i need help getting my six month old to sleep through the night, any sugestions?

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hi girls, i have a sweet boy and he decided he doesn't want to sleep the first three hours, wake up, sleep two hours, wake up, one hour, wake, one hour, wake and so on. he wakes up screaming he does not know how to self sooth. he is bottle and breast feed and he has started solids. he takes two to three naps a day and we go outside everyday at least an hour. we don't have a problem with a bed time, just staying asleep.

any ideas on teaching him to self sooth? i would gladly try them. thank you.

christi*

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Mel - posted on 07/07/2009

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yes at 6 months he does need to learn how to put himself to sleep and back to sleep. our daughter has done this wonderfully for so long now, she doesnt even cry in the moring if she wakes too early just plays and back to sleep. go in every 5 minutes pick him up give him a cuddle, dont talk to him and put him back down then repeat every 10 mins then 15. its hard for the first week but they get used to it. or you can just try sitting by the cot and rubbing his back or belly it sometimes calms them

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Mine have always been left to cry, if they are fed, burped and changed.... mine have slept through like this:
#1. 2wks
#2. 5wks
#3. First night she was born (very lucky with her)
#4. About 5-6wks

She has her last bottle @ 10-10:30pm (we cut her bottles back by 30mins most of the day just so her last one isn't too late for us), goes straight to sleep, doesn't wake until I wake her @ 7-7:30am for her bottle (yes I have to wake her most mornings), I wouldn't bother except I have to get her eldest sister off to school, and the others ready.
Just try by letting him cry for a bit, see how he goes.

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well, we start with his dinner then the bath that way he is clean and his bladder has worked (he will go to bed with a fresh diaper) i find when he is sleepy and i change his diaper he wakes up! i've also read somewhere that it is best to feed three hours before bedtime so digestion does it's thing and it gives you a chance to make sure that the baby is well burped.
i know the baby will sleep better next to you that's natural the baby will feel safer knowing that you are there, but it's a trap! you will never get the baby in his crib and you will not get any sleep or anything else! i've done that a few times and it gets harder the longer you do it, but in the middle of the night when you are so tired that you think that you will drop your baby if you don't lay down and nurse him and you fall asleep, don't! my sis-n-law started doing that when her daughter was born now she's nine months and she won't sleep in the crib, she wants to nurse all night and she is all over the bed kicking and rolling now no one gets any sleep, sure it sounds nice when your desperate for sleep but it's a can of worms!
i hope this helps alittle.

Carlson N Maricar - posted on 07/07/2009

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hi!
i have a 5 month old little boy myself.He does not sleep through the night yet..and its hard for us to put him to bed at night. i will try to do some tricks that you guys mentioned. Which comes first...Bath or Bottle?my problem is my son sleep while having his bottle....and he does not sleep during the day...he likes to take "power naps"!i've noticed that he sleeps well if he's beside me but, i want him to sleep in his crib and also for his safety!thanks :)

Tiffany - posted on 07/07/2009

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i have a 8 mo old lil girl and she does pretty well in sleeping shell wake up for her pacifier in the middle of the night nut goes back to sleep uaually sleeps a good 12 hours...the only thing i would tell you is less naps throughout the day, she takes either 1 big 3 hour nap or a 2 hr nap in afternoon and an hour nap round 6-7 at night...take it from experience....when my daughter would fight sleeping at night i would let her cry for 10-15 min max alone then go in there and giver her a pacifier or bottle and she would go right to sleep some people say its not good for the baby but it teaches them that when its bedtime they go to bed not play... and when i lay her down in her bed she gets compfy and lays there till she falls asleep now no crying or fighting it ....why would u want to frustrate yourself and take it out on the baby when theyre just sleepy...also its a known fact babies sleep better when thier tummies are full...in ur situation i would give him a bottle with rice added to it to fill the tummy and sleep longer through the night most babies will wake up in the middle of the night to eat...that was doctor reccommended..for my daughter and she sleeps good now

Vicki - posted on 07/06/2009

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I wouldn't push the self-soothing at this point... I read somewhere recently that it is about six months old that baby will begin to show seperation anxiety. He'll prefer Mom and act differently around strangers. At night time especially, when he is alone and upset, he needs to be comforted. Allowing him to "cry it out" will only teach him to be scared that nobody will be there, ever. And if he is experiencing the pain of teething, which at this young age is THE WORST PAIN EVER, could you imagine being left alone to cry by yourself, every night, until you are just too worn out to cry anymore?

