I have a 13 months old and I would like to know what you think about just having one baby?

Valeria - posted on 12/18/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I'm not sure if I want to have another baby. I just want to know your experience about having only one. Or your experience having two. Like the pros and contras!!

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Meredith - posted on 01/03/2010

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Definitely have another one, if you can. Siblings bring a whole new dimension to parenting. It is wonderful and challenging. (as mother's, we ought to be challenged!!) Also, thing about your child you have now. The gift of a sibling (or 2, or 3. . . ) is something your child will have the rest of his/her life. Don't miss out on a wonderful opportunity.

Bonnie - posted on 01/02/2010

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I am a mother off one child and would love to have a second child and I would love them close in age so they can be good friends for life I may be unable to have more children do to a large fibroid on my uturaus so I have come to a conclusion what ever will happen has happend for a reason if you only have one hey you have already got to see it and you have one to spend all your time with and spoil. so I say to you what will happen will happen and if it is only one that you decide on it was ment to be

Michelle - posted on 01/02/2010

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I have 2 boys & I love them to dearly! If I had it to do over agian I would have thought about it longer, so if your not in a rush then you can decide what is best for you & your family. Remember Mom needs TLC time for herself too! Hope that helps:)

Michelle

Lequita - posted on 01/01/2010

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WARNING: I AM A NEW MOM. i have one little one and he will be a year on may. i think that having one is awesome. i think that if you want more then prepare yourself in every possible way especially in this economy. personally i plan on spacing my kids out by five years or close to it. i do not want to have to deal with a new baby while i still have someone who needs me just as much.

Susanne - posted on 12/31/2009

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One was fantastic! I loved it! And, now two is fantastic! Twice the love! Everyone is different and only YOU can decide what is best for you. For me, having two has "completed" my family. I love watching the girls interacting the playroom together - it fills my heart with happiness (until the sharing stops & the crying starts! lol)

Paulette - posted on 12/31/2009

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I have seven! (I am not saying you should have more - only you can decide what is best for your family - but you asked for pros and cons, so here is my 2 cents worth!) I love having lots of children, they all help me and each other. Having siblings helps a child learn to share, co-operate, be responsible, and the loving bonds between them is wonderful to see. Single children, and even two children in a family, do tend to be self-centred, so be aware of this if you decide not to have more. Do give them responsibilies and chores, don't allow them to think the world revolves around them, but that they are valuable contributors, not just consumers. Visit my website www.motheringadvice.org.nz for my advice on babies.

Jessica - posted on 12/20/2009

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Hi. I'm a mum of two kids, my son is 29 months and my daughter is 7 months, and I think it's wonderful I had them close together and there isn't jealousy, he loves his sister more than anything and he gets just as much attention plus now she's crawling he has a playmate which he enjoys so much. I don't think I could have only had one child even though my first pregnancy caused me to have depression, and now I have baby #3 on the way. I came from a big family so I guess I too am a little biased. As someone else has said, it is alot of work but I'd say it's worth it.

Suzy - posted on 12/20/2009

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I have two boys who are 16 months appart. At first I thought I must be insane, bottle feeding one (gave up breast to get pregnant) whilst pregnant with the second, being so tired you can't think straight.Dealing with one who is toddling and a new-born.I worried like all Mums that you can't possibly love the second one as much as the first. Believe me you can...it was really hard work at first but now they are 3 & 4 and the best of friends. I sit back and watch them play together chatting, its amazing. My advice is to have a second as soon as possible before you forget everything!

Michelle - posted on 12/19/2009

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i only have one child, a son, and i will never. have another one. although this may sound bad, i dont want to have to share the love that i have for him with another child. he is my one and only, my everything and i can devote all of time to him. i will never have to stop doing something he enjoys with him to do anything with another child. i can give him all of my time, energy, and devotion cause there is no one to take it from him. he will never have to feel like i am too busy for him or that i dont have time.
now, its great to have a brother or a sister (i have one sister myself) to grow up with and eventually when you're old enough to be bestfriends with, but those relationships can come from other places as well and are not only found within the home.
i may have a slight bias, considering i was so miserable while i was pregnant. it has jaded me from doing it all over again..

Renae - posted on 12/19/2009

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Are you a member of the "Mothers of only children" community? Join and have a look at some of their conversations. There is a great thread with reasons to only have one child and also mums struggling because they want another child but cant have one. I think you will gets lots of answers just browsing through.

Cynthia - posted on 12/18/2009

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i want another one and my daughters only a month lol...it would be so nice to have someone she can play with when shes 2 or 3

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Speaking as an only child the pros were that I got all the attention and was pretty spoiled! The cons were that I did sometimes get lonely and I felt jealous of my friends' relationships with their siblings, also, when my mum died I could really have done with a brother or sister to talk to rather than just my dad.

Speaking as a mother of two the pros are it's the most beautiful thing in the world to see my two interact with each other and watch their love grow and to know that whatever happens they'll always have each other. The cons are it's a lot of hard work, especially trying to make sure my older girl doesn't feel she's suffering because she's not the only child any more. It's easy when you've only got one as there's no questions of where your attention goes, but with more than that you have to prioritise and that's sometimes really difficult.

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