not walking yet

Mary - posted on 02/07/2011 ( 47 moms have responded )

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my son will cruise around furniture or walk if i hold his hands, but the minute i let go he crouches down to crawl. he's been crawling since he was 7 months.

any tips???

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Angela - posted on 02/08/2011

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Hi ya :)

Trust me hun he is fine - if he is cruising and hand holding he is just building the confidence he needs to move out on his own. From what I am reading - This is a confidence issue not a developmental one.

As it grows you may notice the side sliding between say the coffee table and the couch or chair - where one hand will have just finger tips touching as the other reaches across - and a very quick step to the other object to grab with both hands.

These over-zealous lunges can result in a few bruised chins as hand eye co-ordination develops.

Eventually as his balance improves he will start to take a few unsupported steps between to objects he knows are secure - ie they are not going to move as he reaches out for them.
I would not recommend introducing push trollies until he is happy taking steps between objects that don't move.

Once he is capable of taking a few steps unaided then this is where a push toy could help his balance - although it is not necessary. (I never used them with my own little boy)
Also be aware that he will lean on it and will not be in control of his speed - so it essential that he is within arms reach as he won't have the reflex to let go if it "gets away" from him and will likely result in falling flat on his face still clutching the handle.

With the hand holding, again as his confidence grows he will hold one finger on each of your hands, then just one hand and then he may let go and hold your skirt/jeans etc - he wants to learn he just needs to feel safe doing it.

I don't know what your weather is like but I would also recommend that he is barefoot as much as possible while learning to walk. Being barefoot sends thousands of sensory cues to the brain about the level, surface and texture of the floor as well as telling the foot, ankle, leg, hip, back, chest arms, ears etc etc etc what to do in order to stay upright and the the thousands of cues of moving one leg forward etc etc etc (Literally thousands, probably millions of cues all happening at the same time)

Physically what you will see happen is his toes splay and grip the floor as he leans forward to stop himself falling over.

This sensory development is lost if the feet are inside shoes as the shoes sole provides the balance - as they are always wider than a childs own foot.

If it is cooler then socks with the no-slip soles as your next closest to bare feet.
After about 6 weeks of confident walking then you can introduce shoes for short times.

Anyway he is probably walking in the time it has taken me to write this lol. If you have any questions let me know.

All the best xx

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Its ok..give him time. I was like that with my daughter. But now she is doing it on her own little by little. Dont push him to walk cause if he falls he will be scared later to do it alone n will take longer. I guess he will give you a surprise when you least expect it.

Marcy - posted on 02/12/2011

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Mine has been walking since 10 months. How I envy your plight. I am exhausted since she started climbing about 3 months ago. She is fearless and must be part monkey! :)

He is a more cautious little dude; and would rather take care than bust his butt landing on the floor. :) He will get there in HIS time; the one thing I have learned as a parent is that EVERY kid is different and does things at the right time for them.

Good luck. :)

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Mary - posted on 05/29/2011

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he's walking now. yay! he started about 4 weeks ago after i got him some striderite shoes. sometimes he'll get down to crawl, but for the most part he teeters around. not running yet, thank god! ii'm ok waiting for that.

Sarah - posted on 05/22/2011

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My son didn't start walking until he was 16 mon. old! He is now 17 and a half mon. but is still wobbly at times, he still falls down some, but is doing a lot better since I got him high top shoes!

Lisa - posted on 05/02/2011

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Let him be! My daughter was the same way and one day just did it all by herself! He will take his first steps when he is ready!

Adriana - posted on 05/01/2011

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doctors will tell u not to worry till there 18 months old then u can see a specialist and see if everything is alright every child is different my son was rolling back and forth when he was only three months he was advanced then he started slowing down and didnt walk till 14 months so it all depneds your child will walk when there ready :)

Billie - posted on 04/28/2011

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My daughter has been walking on her own since she was 9 months old. I have had my hands full ever since! Don't worry you will be running after him soon enough!

Laila - posted on 04/26/2011

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Zaina is 16 months, downsyndrom, not walking yet but creeping, am doing my best to help her to do so soon

Mary - posted on 04/12/2011

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we just bought him his 1st walking shoes and he took his 1st real steps the very next day! new studies say that bare feet is best when learning to walk but we tried that and it didnt work. leave it to my little monster to be difficult and do it his own way!
he's still not consistently walking on his own but at least he's letting go and toddling away when he wants to.

Amy - posted on 03/15/2011

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My boy was terrified of his push toy due to his sister pushing him dwn wenever he tried. I found buying him some crawling shoes frm Clarks helped him then he lost one so i bought him some proper first shoes and there is no stopping him unless he's tired! Try not to listen to, too many different ppl as its dwn to the individual child and personal preference on how best to encourage them to walk but dnt b too quick to wish him walking as u will soon wish u hadn't! X

Mary - posted on 03/15/2011

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lol nope, hes not walking yet. just a few steps here and there if i or DH are there to catch him.