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thanks girls. we do have a bedtime routine and no problem at bedtime it's just staying asleep. he does have one tooth now just showed up 2 weeks ago. i also need help trying to get him to learn to self sooth. any ideas?

Lynlee - posted on 07/02/2009

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I hate the theory of CIO and never used it but I can agree with the others about the routine thing. When babies are little I think it is much more important to have a routine than when they are older. We always fed our son and then gave him a bath every night. Then take him to his room and read a few books, fed again or walk up and down the hallway cuddling him. When his head flopped against our chest or his breathing calmed, we would put him in his cot which he was still awake. He would then mostly go to sleep on his own. Once he is used to falling asleep himself then he should learn to do it during the night. Having said that, our son was waking twice a night at your sons age but he was just hungry - I was breastfeeding - His waking pattern sounds suspiciously like teething and our son would wake multiple times while he was teething. Give him some Pamol or whatever pain relief you have there suitable for children, before he goes to bed and then again when he wakes - but follow medicine instructions of course.

Nicki - posted on 07/02/2009

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Hi. I have a 6mos old and he has slept through the night since he was about 6.5 weeks. I don't have him on any type of regular routine during the day but at 6mos he should only be getting a total of around 4 hours of naptime (so the books say)...make sure your baby is eating enough during the day and not waking up hungry. I also would suspect he is starting to teethe like my little one so I give him a dose of tylenol before bed. When your baby wakes up at night, give him tough love...try letting him cry it out. If he knows you are going to be there everytime then he won't break his bad habits. If you give him a bottle in the midle of the night then he will expect that so it may take a week but let him cry for 10 minutes to start out and then go in and try to calm him while leaving him in his crib and then walk out and let him cry another 10 minutes, repeat, repeat letting him cry longer and longer and eventually he will teach himself to get back to bed. Good Luck!

Vicki - posted on 07/02/2009

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My boy is also six months and is usually a great sleeper. He does wake up too early for me, but by that time (around 5am) he just needs the boob in his mouth, and we'll snuggle on the couch for a few hours.



A nighttime routine is very important; for instance, we have dinner, take a bath, have some milk and read a story, and by then my little man is quite ready to sleep. I do try to put him down awake so he is able to get himself to sleep. Sometimes I do hear him waking and babbling a little but it doesn't last long, nor is it often.

If your boy is waking screaming, he's telling you something is wrong. I'd wager he could be teething... it is, for some reason, most painful at nighttime. Does he sleep in a seperate room? He could be afraid you are gone forever, and just need some reassurance. There are times when my son is taking a nap on the couch, he will wake up and fuss a little bit, and all I have to do is talk to him from across the room and he'll close his eyes again. If you have him sleep with you, or nearby, it will be easy to give him some comfort when he wakes. :o)

Krystal - posted on 07/02/2009

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Hello!

I have a 5 month old little boy myself.. I have never had a problem with his sleeping, fortunately! I guess its the old European in me! Anyways from about 3 and a half months old my son has slept consistently through the night ( from about 8:30pm-8:30am)..

A couple tricks i have learned is to definitely keep a routine! Most Important!

I also from day one have given him a bath about 30 mins prior to his bed time.. it seems to ease him and relax him.. I do this every night! right after that he has his bottle and falls asleep.... sometimes i hear him wake up and start to moan.. i leave him and he usually falls back to sleep, but if and when he doesn't, i make sure he has a bottle ready and i give it to him in his crib.. i find if you pick the baby up he definitely wont go back to sleep! Also, let say you put him to bed at 9ish when ever you decide to go to bed for example, around 12 carefully change his diaper.. Baby's usually awake if they are wet...As well, don't feed him solids to close to his bed time because he won't sleep well at all, there stomach's have little time to digest the food, and thus a cranky baby! One more thing, at 6 months he is probably teething or starting too, my son already has his first tooth! Ambasol works like a charm, BUT ITS STRONG.. try it on your gums first and then you can adjust accurately to your babies gums!

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