how do i get my son to sleep thru

Mandy - posted on 05/12/2009 ( 36 moms have responded )

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i cant get him to sleep thru he s 2 months and two weeks now

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Kylie - posted on 06/19/2009

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baby wize is a crock it's a book written to torment mums and babies!
If your little ones can sleep for around 6 hours at that age thats sleeping through. have you tried white noise and check the temp oh his room maybe hes waking up because he cold. I suggest cluster feeds in the evening then put him down around 6 like Ashley suggested, when he wakes keep the room dark, don't talk to him, just give him his feed and cuddle. he needs to learn the different from night and day. having a consistent routine with help as he will start to know when sleep time is coming and want to go to bed. Let us know how you go..

Joy - posted on 06/18/2009

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I think that's a little early, by a few weeks though. Start establishing a bedtime routine. Mines is Bath, Bottle, Bed. after his bath, we enter his room with the lights dim or off, I place him in his crib, turn on his fisher price light up mobile thingy and proceed to dry him off. I massage him QUIETLY, dress him, and run to the kitchen to make a quick bottle. Make sure he's well burped, I give my son the pacifier while he's lying on his tummy, I kiss him goodnight then leave the room. He averages 12 hours without feeding. but hes 4 3/4 months. It gets easier when he's 3 months...I also wake him up at the same time everyday and try to get him to nap at the same time, one in the morning about 1 hour 45 min, 2nd is a 30min power nap around 2, and at 4 or 4:30 till 5:45....he stays up until 8 pm. Sorry about the long post! Best wishes Basically limit his nap lengths, but make sure he naps so he's not overtired or fussy

Ashley - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Mandy:

i do all this and he still doesnt sleep through now he goes to bed at 7 to 8pm at night then he bsleeps for an hour and stays a wake till half 11 12 o clock he is now nearly 4 months


Put him down at 6pm and he will sleep much, much, much longer. Even if you doubt it will work, it can't get much worse than your situation now.

Mel - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Lucy:



Quoting Melissa:

mine has never had nappy rash either and has her nappy from about 8.30-9.30am after her first feed. also she used to have over night feeds but be kept asleep during them so could not have her nappy changed and yes it was therefore quite heavy in the morning. it doesnt mean baby is going to get nappy rash, it depends on the baby.






Please tell me i'm misreading/ understanding your post????? Your baby has her nappy on from early morning and then right through????? One nappy a day??????  Is this what you mean?





 



no no, not all day she gets regular changes during the day. i realise how that sounded now that i read it back. at nigth she goes to bed around 8.30 after her feeds now that she is on only 4 feeds a day and in the morning i feed her at 8 and i wake her up last minute so she gets more sleep so i do not have time to change her nappy til after the first feed as her feeds taken an hour so she gets her change between 9am-9.30am as soon as i get her out because i have to make sure she does not throw up her milk

Lucy - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

mine has never had nappy rash either and has her nappy from about 8.30-9.30am after her first feed. also she used to have over night feeds but be kept asleep during them so could not have her nappy changed and yes it was therefore quite heavy in the morning. it doesnt mean baby is going to get nappy rash, it depends on the baby.



Please tell me i'm misreading/ understanding your post????? Your baby has her nappy on from early morning and then right through????? One nappy a day??????  Is this what you mean?

Mandy - posted on 06/17/2009

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i do all this and he still doesnt sleep through now he goes to bed at 7 to 8pm at night then he bsleeps for an hour and stays a wake till half 11 12 o clock he is now nearly 4 months

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2009

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Usually at 2 months, most babies don't sleep through the night. Some babies don't establish a good sleep schedule until around 4 months or so. If you start a routine & stick to it, maybe your baby will start to get on a schedule and start to sleep longer. Most babies sleep 5 hours in a row at that age, but don't expect them to sleep 11 hours in a row if they are hungry.

Nikki - posted on 05/15/2009

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I recomend you get a book called save our sleep, it gives you routines from birth and it is fantastic I could never get my son to sleep during the day so by 5pm he was screaming for hours I got the book and followed the routine (not hour by hour) but roughly the same and from 8-10 weeks he was sleeping all night 7pm til 7am and its only now when he is teething that I might have to get up 1 or 2 times over night.

Krystelle - posted on 05/14/2009

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As previously stated, you don't. He needs to eat. Most babies don't sleep through the night at 2 months.

Mel - posted on 05/14/2009

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i have the radio on very low but im scared of having it on too high for her. its on all day and night but you cant really hear it well.

