Sleeping in moms bed??

Tonya - posted on 02/18/2010 ( 32 moms have responded )

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My little boy is a little over 7 weeks old, as of the past two weeks he hasn't been sleeping good in his crib that is right next to my bed (he had been doing fine before). Now he screams and I try giving him a bottle but he doesn't want it even though he has gone 4 hours, and even if he does take the bottle and falls back asleep he is awake 2 hours later screaming again. The only way to keep him happy is if I let him sleep beside me on my bed, however this makes me nervouse as I have two dogs that sleep at the foot of my bed and even though I give him space he moves until he's snuggled right next to me. I don't want him to become dependent on sleeping in my bed what can I do???

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Erika - posted on 03/02/2010

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I have a 3 year old that used to sleep with me when he was a baby. I would nurse him and just keep him with me because it was "easier". It was not so easy to break him of that habit. If you can, I would try to break the habit while it's still fresh. I know it's hard to listen to them cry, but it will be very hard later on to get them in their own bed if you don't start now.
My 10 week old daughter sleeps in a crib next to the bed and I'm lucky to have her sleep through the night...well, she wakes to eat. I think I may have gotten a little advantage (not one that I ever would have wanted.) She was 12 weeks premature and was not due till the 14th of March. She spent 50 days in the NICU and is used to a crib, she came home at 7 weeks old.
You can try putting a tshirt in the crib that you've worn. Sometimes your smell will help them feel more secure.

Nicole - posted on 02/19/2010

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if your really worried about it try sleeping with a banket or something like that for a week,and then put that in his cot to sleep with. or u can wrap him really tight so it feels like hes being cuddled and put the top u wore that day in the wrap aswell, so he can smell u. lol sounds weird but it worked for my baby

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Emily - posted on 03/05/2010

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hey tonya...

my son is 8 weeks old and likes to sleep with us too. usually what we will do is lay him on our chests and let him sleep there for a while....let's them get fully asleep. sounds to me like your son just wants to be next to you because for 9 months he was in your womb hearing your heartbeat. there is a bear called the "heartbeat" bear and it simulates your heart beat...this seems to help my son stay in his bed longer. and for a while he might just want to be with you....baby's crave the mother bonding attention....

Suzi - posted on 03/04/2010

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A friend of my sister's answers 911 calls and said she gets calls almost every day saying people let their babies sleep in their bed and the ended up smothering the baby. I used to let my son sleep with me but when I heard that, I stopped. I put my son in his bassinet next to my bed and I have to just let him cry until he falls asleep. That's the only way he will learn

Amanda - posted on 03/02/2010

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with the whole rolling over smothering ur bubs thing doctors say mainly the fathers are more prone to do it becaus they are heavier sleepers

Nicole - posted on 03/02/2010

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Mine did that too. I just let him in bed, lucky for me my dogs are not aloud in my bed anymore.
Ari is now 11 weeks and is still half in crib by my bed and the rest of night in my bed. tonight is going to first night I'm putting him in his own room. I think we are waking each other up. the only can suggest is just do what you can to get sleep, can you really blame him waning to be close to his mommy your warm and you smell good.

Lyndsey - posted on 03/02/2010

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Like alot of you mums, i too co-sleep with my 11 week old! I love feeling really close to him, it's the most amazing feeling. At the moment though he sleeps only on my side because I'm scared to put him in the middle incase we put the covers over his head (When he's just on my side i wrap the end of the duvet around me and give him his own blanket). I would love my fiance to get the same feeling i do by letting the little one sleep between us but would love to know how you guys all do it! Please help because all my partner does is moan about how hard it will be for us to introduce his bed later lo and I'm sure he would feel differently if he slept near him too!!!!

Jualie - posted on 03/02/2010

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My son is the same way. He is now 2 months. The only problem I've had is that he will push me and fuss until I get up to get him a bottle. Then he goes to sleep. LOL He just wants my side of the bed. So to solve the problem I use a small feather pillow that I slept on. I put it over his legs at night and it makes him think that I'm holding him and keeps him warm too. He sleeps elevated so it's not a problem with him smothering or anything. I even use the pillow when we travel. It helps out some too on long trips.

Lexi - posted on 03/01/2010

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My health worker advised me to just put my little girl in her bed and let her settle herself. She is now 10 weeks and sleeps from 9.30pm to 7 am in her cot in her own room. I started out with her in my bed and as she got older I moved her to a cot next to my bed and then to how she is now. Is he in a steady routine? He should be old enough now to sleep a full 8 hours in the night so try starting to feed him 4 hourly from 7am through to 11pm and then just put him to bed. If he keeps you awake with crying and fidgeting like my bub did me, see if you can move him into his own room. It takes a week or so to get used to but eventually you stop sneaking in there to make sure they're OK.

