Do We Move Her To Her Room Yet?

Charlotte - posted on 07/20/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )

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Hi! My daughter's nearly 10 weeks old. For the past 2 weeks I've been putting her down for daytime naps in her Moses Basket in her Cotbed which is in her bedroom and putting her Moses Basket back into our bedroom for her night time sleeping.

My partner thinks that it is about time that she was in her room full time, especially as we now have Baby Monitors.

The thing is, is that I'm a bit apprehensive about it. I'm worried that, even though we have the Baby Monitors, we won't hear her if she wakes up (plus I'm always checking that she's still breathing).

What should we do? Has anyone moved their baby into their own room before they were 6 months old?

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Stephanie - posted on 07/20/2009

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We put our son in his own room at 2 weeks old. We had monitors and our room was right across the hall. I still heard him, even without the monitor. My husband and I found that we slept better because we didn't hear every little snort or movement, and once we started sleeping better, it made it easier for us to get through the day. But, to each their own. It's a very personal choice and different for everyone!

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Brooke - posted on 07/29/2009

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your baby will be fine in her room. and trust me no matter how far you are from her, you will always hear her.

Sharon - posted on 07/23/2009

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my baby is 5 and half months and she's still in our bedroom. i am going to move her into her room she'll share with her 5 year old sister soon tho.

Melissa - posted on 07/23/2009

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Your fears are all completely normal, but rest assured that you will know when she's crying for you! My twin boys have always slept in their own cribs in their room. We never had them sleep in our room. Just double check that the monitor is on. It is a good thing to put her in her own room. You and your husband need your room back!

Karen - posted on 07/23/2009

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Incredible response and good to read the different opinions. My daughter's 3 months now and sleeps in my room and will for some time as I'm not ready to be apart from her as I lost my husband a week before she was born. I guess in another life she would be in her room by now and I have no idea when I'll be ready to mover her but I agree with the consensus that you move your baby when you're ready and it won't stress you out that they aren't within reach. Just another learning curve for you both when you're ready :)

Rebekah - posted on 07/23/2009

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Wow, I never realized so many parents shared a room with their infants...Interesting...

My children slept in their own rooms (basically) as soon as we were home from the hospital. My son slept in his crib in his own room from day 1, and my daughter after a week (b/c I was healing from a bad tear during delivery).

Courtney - posted on 07/23/2009

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When we had our daughter, we lived in a 1 bedroom apartment. She slept in our room until she was 8 months old. When we got a bigger place, our room is downstairs, hers is up. She actually sleeps BETTER than before. She soothes herself back to sleep instead of relying on us because she knew we were there. As a baby I always had my own room.

Megan - posted on 07/22/2009

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Don't feel bad mamma! my little guy is 10 months old and is still so sleeping with me in my bed. i still have the need, when he's taking naps by himself to check his breathing even with monitors. And his room is literally a door away...it's perfectly normal. its all about when youre ready to move her. NOT your husband...

User - posted on 07/22/2009

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If you don't feel ready than don't. I swore up adn down that i wouldn't move DD before 6 months but then around 4.5 months the transition just comfortably happened. I still get up to check on her almost every night but we both sleep better and in the morning when she wakes up she is happy to lay in her crib and look in her crib mirror and play whereas before if she saw me then when she woke up it was time for me to get up.



on a side note tho, travelled fo rwork for a week adn came back to a baby with a habit of needing to fall asleep in my bed then be moved to hers. so those Dhs that so badly want the baby out don't always do it right.

Evelyne - posted on 07/22/2009

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I moved my girl at the age of about 2 weeks to her own bed. She was snoring all night long and I couldn't get any sleep. We left the door open so we were able to hear her when she was crying. Believe me, you are going to wake up when she needs you. My girl slept much better in her room as I wasn't constantly checking on her. She woke up every time I came near her basket. Also she has never slept in our bed. Now at the age of 1 1/2 she sleeps 12 hours at night and I never have to get up.



I was worried too that she would stop breathing. I talked about my fear with a nurse who told me that I wouldn't notice if my child wasn't breathing anymore. At first I was shocked about his comment and found it absolutely rude. But now I think she is right. You wouldn't be able to do anything about it.



