help, i think i might have post natal depression

Joanne - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i have 3 daughters the youngest being 6 months old. i have been experiencing growing anxiety arund my children. i am stressed out to the max over everything. if i go to the shop and leave my girls at home with their dad my first thought when i pull up the driveway is ' please dont be crying again madalyn'. i really feel like a failure as a mother and i am often feeling useless. i feel like i cant handle my 4 year old anymore. today i went to sleep during the day and i just did not want to get up, i had no urge or desire to do so. i am still able to tend to my childrens needs and i never leave my baby screaming but as soon as they start crying i am overwhelmed with anxiety. i dont want to feel like this anymore.

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Julie - posted on 09/27/2009

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I understand how you are feeling Joanne. I have two children ages 3 years, and 9 months. My 9 month old screams all the time. He has been screaming since he was born! He is finally having longer periods of happy time. He does not nap well during the day- an hour nap is like a blessing.

So, you are experiencing anxiety and are feeling depressed. You NEED to see you doctor ASAP. They can help figure out what the best thing to do is. I am currently taking Zoloft with is a pill for both anxiety and depression. I wish you the best of luck. Dont feel like a bad mother.. Many people experience similiar feelings. And when you are feeling so stressed out, it is ok for you to take a few minutes by yourself to catch your breath and clear your head!

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Linde - posted on 09/28/2009

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Quoting joanne:

i really feel like a failure as a mother and i am often feeling useless. i feel like i cant handle my 4 year old anymore. today i went to sleep during the day and i just did not want to get up, i had no urge or desire to do so. i am still able to tend to my childrens needs and i never leave my baby screaming but as soon as they start crying i am overwhelmed with anxiety. i dont want to feel like this anymore.


I feel for you Joanne. My baby did not come home from the hospital until she was 7 weeks old. I feel as though I have post tramatic stress disorder from the whole ordeal. What I would like to point out is that if you WERE a failure as a mother you would not be looking for help. You would not have posted this in the first place. You are doing the best you can. You will get through this. I too suffer from extereme anxiety even before I was pregnant. I have often been on the verge of tears and had a very short fuse the last week fews. I take medication and see a therapist every 2 weeks which has really been helping. At our first pediatrician visit I overhead the Dr. in the other room. He was giving a little boy a shot. He advised to boy to use "scream therapy" whenever he gets a shot. After feeling overwhelmed after an almost sleepless 24 hours, I let the baby cry for a few minutes while I screamed into a pillow. It really was theraputic. I hope you can find something to help release this anxiety. Sometimes we have to hit rock bottom to get motivated to do something about our problems. I'm sending you good vibrations.

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Just remember this isn't your fault, you are not a bad mum or person, your just experiencing a chemical imballance in your brain probally due to hormonal changes. Talk to a doctor, they will most likely pescribe a pill of some kind, you will feel better soon. It took less than a week for my meds to kick in and I was back to my normal self. The sooner you get help the sooner you will feel better. Best wishes

Shannon - posted on 09/27/2009

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Speak to your doc asap. This is fixable and best fixed before it becomes something out of control. good luck. I'll be thinking of you.

Michelle - posted on 09/27/2009

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I agree with the other Mom's! Get to your doctor, they can help:o) And remember, things will get better. Good lucl:o)

Candice - posted on 09/27/2009

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get to your doctor please. i agree that you may have post natal depression. my symptoms were similar - more anxiety than depression, but not wanting to get out of bed is a pretty good indicator. When i got help i was back to normal in a matter of weeks. you have joy on the other side. don't miss out on enjoying your children.

Kathy - posted on 09/27/2009

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You are right, you could have post pregnancy depression. It is a real condition, I know of some people who have had it and still have it. You should really get an appointment with your doctor and he/she can prescribe you something that will balance your hormones and make you feel back to normal. I hope this helps.

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