He just won't sleep

Teresa - posted on 09/08/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My friends 6 month old is driving her to despair. He will not sleep for any descent amount of time. Most nights he is awake every three hours, but some nights he is awake every hour and a half. He can't self settle and will only go back to sleep if he is picked up and comforted. He is on medication for reflux so that isn't the problem. He is also gaining great amounts of weight and eats well. What can she do? I can see it i just destroying her but I have no answers.

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Candice - posted on 09/08/2009

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is he getting enough of the meds? sometimes the meds don't work. my daughter has reflux too. we took her to the hospital and they gave her a higher dose than the GP would. helped alot. but if all his other reflux symptoms are gone, he could just be a bad sleeper (again, my daughter) and the only thing i could do to get rest was hold her in my sleep. i laid back, propped pillows around me, and held her cradled in my arms. slept like that ALOT. when she started to roll over, i laid her in the crook of my arm so i could feel her still, and slept like that with her next to me. she's finally sleeping in her own bed...but that went on on and off till she was 14 mos. i feel their pain.

Anna - posted on 09/08/2009

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He could be teething - they get restless during sleep then. Otherwise I'd just have to say look after your friend and help her out with her housework so she can have a rest. Babies are demanding but they only cry for what they need. If he needs comforting in the night, maybe he's afraid to be alone. They suffre from separation anxiety. Does he sleep in his mother's room or alone? Co-sleeping works really well for me and my babe but it's not everyone's preference of course.

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Katy - posted on 09/13/2009

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i had the exact same problem when my little boy was 4 months, i changed his rotiean during the day and ditched the dummy after that it was not long till he was sleeping through the night. i also made sure i had a good half hour unwined time before he goes to bed and used controlled crying. i also brought a book called the baby sleep system i found it really helpfull and have never looked back since. good luck

Christine - posted on 09/09/2009

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two words - Miracle Blanket. I used this for my daughter from birth to 9 months. She loooved it. Google it and you'll see all the testimonies.

Nicole - posted on 09/09/2009

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my baby was the same way up until two nights ago. I just had to bite the bullet and let him cry himself back to sleep. I fed him at 9:00pm and put him to bed. when he woke up at 3am I let him cry. he cried for 30min. went to sleep for 10 min. then cried another 30 min. I put the pacifier in his mouth and he went to sleep. the next night he slept all night.

Teresa - posted on 09/09/2009

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He doesn't sleep day or night so no sleeps to cut down here. He does get solids twice a day. Also the mum is lovely and interactive with him. Gives him lots of love, affection and attention. He has an older sister to help wear him out. This lady hasn't had a full nights sleep in over 9 months between a rough pregnancy and a sleepless baby. Sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture!

Inga - posted on 09/09/2009

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Well at 6mths its a bit hard to know whats wrong with the child. but yes he does need solids atleast twice a day and i would cut his sleeps down to once a day so his tired at night. Also what will help is if she gets down and pplays with him during the day. also maybe some panadol or neurofen for the little one will help relax him and awarm bath just before bed

Teresa - posted on 09/08/2009

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Thanks for the replies. Her boy has two lots of solids a day already, but you could be right about the teething. My friend has read and used tips from the No Cry Sleep Solution but to no avail. She also is not a believer in the leaving him to cry it out. Will pass on al ideas and thoughts. Keep them coming. Something has to work at some stage.

Brenda - posted on 09/08/2009

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Co sleeping is the best answer. By six months, fears of SIDS are past, and if you do so safely it will help with a baby that needs comforting. And not it doesn't spoil them. I've coslept with both of mine, my second since birth. Check here: http://attachmentparenting.org/safeinfan... for some safe sleep suggestions.



For the record, it is normal for a baby under a year to wake that often, it is the way we view it that makes it an anomoly. The whole concept of sleeping through the night is something that not all babies do.



I do not recommend controlled crying. I can't stand that doctors still recommend this highly outdated and possibly detrimental procedure. Recent research is linking it with childhood anxiety and depression. No Cry Sleep Solution or The Baby Book by Dr. Sears are best for a high needs baby. Also, just from experience with a high needs baby and controlled crying. I tried it. I stopped when my son got so upset he puked. To me, that is not helping a baby sleep, its nearly down right abusive. It is just not good on a baby's system. Just my opinion but I like to inform people about what doctors today would rather ignore.

Jessica - posted on 09/08/2009

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What kind of formula do you have him on? my daughter went through the same thing she was on milk based formula and wouldn't sleep but she was still gaining weight . She is also on refulx medicine i put her on soy and her stomach has settled down and now she sleeps five hours or more at night and i only let her nap for two hours a day so that she is tried at night.

Penny - posted on 09/08/2009

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there is a system that is called controlled crying. go and see a doctor and they will be able to hook her up with a nurse that will teach her how to teach her baby its time to go to sleep.

Jamie - posted on 09/08/2009

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She can try feeding him some solids during the day to help fill him up, but that's just what comes along with having a baby. They eat when they are hungry, and they need food, both day and night. Growth spurts occur during periods of sleep, so naturally they need food at night. He could also be teething and she could try hyland's teething tablets. It won't last forever, I promise. You could suggest she read The No Cry Sleep SOlution by Elizabeth Pantly, which is an amazing resource .

Sarah - posted on 09/08/2009

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How is she putting him to sleep? I know I would rock my son to sleep. As he got older it became harder to lay him down without waking up. He would also wake up in the middle of the night and had to be rocked back to sleep. After two nights sitting in the rocking chair sleeping because he would not sleep in his crib (would wake when I went to lay him down and would have to start all over again) I realized I needed to change things. The only way he knew how to fall asleep was to be rocked to sleep. He had to learn how to put himself to sleep. After about 2 wks of letting him cry when I laid him down he was sleeping through the night fine. He had figured out a way to put himself asleep on his own without having to be rocked to sleep. I would still rock for about 10 mins or so as we read a book and said prayers before bed, but then would lay him down.

Jamie - posted on 09/08/2009

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She can try feeding him some solids during the day to help fill him up, but that's just what comes along with having a baby. They eat when they are hungry, and they need food, both day and night. Growth spurts occur during periods of sleep, so naturally they need food at night. He could also be teething and she could try hyland's teething tablets. It won't last forever, I promise. You could suggest she read The No Cry Sleep SOlution by Elizabeth Pantly, which is an amazing resource .

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