Trust your gut feeling, if you think your baby should sleep in her own room then go for it. You can always move the basket back into your room.



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No. My daughter started sleeping in our bed at 8 weeks of age and is still there at 19 weeks of age. Up until she was bed sharing she was misreble and not sleeping much. She's now very happy and confident and sleeping much better.
Don't do anything you are not happy with because you are the babies primary carer and its you who will endure the downside to a misreble baby not your partner who gets to run off to work every day.
Also do what you feel in yourself is right, if you follow books and other people you will forever be running from post to post.
Luisa
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Amber - posted on 07/21/2009

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We moved our son into his crib in his room around 6 weeks. It was a difficult transition for everyone, but it has been great. He is over 4 months now and we never had a problem hearing him. Because he was so young, we actually put the monitor base in the corner of the crib so we could hear him better at first. Now that he is all over the place, we have had to removed to monitor from his crib and bumper, but we love that he is in his own room and he really associates his crib to bed time.

Anne - posted on 07/21/2009

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Anybody have the same situation as my husband and I: Our master bed is on the first floor and my baby's room is upstairs. I cannot fathom even putting her up there all by herself. Emmys almost four months old. She co-slept with us until two months old and now she sleeps in bassinet in our room. I wake up and check on her every hour as she is rolling over onto her stomach even in those sleep wedges. I just don't think I'll getmore sleep if I put her upstairs. I think I'll get less because I'll be making the trek upstairs every hour.

Cristina Marie - posted on 07/21/2009

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its normal to freak out and go and check your baby to see if it is still breathing i still do that with my four yr. old ... ha ha ... my newby is 3 months and he has been sleeping in his own room for the past month now and he sleeps more and so do i ... he has more room to stretch out too ...... i hear him just fine but when u are ready you will know good luck and be brave momma .........

Michelle - posted on 07/21/2009

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We just had our second and with both kids we had them in their own room in the crib from day 1. We have never had a problem hearing them when they wake up (or moan or grunt for that matter) and they are both great sleepers. Allows us to get some decent sleep too. Depends what works for you really.

Patricia12343 - posted on 07/21/2009

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My little girl is 71/2mths and we are facing the same problem. She sleeps during the day in her own room in her cot but at night she sleeps next to us in her porta cot. I HATE the idea of her not being in our room. I would have her in our bed if my hubby would allow it. I am taking it one day at a time and not putting a "date" down when she needs to be in her own room. I will do it when I am ready.

Lucy - posted on 07/21/2009

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Put your baby in her own room when you feel ready and not a moment before! What's right for some mums and babies isn't right for others, trust your instincts, you'll know when the time is right!

Lucy - posted on 07/21/2009

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i moved my son in his own room when he outgrew his moses basket he was 3 months and he is fine he is 10 months now

Marabeth - posted on 07/20/2009

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my daughter (4 months) sleeps with us at night - i dont like the feeling of being too far away from her. she feels the same. especially when she is sleeping. you could always explain to your partner that co-sleeping or even room sharing reduces the risk of sids if you feel really strongly about it.. 10 weeks old is *very* young. baby needs you to feel safe.

Sarah - posted on 07/20/2009

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My son was in our room until he was 3 mos. old due to not having another spare room. The night he slept in his own room I think we all slept the best. I was moving around and always checking on him every sound he made. He then would move around when I would make noise. With each of us in our own rooms we slept better. My daughter slept in her own room the night we came home from the hospital. I heard everything that I needed to with the baby monitor. It is amazing what you can hear with those and what your ear will pick up. I did not wake to the simple grunts and noises she made when she slept, but as she got older and would get the flu I could tell and heard it right away and was out of bed in an instant.

