 month old and am 23 weeks pregnant today, my next baby is due 4 days before my last and I am sooo excited!! You will do great, and I say screw the ppl who have comments or nasty remarks on your decisions in life. What works for one person may not for the next.

I say just ignore them, and continue being a great mommy!

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You're not stupid. It's a personal choice. I personally like the idea of one being potty trained first before having another one, but that doesn't mean your choice is wrong. Everyone is different.

Tania - posted on 08/21/2009

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I have an 11 month old and am 23 weeks pregnant.
I have people saying "wow your going to have your handsful arent you?" and I just think would it have made a difference if we had waited longer? just gets annoying after the first 50 times you hear it ;)

just read your comment you have a little boy & are having a girl! (me too!)

Kelly - posted on 08/20/2009

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I have 3 and one more on the way, and I get it all the time. My oldest is 4, so everyone seems to think they need to say something about it. We were out to eat the other day and some old man said something to me like where did you get all of those kids, they can't all be yours. I hate it when people put their noses in where they don't belong.

Charlene - posted on 08/19/2009

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i know what you mean my mother was 17 when she had me, 18 with my brother then 19 with my sister she said we were the easiest out of the 6 shes got xx

Denise - posted on 08/18/2009

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Your not stupid. I have a 10 month old and I am 24 weeks pregnant. I havent got any rude comments but several people say it will be hard at first but down the road they will be so close, you will be happy you had them that close together. And as for nearly being 21, I think being younger would make it even easier. My mother was 17 when she had me and my twin sister and she said we were her easiest children.

User - posted on 08/18/2009

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Only you can decide if and when you are ready for children. You are the one taking care of them and providing for them. It's hard to ignore people, but basically, ignore them! :)! Some people feel the need to criticize others no matter what.

Enjoy your children! Just think, they'll always have a playmate right around the same age and you'll be done potty trainning in about 3 1/2 years! :)!

Charlene - posted on 08/18/2009

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thanx hun... i am totaly ready im so exited lol we are having a lil girl this time so one of each :)

Heather - posted on 08/18/2009

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no you are not stupid. i have a boy born Feb 07, one born Oct 08 and this baby due Dec 09 so don't worry you are not alone.



i think if you can handle the responsibility and care for them then no matter how close together they are you are ready for them....as ready as you'll ever be.

congrats on the new baby.

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