fiance trouble

Ciera - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my fiance cheated on my once in the past and swore he would never do it again. i put an end to his drinking and going out so i was sure that henver ould do it again. he has isured me that he only drinks around e and no one else because he never goes out. but tonight he was working late with his buddes (which he never really does becausehe works alone) so i went to g get the keys and found that he was drinking with his boss while working ... should i b worried??

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Beauty - posted on 08/18/2009

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A woman can never change a man not even his mother can. When u first fell in love with him he was drinking. Just try to maintain that which made u fall in love with him first place.

Jennifer - posted on 08/17/2009

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Stop controlling your man. A relationship needs to be fair. If you don't trust him then you don't have a relationship. If you are thinking u should just tell him to leave then you don't really want him there anyway. These are some things u need to think about. What do most ppl do when you tell them not to do something? They do it anyway. I thought I had to be extreme to get my husband to listen and we almost ended in divorce. Remeber why u2 got together in the first place. If that connection is still there then you 2 need to talk. If you feel you want him to leave and that connection is not there then you need to break it off before it goes much further and you hurt more ppl then just you and him.

Ciera - posted on 08/17/2009

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well i mean i set rules and if he doesnot like t ..i give hiom he option to leve .. i dont want him drining .. and thats how it goes thats what i need to do to actually get him to listen is be extreme .. and i figureif he dont like it he can leave .. but now he is just lying so i dont know if i should just tell him to leave

Kylie - posted on 08/17/2009

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hmm its hard to get past infidelity but you controlling him and banning alcohol and going out is a recipe for disaster. You need to be equal in the relationsship, trust needs to be built and if the only way you can get past the cheating is to try to control him then i think you both need to get some relationship counseling. You don't want to fall into the trap of parenting your partner, hes needs to be a man and step up and take responsibility for himself. if he wants to have a drink with his mates after work he should be able to IMO.

Kylie - posted on 08/17/2009

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hmm its hard to get past infidelity but you controlling him and banning alcohol and going out is a recipe for disaster. You need to be equal in the relationsship, trust needs to be built and if the only way you can get past the cheating is to try to control him then i think you both need to get some relationship counseling. You don't want to fall into the trap of parenting your partner, hes needs to be a man and step up and take responsibility for himself. if he wants to have a drink with his mates after work he should be able to IMO.

Candice - posted on 08/17/2009

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you can't make a man stop drinking...all you make him do is start hiding it. i married one too..."when does he have time" i thought...apparently it was all those nights he "worked" late. yeah...work...sure. needless to say, we aren't married anymore.



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