How do I get my son to sleep in his crib? Crying till he falls asleep dont work!!

Cassandra - posted on 10/03/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I have tried so many times to get my son to sleep in his own bed over and over again and nothing seems to work. I have tried putting him in his crib after he has fallen asleep and he wakes right up...I have tried letting him stay in their and cry himself to sleep and he gets so worked up he literally makes himself sick.... He's a week and a half shy of nine months old and I think it's time to break the viscous cycle of him sleeping in my bed. HELP!!!

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Jamie - posted on 10/03/2009

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I can't stand the crying either. I just don't feel good about it. I loved The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantly. She has a lot of useful advice and tells you just how to do it, without the crying! It's amazing. She has a website too! At the same time, don't be afraid to let him sleep with you if you are enjoying it. He will not be 12 and in your bed. Enjoy your time together, it just goes wayyyy to fast!

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Michelle - posted on 10/04/2009

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My daughter has been in her crib since day one, but recently we've been having a hard time with her. She screams as soon as we put her down and is waking several times a night! We have no idea what's going on with her! Before all we had to do was put her in awake and she'd fall asleep! Now you better be ready for an earful! I'm sure she's telling me off and calling me every name in the book for putting her in there!! If only I could understand the baby language!! I`m hoping this passes soon! We have no problems with naps, just bedtime! So with any luck, your little one will be sleeping like a champ in the crib soon!! Good luck!

Andrea - posted on 10/04/2009

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It took me only about 3 nites to get my daughter to sleep in her crib...i guess i was lucky!! I would rock with her in the rocking chair, while she drank her bottle. When she was almost asleep, i'd lay her down in the crib. I'm not gonna lie, she'd cry. But i'd stay there with her, patting her on her butt & saying things like "mami won't leave til u fall asleep" & things like that. Eventually, after a few nites, she would sleep in her crib. Oh but before i forget!!!!! Before i actually had her sleep in her crib at nite, i was training her by having her take naps in the crib. she NEVER minded taking naps in the crib, it was at bedtime i had a problem! Anyways, good luck & i hope this helped!!!

Jamie - posted on 10/03/2009

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Well my parents are even hiding the fact she is sleeping with them. Oh well I guess I will just get her used to the crib again when she gets back. I hope you little one gets used to the crib soon b/c I so enjoy having my bed back

Cassandra - posted on 10/03/2009

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His grandparents swore up and down that he was not going to sleep in bed with them but let be known they gave in.... we had just moved out of the estate their selling and left the crib and other stuff their we still had to move and they got it brought it up got it in the house and it went as far as the kitchen it wouldn't fit down the hallway!! So they gave in a way....

Jamie - posted on 10/03/2009

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I def understand that b/c I seen my cousins sleep with their mom until they were almost teens and I dont want my daughter to that. I am afraid that when she leaves to stay with my mom and dad in two weeks that they will let her sleep with them and I will be back at the start again.

Cassandra - posted on 10/03/2009

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I guess the big problem is that the doctor asks us all the time if he's in his own bed yet or not and the first time he was away from home was because I was admitted to the hospital I had Gall Stones had surgery scheduled and then my liver shut down and I was completely yellow including my eyes and had to have my bio-duct cut open because a stone got stuck in their and needless to say had that surgery then the gall bladder removed the next day and he went to his grandparents for the week I was in and he slept in bed with them after he cried and cried screaming momma....It's so hard...it was even harder when he came and would cry because he wanted to stay with me...back on topic now he's my only child he's going to be spoiled but I see kids 12 yrs old that still sleep in bed with their parent's and I wanna break him before that happens!!!

Jamie - posted on 10/03/2009

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Yeah my daughter is a momma's girl. She cries when I leave the room. I still sometimes give in and go get her b/c I can't stand to let her cry, so I understand that you feel bad b/c I do too.

Cassandra - posted on 10/03/2009

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I have tried putting him in his playpen right next to my bed and he would sit their and cry and cry and cry....he's a momma's boy....

Jamie - posted on 10/03/2009

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I was in the same boat as you are. My daughter is almost 9 months old. She would wake up after being put in the bed or would wake up several times a night while in the crib, but if she sleep in bed with me or in her bassinet right next to my bed she would sleep through the night or wake up maybe once a night. What took me to force her in her into her crib all night without coming to my room was her falling out of her bassinet. I know it sounds bad, but I guess she was just learning to pull up and I had no idea b/c this was her first time doing it. She was down for a nap and woke up and flipped right out of the bed. I made sure from then on no matter how bad it got she was sleeping in her crib and after about a week she is doing great and wakes about once a night. Hope it gets better for you soon

Cassandra - posted on 10/03/2009

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I guess I just give in because I can't stand to hear cry because I think I'm not doing my part as his mom and in all reality it's the other way around...

Victoria - posted on 10/03/2009

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I agree with Chris Fisher. My son started doing that about 5 months. He wanted to only sleep in my bed, i would lay him down asleep and he would instantly start crying, I finally went to the dr and he said that they go through it about 6 months and at milestones. The first night I let him cry about 15 minutes then i would go to him and rub his back then leave and continue to do this till about an hour of crying he feel asleep. and everytime during the night he got up i did the same thing. The 2nd night i waited a half hour before going in. then the 3rd night 45 min. Finally about a week of this he started putting himself to sleep and sleeping through the night. It's hard i know but give it time and stick with it and it will work. He is testing you because he knows you will go to him if he crys, it's going to be a battle and you have to be strong to win but its worth it.

Chris - posted on 10/03/2009

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First get him into a bed time routine. Example: bath, read, pray, bed. Next, get music in his room, lullabies and nature sounds make good choices. Once you have a bedtime routine in place stick to it. You may also need to use some Johnson's bedtime bath to help him get calm and relaxed. Then turn on his music and put him in his crib, give him a soft toy or book to play with. This will give him something to do while you leave the room. He will most likely play, and with the music in the background, he should fall asleep. If he's fussing, but not really crying, then leave him (he's testing you to see what you will do- don't give in to him). However, if he's crying or screaming then go in there after 10 - 15 minutes (don't pick him up), reassure him that you love him and that everything is OK. Then leave again, after three tries go in, pick him up and cuddle with him on the couch (don't bring him in your bed). Once he calms down and starts to get sleepy again, then try him in the bed with the book or toy and his music.



I hope this helps. Have a great day and God bless.

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