How do you get your 9 month old down to sleep without crying??

Whitney - posted on 07/05/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My almost 9 month old sleeps great all night!..... except the painful part is putting her down to go to sleep. For some reason, even though she is tired, when we put her down for bed she cries for up to 30 minutes! Then konks out and sleeps through the night. She doesn't cry when I put her down for naps- just bedtime. She gets a bath, breastfeeding and I sing to her. Any suggestions? Is it just me? Is it an age thing?

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Christi - posted on 07/05/2009

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So my baby boy Cadence is 9 months old and he is protesting the same way and can not stand bed time or anytime I put him down for that matter. I talked to his Dr. and she tells me around this age seperation anxitety develops and worsens at bed time to allow him to cry as long as he does go to sleep and be right there for him when he wakes in the morning. So thats what we did but I fill your heart ach and all I can say is he is number 3 and I hate when they cry still. good luck and give her lots of day time attention she will work through it.

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Jordan - posted on 07/06/2009

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Mine still cries... but for less than 5 minutes. I bought a sound machine with illuminating thing for the ceiling. I treat bedtime like a ritual. A cup of water, grab a blanket or stuffed animal, say goodnight, and then I lay him down. I say I love you and good night...go to sleep now. As I am walking out I turn on the music and light show, and then shut the door. He will be standing up crying while I do this, but as soon as I shut the door, he lays down whimpers or cries for a minute or two and then that is it! He is 14 months old... He does cry for naps and bedtime, but like I said it is less than 5 minutes total!

Lynlee - posted on 07/06/2009

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Our son would do that every night for months. He would be fine for a few minutes after we put him down for the night but then cry. We dealt with it by going into his room, picking him up and walking slowly around his room, singing softly for about 5 minutes each time. Then we would put him down and go back to the lounge. If he cried again, one of us would do it again until he didn't cry again. We didn't want to do CIO. I am unsure whether I reckon it's overtiredness - in my experience if our son is really overtired he will cry for maybe 5 minutes and then he's out to it.

Joy - posted on 07/06/2009

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Try putting her down earlier by 30min. Sounds like she is too tired and wound up to settle well. Babies speed up when they are tired making it hard for them to wind down. good luck.

Minnie - posted on 07/05/2009

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I lie down in bed with my daughter and nurse her to sleep. When she wakes in the night I nurse her back to sleep. She sleeps in bed with me.

She doesn't want to be alone. Babies aren't made to be alone.

Natasha - posted on 07/05/2009

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I have a 9 month old son, Cooper is the same way. He has to have a mobile on, singing to him, me read him a book, play with him, feed him, change him, and cuddle him with his blanket... He won't go to sleep most of the time without me rocking him and letting him play with my necklace.

Tammy - posted on 07/05/2009

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Quoting Whitney:

I do let her cry.... I just really wish there was something I could do to not have her cry before bedtime! It's horrible to have to listen to and I'm starting to get anxious when putting her down because I know what's about to happen.



I totaly understand, i have a four year old that is going threw a rough time with bed time, but what can u do? i do agree though,, it might be over tiredness

Whitney - posted on 07/05/2009

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Vicki- It could be overtired. I was thinking it was either overtired or not tired enough!

Whitney - posted on 07/05/2009

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I do let her cry.... I just really wish there was something I could do to not have her cry before bedtime! It's horrible to have to listen to and I'm starting to get anxious when putting her down because I know what's about to happen.

Vicki - posted on 07/05/2009

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Hm, she could be overtired maybe. My son is nearing 7 months and will protest naptime if he is super tired, but he goes to bed great at night. On the rare occasion that he does cry at night (maybe two or three times), I'll let him stay up with me a little bit, but he has to be quiet. So, all in all... I don't know how to help. :(

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