When is it inappropriate to bathe/shower with your baby?

Amber - posted on 05/29/2011 ( 32 moms have responded )

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Hi there.
I have a 17 month old daughter, and occassionally when I really need to have a shower, I bring her in with me. I'm wondering, at what age is it no longer appropriate to do this? It is obviously not a sexual thing of any kind, but where is the line?

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User - posted on 05/30/2011

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I think it depends on what you are comfortable with. I have 2 boys. I now cover up in front of my 3 year old, but still need to shower with my 18 month old in the bathroom (but not in the shower). My friend showered with her girls until they were 6 or 7. They were very open with their bodies. My husband will still bring our 3 year old into the shower with him, and they go 'potty' together.

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I shower and take baths with my girls when ever I want...if you make it part of the daily routine, it will never get to the point where you feel like your dong something wrong and there is nothing wrong with it

Juli - posted on 06/01/2011

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I still take a bath with my nearly 18 month old daughter. when we both need to clean up or I start my bath water get in and she fallows begging to come in lol Its perfectly natural for us but I took baths with her since she was around 1 month old.

Lisa - posted on 05/31/2011

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Ya, I agree with it being what u are comfortable with. I also have a 17 month old daughter and I sometimes take a bath with her. I mean really... LOL if I have to look at naked old ladies showering at the swimming pool I don't think a mum and young daughter is any problem!

Kim - posted on 05/30/2011

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I have no idea, I know my pediatrician encourages me to take my boys in the shower with me if they are sick and congested to help them feel better. I have only done it once. I know my sister showered with my niece probably till she was about 2.

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Sasha - posted on 10/01/2012

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My son is 2.5 and he still bathes with me but Im thinkin it is almost time to quit because he is really smart and he wants to know what everything is. lol. He told his uncle the other day when he was getting out of the shower "my daddy has one of those" his uncle says "you have one too dont you?" and then he said " no i have a little one!" lol. the things kids say and do crack me up.

Stephanie - posted on 07/13/2012

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i would stop this round about 3-4 but really thee is no limit when to stop so just what you think is right :)

Olga - posted on 07/10/2012

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I think 2 years old I ended that and it was occasional not all the time just when in a hurry. I would normally put her on her own tub I bought a larger one as she got older.

Gabrielle - posted on 07/09/2012

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I sometimes put my daughter in the shower with me when my son is sleeping so i can take a shower and not have to worry abot her waking him up or getting into anything while i am in there. She is 16 months old. My husband takes a bath with my son every now and then when they "camp out" in my sons room because its them "swimming". These things only happen when the children want to get in with us. We have no problem with it.

Samantha - posted on 07/08/2012

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my son is 3 and my daughter is 19 months and have no problem with them showering with me or my hubby.

Jaime - posted on 07/07/2012

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I have a 7 year old boy, a 4 year old daughter and a 17 month old boy... a lot of the time we all take a shower together. I see nothing wrong with this... none is touching anyone else. I am not sure what the age limit would be, maybe 10???? We are not shy people in our house...

Andrea - posted on 07/03/2012

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my 3 1/2 yr old son still goes into the shower with my husband, and occasionally with me. also my 15 month old takes showers with both of us..and the two of them take bathes together still.

Laura - posted on 06/26/2012

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Yes we bathe to-gather a lot of times,I have boys and girls ( 7 to 11)...and we see the human body as beautiful.not nasty or bad,~~just being nude does not = some kind of hanky-panky, as the American and English social teachings infer.........this comes from the old,antiquated social paradigm of the so called Victorian traditions.( and from some churches )..we moms can learn to see with more PURE eyes,...one can see even a family members body as nasty,while others see the same as beautiful,and totally acceptable.....

......Laura Mornings,N.D.& L.C,.....and Admin.~Nature Moms community

Nadia - posted on 06/26/2012

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I think, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that when you have a daughter, and moms and daughters tend to form more of a bond, as this counts as spending time, so therefore I dont believe there should be a line. On the other hand there would probably be a line when it comes to the sons unless of cause its dad and son

Laura - posted on 06/25/2012

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, since we have a hot springs on our private land,my kids and I we many times all bathe in it to-gather....no problem...nothing bad about a family being nude at home....there are many nude in the home families that are members of C.O.M's...we find this to be mentally ,and spiritually healthy life-style.........

Brittany - posted on 10/04/2011

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I'd say it's whatever you are comfortable with. I've never showered with my son, but that's because I find it too hard to try to get myself showered, plus him bathed so it's always been separate. My mom told me however that I would take a shower with her, and the day she realized I was too old (I was 2-3ish) I said something about "mommy you have hair on your wheezer!!" and apparently I was very shocked by it lol so she decided...well that's enough of that lol

Jessica - posted on 09/29/2011

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I think that as long as you are comfortable with it it's fine. I still shower with my daughter and in fact so does my husband occasionally when we are in a hurry. We figure until she actually starts to understand the concept of boy parts and girl parts that's ok and as for you showering with her, I don't think there is ever anything wrong with it as long as you are both comfortable. I often saw my mom changing or showering or what have you while growing up and neither of us ever thought anything weird of it.

