In desperate need of advice!!

Reesa - posted on 07/30/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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So I'm finally being proactive in helping my 8 1/2 month old daughter sleep through the night without a feeding. The problem is that when she awakens at night (usually at about 1am and 5am) she fusses and whines, and because she's mobile now, she ends up with her head against the crib bars or in the corner of her crib. I've already removed bumpers and she doesn't have any toys or blankets in her crib so it's not the safety issue that concerns me.... it's that I feel I have to go in and move her back to the middle of the crib which just gets her crying even harder and gets her more frustrated that I'm not picking her up. This will happen 4+ times in a row which makes for a long night. Advice?

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My son's head ends up smashed against the bars sometimes even if he doesn't wake up. I actually think he's comfortable like that sometimes. I would say peek at her from the door to make sure she's not stuck but don't bother moving her if she's get her head against the bars. It won't hurt her. If she's able to move that well in the crib than she is able to move herself if she is uncomfortable.

Katarina - posted on 07/30/2009

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Have you tried getting Dad to do it instead? Or not talking to her when you do move her or go to her crib. I've heard that making a clear distinction between day and night helps alot. My son is 4 month old and has been sleeping through the night for a couple of week now(10pm-6:30am) and if he does get up or (I must admit I do the same thing as you. I also am always checking if he's too warm or too cold) he has to be moved I'll get my fiance to do it. Seems to work for us.

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Greer - posted on 08/04/2009

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Have you tried wrapping for sleep it suggested that you can wrap an infant till 11 months use a large cot sheet or blanket(depending on the weather) place one hand by her side and wrap one coner over under her stomache then place the other hand by her side and tuck under her back, tuck her feet in. she may not like it but if she will be able to go to sleep with out waking her self up and mines nearly 6 months she has her last feed for the day at 730 is in bed asleep by 8 has 1 feed at 12 then sleeps till 5 or 6...do you follow sids guidelines of placing feet at the end of the cot giving them room to wiggle up if they are too hot and not wriggling too far down if they are too cold

Katie - posted on 08/03/2009

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My first daughter got up in the night and had a bottle till she was one and after that i just gave her a cup with a little water and rocked her back to sleep. She was in the 5th percentile so I felt she needed the nutrtion. Maybe your child isn't ready to do the whole night? I agree with having dad try since alot of babies just want to eat when mom is around.. good luck I hope you find what works for your little family!

Nikolina - posted on 08/02/2009

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i had the exact same problem with my son and i just put him in a single bed when he was 8 mnths n he slept straight thru but really whatever you think is right only you know your child best.

Alison - posted on 08/02/2009

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Been through this twice and like many people have already said, let her do what makes her go back to sleep. The safety standards of cots are designed for such things. If she wants to press her face against that bars to go to sleep by all means let her. The alternative is to keep going in to move her and she will soon realise that all she needs to do to get your attention and it will happen more often. They are only tiny but they are quick to learn how to make mummy and daddy jump!

Melissa - posted on 07/31/2009

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I don't have much advice, I can relate however. My almost 5 month old gets his head in the corner but it doesn't seem to bother him. On average he sleeps through 'our night' 4-5 times a week. He goes to bed at 8 and wakes at 5-5:30 which is fine considering I drop him off at the sitters before 7. I know so many parents have told me that thumb sucking is the worst habit ever. I disagree, when Haden my son was able to get his thumb in his mouth he started sleeping through the night. I have friends that wake up multiple times throughout the night to put a pacifier back in their babies' mouths, not me! So to sum all this up I have not had trouble with sleep since he was 2 1/2 months. Which I contribute to pacifying himself with his thumb.

Candice - posted on 07/31/2009

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i used the mesh bumper just to be sure her arms and legs didn't get caught between the bars. other than that, she ends up in weird positions all the time, and i just let her stay there. if i move her, she wakes up...so no point.



as for the feedings though, i personally believe kids that age sometimes need to be fed at night. whenever my daughter went through a growth spurt (same week every month) she woke up hungry repeatedly. she's 15 months and only now is sleeping through the night. and it didn't matter how much she ate before bed or during the day. sometimes they are just REALLY HUNGRY and if you've ever tried to sleep hungry...you would understand why they can't get back to sleep. it's a very uncomfortable feeling.



if all she does is whine a bit, she's probably fine just going back to sleep. i knew it was time for a feed if nothing i did got her back to sleep.