Amy - posted on 03/15/2011

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I'm sure he is walking by now but my son did the exact same thing and only started on his own about 3wks ago and he has a 3yr old sister that was trying to encourage him even now he sometimes prefers to crawl im glad he took so long as my little girl was walking by 8mths and into everything

Jennifer - posted on 02/28/2011

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My daughter started walking when she was 10 months old..She's 14 months now..I wouldn't be concerned about it..All kids are different..He'll walk when he's ready

Heidi - posted on 02/27/2011

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My son is not walking either. He crawls like a bulldozer. He runs over people, and their legs. He even runs over the cat, who lets him. His brothers walked at 24 mo, and 14 mo.

Angela - posted on 02/22/2011

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hey, my daughter will walk by herself for only a few steps then sit back down, dont worry yourself, he will walk when he is good and ready xx

Brianna - posted on 02/20/2011

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my daughter was born on the 29th of dec 09 and she began walking 2weeks ago totally on her own. She was also holding my hand whenever she wanted to go somewhere and would flop to the floor if i let go. however when my cousin came around with her little one about the same age and height (walking already) that night she began cruisin around in one big circle from one piece of furniture to another. hasn't looked back. perhaps your little one just needs that incentive too. think it was because she was the same height and she must have just thought well hey if your crusin around i have to be able to do it without other people too. lol.

Lisa - posted on 02/20/2011

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My daughter will be 14 months next week and she will only walk w/a push toy or take table toys, laudry baskets and stuff like that, including her high chair and push them like a walker. She will not do it alone yet. I am told this is normal and some kids walk later around 15 months so I won't worry. My 8 year took steps right after her first birthday, so I am trying not to compare them. I will wait and see alitle time before I get concerned. I picked up this one and held her for most of the beginning at she was a late crawler (9 months). She seems more lazy and doesn't want to do it yet. I even say "Walk Like a Big Girl" and she plops down and cries, so maybe she isn't comfortable or self-confident yet. She only weighs approx. 17 lbs. too, maybe she's not strong enough, I will ask the Ped. when we go for the 15 month check up last weekend in March!!!

Corey - posted on 02/20/2011

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you don't really need to start getting concerned about his walking until 18 months. He will do it soon. My child is in special services for his motor skill because he was born early and the teacher says 18 months is the time to get concerned. but you still have 4 months and a lot can happen in 4 months.

Corey - posted on 02/20/2011

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my son is doing the same thing. A couple of things that have helped him take a few steps on his own have been: Get a big pillow and put it on the floor. Your hubby/partner will have to be on one side of the pillow and yo on the other. Hold onto your child's hands and have your hubby motivate him with a toy. Once he has taken a few step let him fall on to the pillow. He will find it a game and want to keep doing it. another thing I have done is to hold onto his hands give him a walking start close to the couch and when he is not aware of it let go and he will walk 2-3 steps the rest of the way to the couch.

Julie - posted on 02/19/2011

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I have four children. The first two babies walked right around their first birthdays. The third baby didn't walk until 17 months. My 14 month old is doing just what your little guy is doing and I am not worried in the least. I'm almost glad that he is still moving on all fours. Sooooo.....I don't really have any advice but just letting you know that he will probably start walking when you least focus on it. Just enjoy every minute with him :)

Joanna - posted on 02/19/2011

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I'll second what I read here--cherish this time!! I have 4 kiddos, and know that once they walk you'll be chasing more! If he's not walking by 18 mos., talk to your pediatrician. Good luck!

Angela - posted on 02/18/2011

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Ah yes the cell phone motivator ;)
I used mine to get my boy to sit in his highchair ! Until he called my friend in Australia that is ....
xxx

Mary - posted on 02/18/2011

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on the 15th he took a few steps by himself. he'll only do it if im standing no more or no less than 3 feet away from him and he has to be holding my cell phone lol.

Brooke - posted on 02/18/2011

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My little man is 14mths and still not ready to walk on his own either.
He has improved alot recently since i bought him a walker. They really are great, and just motivate bubs to let go of the furniture and get out there and walk :).

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My mom said that is what I did, but I would walk when she was not looking. Just stubborn, he will walk when ready. Take him around other toddlers that walk. My son started walking at 9 months and I think it was because he was around other walkers!!

Amber - posted on 02/16/2011

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Yeah my son is 13 months and hes having the hardest time walking, we have the push toys but he just seems scared of them he refuses to walk with them. we can hold his arms and he will walk but he wont just hold hands or fingers to walk

Juli - posted on 02/16/2011

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my daughter 14 months has two of those her fave is a lion that plays music as it moves or its nose is touched she loves walking holdin on to it but will not venture on her own.

Gail - posted on 02/16/2011

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my son was lik that but i was determined to c him walk lol so i got one of those toys that they use to push around n help them walk. they have things they can play with on the front it helps alot my son was walking all by his self the same week. goodluck

Juli - posted on 02/16/2011

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My daughters the same way she has 2 walking toys and has been cruzing for months now but will not walk on her own

Linda - posted on 02/15/2011

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Kids development differently. Keep on encouraging him to walk and fetch things. He will surprise you one of these fine days!!!!

