_taking baby off paci .

Brittany - posted on 03/26/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I know this sounds bad . I had taken my daughter off of the pacifier when she was around 9 months old . Then, I read an article on pampers.com stating that it is good to give your baby their pacifier to sleep with because its comforting . Now that she is older it seems like she demands it at bed time . She wont fall asleep without it ..she will scream for hours '& wont take a cup . Then in the middle of the night she will scream until she gets it again . She has also been off the bottle since 10 months . Please help ! How do i wean my demanding baby away from this ..i dont want her having bad teeth ! ):

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User - posted on 03/27/2011

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I took the pacifier away when my son was about 10 months because it was hindering his sleep. He too, was waking up regularly in the middle of the night for it. I spoke to my doctor and she said to take it away, cold turkey. She said it would take 3 nights of consistancy, and he'd be fine. She was right! The first 2 nights were hard, but by the 3rd night, he did great and is now a great sleeper!
Good luck!

Laura - posted on 03/26/2011

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I would leave her with it till she 1 for the comfort esp if shes missing it in the night, my 12 yr old had his till 2 and hes has perfect teeth , when he was 2 i told him he was a big boy and hes put it in the bin and never looked back :) hope this helps u...although my 15month who still sucks his teeth looks rounded but i cant take him off it cos ive a 3 month old and he robs his lol :)

Allison - posted on 03/27/2011

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Like the previous poster, my older son is 12, and he used his pacifiers past the age of two. His teeth are just fine. I had to throw some of the pacifiers away because they'd crack. When we were down to just one, he threw it away in a parking lot because he was angry, and I told him that all his pacifiers were gone. He was upset at first, but it only lasted for about a day.

My 15 month old still uses a pacifier and cries when I won't give it to him. I think its a security thing. I'm encouraging him to take it out to talk, and he's getting more and more comfortable with putting the pacifier to the side. I've had to deal with people's disapproving comments now and then, but honestly, it's nobody's business!

Belinda - posted on 03/27/2011

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Ive heard this is a good method http://www.bye-bye-binky.com/ My daughter has a paci and a blankie to go to sleep, though it does bother me a bit that shes so reliant on them to sleep Im not in any hurry to get them off her. So far she has done everything in her own time and things have worked out fine so Im just gonna follow her lead on this one. When i do though this will be the first method i try

Summer - posted on 03/27/2011

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When my daughter was born, they had twin little girls who were two who's parents took them up to the hospital to give their pacifiers to a new baby who needed them and the nurse asked me if she could show the twins my daughter so they could see the baby they were giving the pacifiers to. I didn't get the pacifiers but I've decided that that is what I will do when it's time to take my daughters away. Don't know if it worked or not but its worth a try and a really adorable idea.

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Mary - posted on 06/24/2011

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my mom took my bink away when i was real young (i didn't really take to it) and i ended up sucking my fingers (the 1st 2 on my left hand.) and to this day i still do it when i'm tired or sleeping. I'm 28 years old.

it easier to take away the bink when they're ready bc if you take it away too soon or cold turkey, they can fall back on a thumb or fingers and that's not so easy to get them to stop lol you can't cut it off lol.

but honestly i never worried about my habit. my parents didn't worry, my dentist didn't worry (it's a myth), and now my husband doesn't worry or care about it. he says i look silly but he doesn't care lol.

i never do it in public. only my closest friends and family have seen me do it.

and my teeth are perfect. nice and straight.



update: i read the bye bye binkie method and i think it's mean. how would you like someone to take something away from you that brought you comfort and security?

plus it would give them a stomach ache, sucking in all that air.

i know my son would never allow that method. he would just scream and scream until he got a bink that "felt right." maybe he spoiled, i call it willful. he knows what he wants and i don't try to trick him.



when it's time for us to wean from the bink (we're gonna do it when we potty train him, most likely around 2 1/2.) we're going to do it the "bink fairy" way. you talk to the child and tell her that new babies need her old binks, that she is a big girl now and doesn't need them anymore. then you send them off. a balloon, the mail, whatever. then when she asks for it you can remind her that they're not in the house anymore, the new babies have them.

obviously they have to be able the reason for this to work. if they can't reason, then they're not old enough to have them taken away.