Melissa - posted on 05/14/2009

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If you have an I pod or mp3 player I bought a dock for my daughters I pod and she listens to that on low all night since she was 2 now nothing wakes her except strange sounds I picked a playlist with little bass

Mel - posted on 05/14/2009

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and someone knocked on the door to deliver formula 2 days ago and that was it for her afternoon nap she started crying. i really hate when people disturb her

Mel - posted on 05/14/2009

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mine is the same as your first. its the reason i kicked up such a fuss about them admitting her to hospital again. she wouldnt sleep there. i had to make an arrangement either they let her home at night or they cant have her there at all. she wakes up if i open her door to check on her and she keeps kicking the monitor off so i cant even check on her anymore and all the washing has to be done while shes awake. she also wakes to peoples voices even quiet even to the cd changing tracks in the car. Hoping our next wont be like this! Im wondering what time it is in Canada since its 11.30pm here and im about off to bed

Melissa - posted on 05/14/2009

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my baby is such a good sleeper I can move him vaccuum anything pick him out of his crib take him for a walk change his bum ... still will be seeping

Mel - posted on 05/14/2009

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gosh you've got alot of guts to wake a sleeping baby and risk him not going back to sleep! wow

Ashley - posted on 05/14/2009

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Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

Melissa you brought up a good point, these sleeping through the night threads for young infants have always brothered me and I might I just figured out why. First off frocing a baby to sleep through the night, means feedings are being missed (thats the given one), the second one you just made me realize is DIAPER CHANGES! Younger infants go more often, so are these babys sleeping in dirty diapers for 7-11 hours a night? Ouch, now I understand why some parents have diaper rash issues all the time, and other parents have had no diaper rashs at all.


My daughter has been sleeping 11-12 hours every night since 9-10 weeks old and does not have a diaper rash. And if I was her and was woken up tout of a sound sleep to have my diaper changed that I was quite oblivious to, I would be annoyed.  If you understand babies sleep needs, sleep cycles, and nutritional needs you will understand that a baby can and wants to sleep all night. No mother FORCES their child to sleep through the night. Once I understood that most babies need to go to bed by 6pm and I started this bedtime with my daughter, she didn't wake up until morning.  If you set up an appropriate bedtime routine and bedTIME they shouldn't wake up, once they are past a certain age and weight.  It is not ridiculous to try to help your baby get as much rest as it needs...sleep promotes healthy brain development. And a well-rested baby is a happy baby.

Melissa - posted on 05/14/2009

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The one time my som slept from 11pm-7am he woke up with a blistering bum and he was just changed before bed. Needless to say I wake him at 3-4 am now

Mel - posted on 05/14/2009

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mine has never had nappy rash either and has her nappy from about 8.30-9.30am after her first feed. also she used to have over night feeds but be kept asleep during them so could not have her nappy changed and yes it was therefore quite heavy in the morning. it doesnt mean baby is going to get nappy rash, it depends on the baby.

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2009

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Quoting Amanda-Lynn:

Melissa you brought up a good point, these sleeping through the night threads for young infants have always brothered me and I might I just figured out why. First off frocing a baby to sleep through the night, means feedings are being missed (thats the given one), the second one you just made me realize is DIAPER CHANGES! Younger infants go more often, so are these babys sleeping in dirty diapers for 7-11 hours a night? Ouch, now I understand why some parents have diaper rash issues all the time, and other parents have had no diaper rashs at all.



Can i just say, it is not possible to "force" a baby to sleep through the night.  If they don't want to sleep through the night they won't.  It's simple.  However, sometimes they are just into the habit of waking, if you follow what I said above (and also what Ashley said) you can get them out of the HABIT of waking.  If baby is genuinely hungry she won't sleep so there is no issue of missing feeds.  As for the nappy (or diaper), my son sleeps from 7.30pm to 6-6.30am, yes all the way through and yes, in the same diaper and he has NEVER suffered from nappy rash yet!!



All babies are different and i'm sure it is frustrating to hear that other babies are sleeping through the night when your's is still waking every few hours.  I have not heard anyone say to just leave your baby all night missing feeds and nappy changes.  I just see Mum's trying to give advice that that has worked for them with their babies.  Mum's with babies who do sleep through the night.  I wouldn't recommend anything about getting your baby to sleep if i thought for a second they would be missing out on anything.  My son doesn't want for anything and is extremely happy to sleep all through the night.  We can play loads during the day but all children have to learn that night time is sleep time otherwise you will be making a rod for your own back when they are toddlers/children!

Ashley - posted on 05/14/2009

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Quoting Emily:

I think the 13 pound rule is bullshit. My son was 13 pounds when he was 2.5 weeks old. Obviously I didnt expect a 2 week old to sleep soundly through the night, lol. Man the crap i hear on this site.


I don't think many people think a 2 week old will weigh 13 pounds, how big was he at birth? Ouch! A baby this age can sleep through the night though, if you do a few things I described above. My daughter was 12 pounds at 9 weeks and sleeping through omce I did those things.

Melissa - posted on 05/14/2009

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My baby is 14 weeks on Saturday. She went to sleep at 10:30 last night and is still sleeping now (almost 9am). This is the first time she has slept so long. At 2 months she was still waking up every 3-4 hrs. I think you should give it some more time. Believe me, the time will come, you just have to be patient. I didn't think she would ever sleep through the night.

Amanda - posted on 05/14/2009

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Melissa you brought up a good point, these sleeping through the night threads for young infants have always brothered me and I might I just figured out why. First off frocing a baby to sleep through the night, means feedings are being missed (thats the given one), the second one you just made me realize is DIAPER CHANGES! Younger infants go more often, so are these babys sleeping in dirty diapers for 7-11 hours a night? Ouch, now I understand why some parents have diaper rash issues all the time, and other parents have had no diaper rashs at all.