Janeta - posted on 09/28/2011

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When my daughter was first born I bathed with her because I did not trust her tiny fragile body in the baby baths I wanted her on my chest with every bath that she got by the time my baby was six months old and sitting up by herself and supporting her head and neck well our baths together have lessened and even more now that she is fourteen months old. I do not see anything wrong with it but I want my daughter to know that its ok to bathe alone and that you dont always need mommy I show her how to wash herself and I work with her everyday so that she can become independent and learn good hygeine now! I still occasionally take a bathe with her when her daddy is at work and I just need some relaxation time the bath seems to do the trick for the both of us! I see nothing wrong with a mom and baby taking a bath together by the time my daughter is three I would have to say its time to QUIT. My husband would shower with our daughter when she was tiny but he will no longer do it now he has not done it since she was about five months old. He says it just doesnt feel right! I understand his feelings and I support him I would have to say I think I might feel the same way if we had a son!

Ashley - posted on 09/20/2011

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I have a 7 year old and she showered with me when she was younger...not now..lol! But I don't remember when I stopped. And now I have a 16 month old and she still showers with me on occasion. I think until they get old enough for their curiosity about bodies to kick in, it's ok. But as for a set age I have no idea. I also think if I had boys they wouldn't have showered with me for that long.

Sunshine - posted on 09/17/2011

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It depends on how comfortable the mom and child are. My 5 year old son and I still take showers or baths together, and I bathe with my 9 month old son.

Allison - posted on 07/18/2011

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I think you will know, as I did, when your daughter says to you, "mummy, can I have a shower by myself tonight? I can do it myself.". So long as she knows you are there to help when her needed. Shower with her as for as long as you can. It is the best form of bonding with your daughter. My daughter is 17 now and very modest, she won't even undress in front of me, yet if she has a personal problem I am the first person she will show herself to or ask for help.

Tashia - posted on 06/12/2011

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I have thought about it but haven't yet....I just don't feel comfortable it and that's because of how uncomfortable I am with my own body. I want Aiden to get used to the shower thou because we cant use the tub where I live we can only use the shower so we go to my sisters house to bathe him. I dont see a problem with it thou.

Lisa - posted on 06/11/2011

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I still have an 8 year old daughter who likes shower/bathing w/me. As long as you let them know the boundaries and this can't go on much longer (8 year old) I think they will be ok w/it. Babies I don't think matters w/the same sex until later as I've stated and I don't see anything wrong w/the same sex, unless you want some privacy!! My husband will take the 17 mo. old in the shower to help sometimes, but by 3 when they start to see other private parts (dad) I would say then not!!

Erika - posted on 06/09/2011

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I have a 17 mo. old son who I never bathe or shower with. Primarily because the are far too many germs in a bath. Besides he seems to enjoy bathing alone. I don't discourage showers and would probably shower with my son if he'd keep still but ther's too many germs in dirty bath water.

Lisa - posted on 06/05/2011

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I shower/bath with my 17 mo. old and if I don't she would have a complete meltdown. She loves the water and as soon as I get undressed she runs to the bathroom to come get undressed and go in. She seats in her Bumbo and I do my thing and let her play w/her cup and animals, then wash her and we go out. The Bumbo is great so she sits there so I can wash my hair and condition it first before I do hers.When I take a bath she wants to come in or she stomps her foot and cries until I bring her in. She is a wter baby. My 8 year old still likes to bath w/me too. We usually have a family bath/shower, just us girls. Daddy takes our 17. mo. old daughter into the shower occassionally to help me out and has no problem w/it yet, she is still too young!!

Laura - posted on 06/02/2011

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I bathe with my 18mo daughter everyday. The shower is over a 3 seater spa, put the plug in and a little extra hot water and she plays while i shower. then i turn the taps off and wash her in the bottom. I intend to keep it that way until she is old enough to say no mum, i want to shower/bath by my self. Its easier and less time consuming.
Her father occasionally showers with her, but is a little hesitant because of what people my think.
When my 3 brothers and i were growing up we would talk to mum while she was in the bath (she couldn't run away there) I still occasionally find myself doing it when we stay at each others house.
What I was getting at is the line is when your child tells you they want privacy I guess.....

Laura - posted on 06/02/2011

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I have a 18mo daughter that Rarely every bathes by her self. My shower is over a 3 seater spa, so put the plug in, little extra hot water and she plays in the water in the bottom. I intend to keep doing it until she is old enough to shower by her self or say no to showering with me. Her father occasionally showers with her, but doesn't want to do it much longer because he thinks it might send the wrong message.
When me and my 3 brothers were growing up we would talk to my mum in the bath (it was the best time because she couldn't run away) and occasionally i still do it.

Sheila - posted on 06/02/2011

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Pretty much every shower I have taken, since she was born, has been with my daughter. I agree with all the other moms, as long as you're comfortable, it's fine to continue. I don't really think there is a set age for things like this to stop. Just like when to stop cuddling, co-sleeping etc. Whatever you & your family are comfortable with do it! =)

Sara - posted on 06/01/2011

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I shower and bathe with my daughter whenever I feel like it. There's nothing wrong with it.

Amy - posted on 06/01/2011

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Hi I still shower with my 17mth old boy and sometimes my 3yr old daughter comes with us also we live with my in-laws and they take them in the shower sometimes aswell its perfectly natural and if you feel comfortable then do it for as, long aa, possible xxx

Claire - posted on 06/01/2011

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I bath with my 17 month old almost everyday, at the end of the day you don't need to worry what anyone else thinks as long as you & your baby are comfortable doing.

Jenette - posted on 05/31/2011

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I remember showering with my granny when I was older-whenever I spent the night at my grandparents house I used to sleep with my granny. My family is very open with our bodies though-that's just how it always was so there was never any discomfort.

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