Linda - posted on 07/20/2009

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hey my daughter is 4 months old and i started putting her in her own room at like 2 months however she goes to be at like 9: 30 - 10 and wakes up at 8 and in the mornings she comes back to my room but its def great to have her in her own room in her crib i would look at her to much like you do lol and see if she was ok i keep the monitor right next to my bed and I hear everything birds, cars driving my lol you hear everything in the monitor and i hear every noise she makes i still get out of bed and look to see how she is doing, she is doing great in her own room and i enjoy having my room back to my self for a while

Sarah - posted on 07/20/2009

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I moved my son into his room at about 3 months. i was worried about not being right next to him as well. Its up to you dont let anyone push you its ok to be scared and wait a bit. I was always checking to see if he was breathing as well. Soon that worry will ease though. Do you have a crib for him yet. Im not sure of what a moses basket is? You should in my opinion put your son in a crib with only a sheeted matteress . nothing else, thats the safest. I was so paraniod about all that as well and got as much info on everything,your not alone. Talked to you babies doc and see what he/she thinks. well hang in there and take care!!

Lynlee - posted on 07/20/2009

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I always thought we would have our son sleep in our room and even co-slept for a few days but he was the noisiest sleeper ever and moaned, groaned and snuffled all night every night. We weren't getting any sleep so we put his basinett inside his cot with his door ajar so we could hear him crying in the night. I never had a problem hearing him and would often wake just before he did - trust yourself to wake up when they need you and you probably will. We didn't use monitors either. I also felt that having him in his own room was easier for breastfeeding as I could have a low light on without disturbing my husband. It was also nice to have some space and a break from our son for a few hours in the night that we would not have if he had been in the room. Having said all that I'm not sure what I'll do for the next baby, given the benefits of sharing a room.

Jennifer - posted on 07/20/2009

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yes! i had my son in his own room at 6 weeks! i slept on the couch downstairs while he slept in the swing for the first six weeks. i didnt mind it, however, once i moved him into is crib in his room, i got more comfortable sleep. mommys getting enough sleep is a big key in a happy baby and family! once he got in his crib he started sleepin really well. for 3 weeks after that, he only woke up at 4am to eat and by 9 weeks he was sleeping through the night. not only was i sleeping better, so was he. i know its hard to move them away from you, but you have to at some point or shell be sleeping with you till shes 15! dont be scared about the monitors, they do work!!! if its storming to hard the lights on mine light up! youll hear everything, your mommy! plus i think even women with grown children still check to see if theyre breathing! its a part of being a mom!

Tammy - posted on 07/20/2009

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My son is barely 6 months old, at his 6 month check up his pediatrician said it is time for him to be in his own room in his crib. With that being said my son is still sleeping in my room in his bassinet. I am going to switch him over when I am ready not when society recommends it. Do what you feel is best your the mom and you are the only one that knows whats best for your baby.

Charlotte - posted on 07/20/2009

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That's what I'm thinking - might actually get a good nights rest with her in another room.

Becky - posted on 07/20/2009

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I think it maybe a lilttle early - but then you don't want to end up like me and have them in your room until they are one!
It happened with my daughter because we only had one bedroom at the time so she couldn't have her own bedroom, but with my son it was my own fault that we didn't move him until he was 15 months! I work almost full time and as my daughter was waking at night with some bad dreams i put off moving Oliver. Then Oliver was teething (and at 17 months still is!) so that gave me another reason not ot move him as i was worried about them waking each other up and me having to be up even more at night. However i finally made myself move him into their room and altthough there have been a few sleepless nights with them waking each other up it really is no were near as bad as i had made it to be in my head!

I think 6 months is possibly a the right time to move them you could always do what you have been doing until your little one is too big for the moses basket and then make the switch as you won't want to drag a cot bed about! x

Charlotte - posted on 07/20/2009

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I'm the same way overnight, every sound she makes wakes me up and I can't go back to sleep til I know that she's asleep. I'm worried I'll sleep through it, although I'm not that much of a heavy sleeper. Her room is right next to ours, so she won't be too far away. I suppose it'll just be wierd.

Jennifer - posted on 07/20/2009

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I am the same way. My son is almost 4 months old. He sleeps during the day in his own room, but at night in ours. Its a bad habbit to start and than try to get out of. Even though i like having him sleep next me. I always make sure that hes still breathing and every little sound he makes i get up to check on him. I Personaly think that if you can start it now, it'll be easier on you, but if you wait than its gonna be harder.. I have no idea when im gonna start to put my son in his own room.. But im such a worrie freak that it might not be anytime soon. My parents think its over time, that he should have been put in his own room awhile ago, but its really when your comfortable having your baby sleep so far from you.

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