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2009

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Quoting Emily:

I think the 13 pound rule is bullshit. My son was 13 pounds when he was 2.5 weeks old. Obviously I didnt expect a 2 week old to sleep soundly through the night, lol. Man the crap i hear on this site.



Welcome back Emily and you make such a grand entrance hahah



But on a serious note my son was 13.9 before he was 3 months and breast fed every baby is differant they eat at thier own times I would not be able to sleep at night if I thought my baby was hungry at all. I do not sleep through the nioght I wake up for drinks sometimes a snack. To go pee or to rollover so I really dont expect my baby at 6 months to sleep through that being said most babies sleeping through is typically 5 hours. If you need your baby to eat more in one time as I did have my first she wanted to eat every half hour for about 5 minutes so I took her clothes of except for diaper, rubbed her ears head anything to keep her awake till I got feeds to last 20 min but that was not to make her sleep through just to get my daughter to have more regular and better sleep for herself

Brooke - posted on 05/13/2009

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With a baby that young trying to get them to sleep through is hopeless you really need to just be patient. It is a good idea to have a rouitine but thats it. My daughter started sleeping from 11pm to 6am when she was 6 weeks old, we tried to wake her up half way through to feed her but she wont budge once she's asleep. Dont push the issue.

Sarah - posted on 05/13/2009

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Hi Mandy!

Ashley is right about the feeding and naps. A baby who sleeps (during the day) is a baby who sleeps (at night). Naps really are important. Other tips are to ensure you put bubba down when he is drowsy rather than actually asleep so he does not get alarmed if he wakes somewhere different during the night. He will also learn then to get himself off to sleep. Make sure if you do go into him during the night that you do not put the light on, try not to speak to him and don't make eye contact. Either look at his tummy or the bridge of his nose. It sounds cold but if you do this every night he will be able to tell the difference between night and day (bviously make sure you do make eye contact when playing with him though otherwise he won't realise the difference lol). If all else fails keep a muslin with you all through the day (tucked into the top of your shirt) so it smells of Mummy and put him to bed with that, or do it with his blanket. Then he smells Mummy if he does wake up and should be able to get back to sleep. I did all the above with my son except for the muslin/blanket as by this time he was sleeping through but it was just another tip i heard. As i said, i used everything (and still do) on my son and he was sleeping from 7.30pm to 6am every night with the exception of growth spurts when he might wake for a few minutes at 3/4am. Good luck! Let us know how you get on xx

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2009

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Practice, experimenting and patience is the key. I found that a warm bath, a clean bum a feed and good burp helps. Try wrapping you're little bub tightly in a blankie prior to feeding so he feels safe and secure also ensure that bub is nice and warm prior to laying him down to sleep. I'm aware that all babies are different however this is what worked for me and it's worth a go! Mum needs her nap time too! Best of luck!

Mel - posted on 05/13/2009

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it doesnt matter what the weight of the baby is as long as they are making up feeds during the day they can sleep for as long as they like in the night. some babvies sleep 13 hours from birth. mine slept around 10-11 (after the initial week when she was tongue tied), so we were very lucky.

Emily - posted on 05/13/2009

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I think the 13 pound rule is bullshit. My son was 13 pounds when he was 2.5 weeks old. Obviously I didnt expect a 2 week old to sleep soundly through the night, lol. Man the crap i hear on this site.

Ashley - posted on 05/12/2009

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If your son weighs more than 13 pounds he is physically capable of sleeping through the night as long as he is eating 24-32oz per day. That being said, make sure you have a consistent bedtime routine of bath/pajama time, bottle/breastfeed, and then bedtime no later than 6pm. I don't know why but most babies want to be in bed by then. A general rule is if your baby is waking up at 3-4am and weighs enough to go all night without food then the bedtime is too late. Also, make sure you have him taking at least 3 naps per day and he should only be awake for 1hr and 15 minutes at a time. I used all of these tricks with my daughter and she was taking 3 naps per day and sleeping from 6pm-6am every night at 9 weeks old. One last thing that I did that really helped my daughter fall asleep and stay asleep was to put her down on her tummy. She had good head control and could turn her head from side to side. Putting her on her tummy really took away her tendency to startle in her sleep and wake herself up. Whether you are comfortable with that or not is up to you. But definitely do the bedtime by 6pm and watch his naps during the day and after a few days he should be able to sleep through.

Cathelijn - posted on 05/12/2009

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You can't really do anything, he will sleep through when he is ready. A bedtime routine is always a good idea! It will happen just hang in there!

Emily - posted on 05/12/2009

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A baby that young should be waking up at night. He really needs to eat every few hours, night time not an exception. Wait until he's a few months older before expecting him to sleep eight hours straight.

Sara - posted on 05/12/2009

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All babies are different, but generally speaking babies that small do not sleep through the night, they still need to eat quite frequently. Just hang in there, establish a bedtime routine and he'll be there before you know it!

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