Emmeline - posted on 07/31/2009

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my daughter used to do the same thing and end up at the other end of the cot but shed never cry jus moan.... in the end i jus decided to leave her and after that she just got the idea that she would have to send herself back off to sleep. She know sleeps through the night with out stirring.

Karen - posted on 07/31/2009

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I would put the bumpers back on. I'm still using mine with my 11 month old because she also rolls around and it used to wake her when she would hit the wood.

Reesa - posted on 07/30/2009

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Thanks for all the advice. I'll try let her just whine through it and hopefully the midnight routine feeding habit will break....

Amber - posted on 07/30/2009

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If your little one was uncomfortable, she would move. My son is 4 1/2 and all over the place at night. I check on him off and on before I got to bed, as he goes to be around 8:30...he is always started in the middle of his crib on his back. This morning, I went in to get him at 8am when he woke up and he was laying on his stomach against the side rails. He has done this quite a few times. Just like adults, babies move throughout the night and into all sorts of different positions. If she was uncomfortable, she would move. I have never moved my son and don't intend to. I would leave him be if I were you and just let him sleep.

Melissa - posted on 07/30/2009

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If your baby is mobile she will have a natural instinct to move her head the other way if blankets, bumbers or bars are by her face. My baby is 4 months old and has recently started sleeping throught the night from 8p to about 6:30a. I totally leave her alone at night making sure not to disturb her in the least bit as in door shut and no lights etc. no checking on her. She also has white noise in the background. I started that when she was very young. If she gets uncomfortable she will let me know.

Lindsey - posted on 07/30/2009

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i removed the bumpers for one night and had to put them back on bc she got her leg stuck in it..so i put them back up and im not too worried about her not breathing shes all over the place in her crib she usually does tend to be right next to the bumper and thats always where she is..if she couldn't breath she wouldn't sleep there...but shes also been sleeping all night since she was 6 weeks i have never moved her..she knows how to move herself

Amber - posted on 07/30/2009

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my daughter is 7.5 months and since she has been able to roll over and scoot she is always against the bars or laying across the bed hardly ever up and down like normal. she sleeps best when i give her food before bed so she is satisfied all night. she does wake up sometimes in the night but she just wants her pacifier. also lately i have been putting one of my extra pillows in the crib with her and she cuddles up to it and sleeps with no problems. and i'm not really worried about sids because she keeps her face out of it and she knows how to move her head if she needs to.



if i were you i would just cork her and let her get comfortable on her own. or maybe give her something that smells like you and it will make her feel more secure and not fuss so much

Stephanie - posted on 07/30/2009

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My little one does the same thing.He also lifts his head and bangs it repeatedly on the bars.He doesn't seem to care about the red bar marks on his head.I have been doing some research online and the biggest reason that bumper pads result in higher risk of SIDS is due to co2 being breathed out and then being caught in the material then being breathed back in by the baby.They suggest a mesh bumper pad to prevent this from happening. http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp...
http://www.meshcribbumper.com
The last site explains a lot about SIDS.They also have a picture there that looks like they padded the individual bars so they are not completely blocked off.I am going to either get a mesh pad or sew individual padded loops for the crib.I can hardly sleep thinking that he may give himself a head injury.A well rested mommy is a better mommy.I also picked up some tips on getting baby back to sleep on this site
http://tribalbaby.org/Feedingtosleep.htm...
I found the best one was to lean into the crib put my face by his neck/cheek/ear and breath deeply.I only have to do it for about 2 minutes and he goes right back to sleep.It is a little hard on my back but is worth it for some extra sleep.Check it out.I hope this helps.

Stephanie - posted on 07/30/2009

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im going through the same thing: trying to get my 7 mth old to sleep through the night. i always feel like i have to go in there and feed him. the best thing i can say is to let her be where she wants to be as long as its not hurting her. if shes not stuck in the bars then dont move her because she will move herself if she is uncomfortable.

Sara - posted on 07/30/2009

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Sometimes babies want to be against the bars. It gives them the presure on thier little bodies and makes them feel secure. Try putting her feet against the bars or her side if you're afraid of her head being smashed.

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