Eleasa - posted on 02/14/2011

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I bought my daughter one of those walking toys for her birthday.three days later you'd never have thought she wasn't walking the week before.

Lindsey - posted on 02/14/2011

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Consider yourself lucky!! My LO (who will be 14 mo on the 24th) took her first steps at 10 1/2 months, but stopped crawling and started primarily walking just a few days before her first birthday. Now she is RUNNING. Plus she is very petite, so people are always commenting at how well she does on her feet. I just smile back over my shoulder as I chase her down the hall... that girl is EVERYWHERE, gets into EVERYTHING, and is sooo FAST!!

If I had my way she wouldn't have started walking till she was 2! I miss the sound of her little hands slapping the floor :)

Angela - posted on 02/13/2011

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Hi Melissa,

Thank you for your ratings :)

I would however be very reluctant to recommend walkers to anyone as they contribute to tens of thousands of accidents around the world every year - and are banned and considered illegal in several countries.

Besides the injuries, research actually shows consistent use of walkers will actually delay independent walking by around 6 months.

I am glad you have had a safe experience with them and your child/children must be walking well to recommend them.

All I want to do here is provide a little food for thought.

All the best x

Melissa - posted on 02/13/2011

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it's not abnormal for him to not be walking yet. all children learn at their own pace, and even if it took him to 18 months to start walking he'd still be developing at normal stages. if you want to speed things along i suggest walkers; it'll teach him that taking steps will help him move, and it will also strengthen his legs. also, stand behind him and have him hold onto both of your index fingers, and basically guide him from behind. it will help him realize that even outside of the walker he can get around this way. just continue to be patient, encouraging, helpful, get overly excited and happy whenever he does something new, and in his own time he'll be running around like a mad man! good luck :0)

Mary - posted on 02/12/2011

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lol yeah we do that. he thinks its a game already. he kinda just falls into my arms and laughs.

Karen - posted on 02/11/2011

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My 14mth old daughter is capable of walking and has walked from sofa to me in centre of the room but most of the time she is just like your child prefering to cruise on the furnishings or hold on to us. Try encouraging just holding one hand or moving slightly further away from their reach and encouraging them to walk to you. It will happen when they're ready and it becomes a fun game.

Angela - posted on 02/09/2011

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Oh and unfortunately the falls are worse too - as over confident little man loses his balances and lunges head first into the wall, couch, coffee table. ouch!

Angela - posted on 02/09/2011

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That's great Mary :) Enjoy these times while he still wants to hold your hand lol.

My little man (14 months) has been walking "toddling" since christmas and now happily wanders away with absolutely no regard for his safety (or my hair-colour ha ha getting grayer it seems by the day) and wants to be independent so hand-holding is a no-no ! Little monkey now has tantrums as I scoop him up out of harms way and spoil his fun.
Oh and doesn't want to be in the buggy now - cos Mr independent can do it himself - there goes my morning exercise ha ha

Oh the joy .... I wish that the "i'm not sure about this" stage had lasted much longer !

They are off and away far too quickly - you will miss it when it's gone :)

All the best xx

Mary - posted on 02/09/2011

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thank you.
Yeah, he already hold onto my one finger with one hand. he will walk that way. that's why it bugs me that he wont walk by himself! he is so good at doing it if i'm holding his hand.
some ppl have told me to put a toy in front of him and let go of his hand, but the second i let go, instead of continuing to walk towards the toy, he will get down to crawl.

he wears footie pjs. we live in buffalo, NY.

Tonya - posted on 02/08/2011

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My son is 14 months old and doesn't stand by himself. He just started crawling around his birthday, he had been scooting on his butt for a long time. He is in therapy and that seems to be helping a lot. I'm hoping he will start walking soon I'm expecting another baby in July.

User - posted on 02/07/2011

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My son is 13 months and is walking but before he would do the same thing cruise around furniture but if i would try to even walk holding his hands he would pull down to crawl. What we did was bought push toys and like little play table that encourage him to stand. We would spread them apart a short distance from each other so when he would want to get to the other one he would take a couple of steps to it. At first he was unsure of himself and would always get down to crawl to the other toy then eventually he started taking steps to it not even realizing he did it. Then that went to take steps on his own to eventually walking. Otherwise your son will walk when he feels comfortable. My daughter who is 5 didnt walk until 15 months. I would just say give it some time before you get worried :)

User - posted on 02/07/2011

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My nephew was 18 months and not walking. My sister took him to the doctor. The decided that everything looked fine and to give himn another month. He started walking the next week! :)!
Do you have push toys or short tables that he can stand and play at? They will encourage him to be on his feet, and before you know you will be chasing him!

Kim - posted on 02/07/2011

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My boys started walking 1-2 weeks after their first birthday. I never held their hand to walk, they did it all on their own. Try to encourage him to walk across the room towards you. Pick a favorite toy and sit somewhere he can't hold on to. Just keep giving positive reinforcement, but some kids don't walk at the same time. If he isn't walking by 18 months I would talk to your pediatrician.

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