Rebecca - posted on 06/10/2011

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It is a comfort thing and i do still give my daughter hers for sleep times only. When she does wake up in the morning or refussing to sleep she will hand me her dummy so she can get up lol. I came across this website and have downloaded the info, read it and will try this method soon.
http://www.bye-bye-binky.com

Alandra - posted on 04/18/2011

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well i just took my sons soother away yesterday and so far so good . I had started only giving it to him at bed and nap time , and tried to take it away during the day as much as possible ..But then he started to wake up more and more at night and it was disrupting his sleep because he kept looking for it , and Then he threw a tantrum for 30 mins because i wouldnt give it to him during the day (he found one ) . He never fussed over me taking it away in the day that long ..So after he had his melt down i decided that was it , i thought it was going to be worse his first nap he cried for a half an hour then went to sleep and slept for 3 hours ( the most in a while usually 2and a half) . And llast night he cried for about 15 mins but slept thru the night and didnt wake once ..(yayyyy) . and today no fuss what so ever at nap time and went right to sleep , and he just went to bed after about 5-10 mins which is a usual anyways ...i for sure think it was time for him , good luck :D

Heidi - posted on 04/11/2011

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I had a tougher time weaning my son off the pacifier then the bottle. We would always give in at bedtime until one day I decided I just have to throw them all away. The first 2-3 days were soo tough. We gave him one of his stuffed dogs (the v-tech one) and that seemed to take place of the binki and he sleeps the whole night without the pacifier. He has been weened off the pacifer for about a month now and at first I thought he would grab his cousins pacifier but he had no interest in it(about a week after I took him off). If you can find a stuffed animal that she really likes, try doing that. The first couple days he cried a lot but I felt like it would be better to wean him now than later. I felt the longer I wait, the tougher it would be to seperate him from it and I didnt want to take the chance of my son being 3-4 yrs old still sucking on a paci. I have heard of some babies just losing interest in it and stopping on their on, It is a tough choice to make, you just need to do what you feel is best :)

Wendy - posted on 04/11/2011

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For my kids, both were preemies, so they would have to have theirs for awhile but when they turned a year or two years I took them away little at a time. First they could only have it at naptime & bedtime and that worked for a while, then I could only give it at night time only unless they were sick at the time. I told them when its time to give up the paci, that the babies would love new paci's and that worked!! Good luck to you :)

Shelby - posted on 04/11/2011

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Take the binkies and cut the tops off half way down. Then they're "broken."

You can give them to you little one, and then she wont want it. But instead of the binky weaning being a power struggle of you saying no and your toddler screaming, she will make the decision on her own to get rid of it, because it doesn't work. I have heard so many people use this method and plan on doing it soon :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/06/2011

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I'm having the same problem. My daughter is 16 mths and I can't get it out of her mouth long enough for her to start talking. If she isn't sleeping she has to have it and its even worse at night. I'm glad you posted this cuz I need the help as well.

Melissa - posted on 04/01/2011

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I think they may have been referring to if your child has a hard time sleeping, a pacifier might be comforting. I know it's hard, and it may sound harsh, but I think not giving in is in your best interest. Children are very resilient, they know how to break you, and they're going to push until they do. I'd say do it on a night where you don't have to worry about going to work the next day (if you work) and just do not give her the pacifier. If she's old enough to understand, tell her the pacifier fairy came and took it for another baby who needed it, and give her a little gift (maybe a new doll or teddy bear) and tell he the pacifier fairy left it for her for being such a helpful big girl. If she cries for it at night, don't go into her room, don't try to soothe her, let her work it out on her own. I know it's heartbreaking to try and sit there and hear your baby cry, but if she thinks you'll give in, she'll only continue to push until you do.

Jennifer - posted on 03/30/2011

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my 15 month old son just got off his & i didnt try 2 take it away from him. He stopped asking for it, so i never bothered on giving it to him. Every baby is different & I heard some babies just get off it on their own time when they are ready.

Brittany - posted on 03/27/2011

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_thats what i did the first time ..hopefully i can do it again this way ..thank youu ! (:

Brittany - posted on 03/26/2011

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_ahaa how cute ..she is now almost 16 months '& her teeth look fine so far so ill just take my time weaning her off of it ..now i only give it to her when she wants to go to sleep at night only ..hopefully it works at ease ..thanks for the response , experience '& encouragement ! (:

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