Julie - posted on 03/01/2010

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my daughter is 10 weeks and i feel so much better when she sleeps beside me!! i let her in her crib for naps and maybe the first few hours she sleeps there at night too. but after she wakes up for the first time at night she goes in bed with me!! i never really co-slept with my 2 boys, but this time around i want all the time i can get with her!! they grow so fast!!!! and she sleeps for longer periods with me so, which is good because i tend to be a grouch when i dont get any sleep!!

Laura - posted on 03/01/2010

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My daughter doesn't sleep in my bed all night but when she wakes up for her morning feed around when my husband gets up for work, she sleeps afterwards next to me. I've also been told not to do this but like someone else said I always know she's there, I wake up again at her slightest move. Personally I don't think at 7 weeks old that he can become too dependent on you because when you think about it for the first 3 months at the very least they are extremely dependent on you anyway. I know this first hand as I'm still a student trying to finish my final year dissertation but everytime i'm in the room with her she wants to be near me. He just knows your his mummy, and he wants to be near your warmth and smell, it makes them feel secure. He'll get more independent on his own, you'll see

Alice - posted on 03/01/2010

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I couldn't agree more with you moms. I have had Kat in bed with me since after the first week. It was the only way I got any sleep at all and I had a c-section so it was easier all the way around for me. And I love snuggle time with her. I know it creates a bad habit in one way but getting up every hour because she was too cold and wanted her momma was making me so tired that I was falling asleep in the rocking chair trying to nurse her. I almost dropped her once after that she came to bed with me. I would rather her sleep with me so I'm well enough rested that I don't drop her while feeding her. When its time I will slowly get her used to sleeping in her crib without me.

Catherine - posted on 02/26/2010

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I have 8 week old twins that are starting to get a cold. The only way we got through the night last night was having them in bed with us. We only got about 1-2 hours of sleep at a time but it was the only way they were peaceful at all.

Janice - posted on 02/25/2010

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Smart boy. He knows the good spot... Co-sleeping is actually GOOD for baby. It helps them sleep better, regulates heart rate and breathing. You can always move him out of your bed when he's older. If you don't want him right in your bed, you can always use a co-sleeper or side-car the crib(google side-carring crib). IMO, he's in the best place he can be when he's right next to you. My son spent the first 6 weeks sleeping on either my chest or my husbands chest. He has since moved into the side-carred crib so he can still be right next to me. Well, right now he's sick so he's sleeping on my chest again while I sleep in the recliner.

Tonya - posted on 02/24/2010

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thank you everyone and i have been putting him in his own bed next to mine when he first goes to be and when he wakes up not to eat i guess he was never hungry he just is very picky about having a wet diaper lol so i change him then put him in bed with me otherwise he cries and it has been working out good i am getting better sleep and am less cranky all day.

Andrea - posted on 02/24/2010

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i second that.
we have co-slept almost since the beginning. i have become a very light, but very well rested sleeper because of it. i was a deep sleeper until my dd was born. many people have said i will regret letting her sleep in our bed. she is only going to be little once and i want to enjoy every second of it.

Laura - posted on 02/24/2010

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i made this mistake with my eldest 2 kids and it took me nearly 5 years to stop them sleeping in my bed, my new little lad i wont let sleep in the bed. Also having the same probs with feeding he'l scream after 2oz even though hes stil hungry, if it continues im taking him to baby doc id advise you do the same- hope this helps!

Nicole - posted on 02/23/2010

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i wouldnt call people dumb if they roll on their baby. most new parents are so sleep deprived they wouldnt have a clue what they are doing once they're asleep. and other people are just really deep sleepers.

Alisha - posted on 02/20/2010

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my son is 9 weeks old and hes been sleepin in bed with me since the first week and yes like everyone else says people tell me all the time not to that it is scary but i cried the first week he came home because i was so exhausted and he wouldnt sleep in his crib or bassinet he was up every hour crying! so i started laying him on a pillow next to me so i can feed him that way and he only waked up 2 times every night about the same time! and yes i am completely aware of him next to me i sleep the same position and dont move the whole night so people are just plain dumb if they roll over on their child!

Jessica - posted on 02/20/2010

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i sleep with my 8week old and i feel that iam totally aware of him. i wake up in the same postion i fell asleep in. his dad tho is a deep sleeper and not aware of him and has chsen to sleep on the sofa till babe is ready to move into his crib. i would also say enjoy every cuddle moment u get with ur child.

