Last name for baby

Shayla - posted on 11/10/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Hi. My name is Shayla and I am 8 1/2 months pregnant. I'm having some issues with the last name because of her father. I want her to have my last name because the father and I are not together. I do wanna put his name on the birth certificate but he has treated me like dirt since I told him she will have my last name, not that he wasn't before but anyways. I want my daughter to have the same last name as me. He already has a 7 year old son who has his last name. This is very important to me. He says the baby is always suppose to get the father's last name. I don't see it as a law so therefor I'm free to choose. Pls give me some advice. I could really use it.

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You do NOT have to give your baby his last name. I'm pretty sure that only when you are married does he have any say because it is assumed that any children born during the marriage are considered his. It is outdated and silly for him to assume that just because he fathered the child that it should have his last name. It would be very easy for you and your child to have the same last name. Less confusion down the road and since the child is gonig to be female any name you give her now would only be dropped (I would assume) once she eventually got married. If you have no connection to the father other than he is the father do what you want. He has no real say and it's only a name.

Dianisha - posted on 11/11/2009

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My son has both my last name and his fathers last name, and we are also no longer together. Both names are on his birth certificate, and my son uses his last name in school, but when he gets to an age where he can decide what last name he wants to carry, I will leave that decision up to him.

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Alicia - posted on 12/30/2009

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same happened to me... my daughter has my last name... her father has 5 other kids with his last name... i say give ur daughter your last name

Kylie - posted on 12/18/2009

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ultimately its ur choice, if u want to put ur last name then doit, ur the 1 who fills out the forms. I dont no wer u r but here in Aust the baby is nown by the mothers last name in hosp so if he comes to see u in the hosp, he will get greeted with ur lastname anyway

Ryan - posted on 12/13/2009

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Me and my sons father are not together either. I just had our son on Nov 27th and he has both are last names..Hes Thomas Teagan Rodriguez-Davis.

Brittany - posted on 12/07/2009

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my original birth certificate has my last name as the same as my mothers and then when i was older it was changed to be the same as my fathers. If you are unsure, i would make it yours and if things get better down the road i guess you can change it. I am not sure of the process though.. Good luck and do what you want.

Christine - posted on 12/07/2009

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If you are having a girl it doesnt make much of a difference whether she has your name or the father's as when she is older she'll get married and take her husbands name so I dont know why he is making a fuss. I have chosen to give my son his fathers last name even though we arent married. Its just my opinion that boys should have thier fathers surname to carry on the family name. But ultimately it is up to you and dont let him pressure you...there is no law to say a child has to have the fathers name!!

Christina - posted on 11/20/2009

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There is NO law that says that! This is YOUR decision.YOU are the one carrying this child and YOU will be the one taking care of it. If you feel its important to have the same last name as your child, than so be it. You could hyphenate the name if you want to include him. But it is ultimately your choice. Good luck sweetie...

Kayla - posted on 11/19/2009

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I wouldn't give her his last name, if you don't want to no one force you, it is your choice. I didn't have my father last name till my parents married when i was 3, My mother was unsure were there relationship was going and she didn't want me to have a different name to her. So he is wrong saying that babies are always suppose to get the father name, If you don't see yourself get married to him or you are married to him, i would give the child your last name, if he likes it or not

Shayla - posted on 11/16/2009

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Oh I'm putting his name on the birth certificate as her father....Just don't want her having his last name.

Allison - posted on 11/15/2009

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im in the same boat as you girl. my son will have my last name and im keeping the fatehrs name off the birth certificate.

Chrisandra - posted on 11/12/2009

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My twins have my maiden name. I still carry it as a middle name but use their fathers' as a last name. At the time of their birth, we were on the outs. I put his name on the birth certificate and could have put any last name I chose for theirs. As we have gotten married and they are over 1yr I have to go through the courts and SSI in order to change it to the 'family' name. Now that I am preggers again this has become an issue for me-do I give all the kids 2 last names, 2 middle names (my maiden as 1) or do I let them carry their dad's. As I'm an only child I always wanted to carry/pass on the name I was born with.

Long story short, from experience, be sure that you are not gonna get back with 'dad' if you give her your last name. Otherwise do what you want.

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