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we've co-slept with all 3 of our children and it's the most precious and safe thing you can do - although if you are looking for opinions or advice if you want to feel safer co-sleeping you may want to keep the dogs out to alleviate any stress on your part. it's also so much easier to nurse baby in bed than getting up to the crib :)

Bonnie - posted on 02/20/2010

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Evan is 10 weeks old and eats every 3 hours on the dot. My boyfriend is a fireman so every week there is a 48 hour stretch of time where I am in charge of Evan the entire time because he works nights and when he gets home he has to sleep to do it all over again. Evan also went through the phase where he wanted to sleep with me and I would just roll with it because it was just easier. One night I was so tired that I literally don't think I remember falling asleep even and I did roll over on him because I don't know I guess I thought he was a body pillow. I was not drunk, I was not high, I was just so sleep deprived that I literally didn't have a clear thought in my head. After that I now limit him coming into my bed. I have done the blaket and clock trick and those both seem to work for him as well as swaddeling him really tight. I would love to snuggle with him in bed more but until he starts to give me more sleep I feel I would prefer him alive.

Shayla - posted on 02/19/2010

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My daughter sleeps with me every single night. She is 11 weeks old. I also agree the ppl that have rolled over onto their kids are passed out drunk or worse. I am always aware of my daughter. She sleeps best next to me. As I agree that everyone's sleep is just as important but also it really doesn't matter about yourself anymore. All that matters is the happiness of that precious baby. Hope that does'nt sound rude cause I so don't mean it that way. But anywho knowing that your baby prefers to be snuggled right up next to you should make you feel so needed and thats a great feeling. Enjoy it while you can is what I am always told :)

Bonnie - posted on 02/19/2010

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I have four children and they all slept in the bed with me. I wouldn't have it any other way and they all grow out of it. Well except the newest member she is 11 week and she sleeps with me as well. I wake up with every move she makes. Sids has happened in my family history twice my grandmothers first baby and my uncles first child. That is why I believe I wake up and it is also why I keep them close.
As for rolling over on them my boyfriend almost did on are daughter but it wasn't drinking or drugs it is he works extremely crazy long hours and he was out of it. know on those nights I move her to my other side. Just in case. We also have a dog but he is still scared of her.lol. But I don't see anything wrong with it. enjoy it when they grow up you will miss that time.

Ashley - posted on 02/19/2010

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Invest in a "Snuggle Nest". This is the greatest invention EVER...I bout it for my daughter and she sleeps GREAT in it in between my husband and I. You can't roll over top or her and it has a heart beat and nursery music and it also contours her body so she feels snug in it. Go to diapers.com and look at the reviews it's so great for co-sleeping. (Also, co-sleeping is a great thing and has been proven to reduce SIDS and also helps children bond with their parents later in life...)

Faith - posted on 02/18/2010

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I use to be very opposed to co sleeping. My other two did for a while it seemed like forever to get them out of our bed. NOW though I have changed my tune, and its all about getting quality sleep. I have a really big king size bed and my son (2 months) loves sleeping in bed with my hubby and I. I feel as though as long as my husband and I can get some sleep we will worry about moving him later on. Enjoy this time now...plus they dont really octopus around as much at this stage so co-sleeping is enjoyable. Sweet Dreams to you all :)

Dani - posted on 02/18/2010

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He Prolly just likes the warmth and comfort of being close to you it reminds them of being in the womb. Try swaddleing him and make sure its nice and warm also you could try putting a ticking clock in his cradle it simulates your heart beat and can be comforting. |But over all i wouldnt worrie about it my little girl went through a phase for about a week where she wouldnt sleep unless i was holding her and she just seemed to get over it . :)

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I have been co-sleeping with my little one from day one. Nowthat he is almost 11 weeks, I am starting to put him in his crib ( which is at the foot of my bed) around 8PM when he falls asleep. Usually by 2 or 3 he ends up back in bed with me because it is easier for me to nurse him. I love sleeping next to him. We also have a little dog that sleeps on my husband's side of the bed. We have a california king so there is plenty of room for all of us!

Gidgit - posted on 02/18/2010

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My little girl is 11 weeks old and she sleep with me almost every night. She sleeps snuggled up as close to me as she can get. I think this is mostly because they love being so close. They crave your warmth and smell and sound of your heart and breathing.

I have been told many, many times not to let her co-sleep because people have rolled over and crushed thier babies. But in MY opinion those people had to have been passed out drunk or on drugs because I am ALWAYS aware of my daughter beside me!

With that said at 7 weeks you can't spoil a baby. He may be craving your body heat. If it does not bother you to sleep with him I would go for it! I LOVE the extra bonding I get from snuggling my little one at night!



Oh, I also have dogs and they sleep near the foot of the bed but when hubby leaves for work my smallest dog creeps up and sleeps by baby's feet! :o) it is super sweet!

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