is giving birth as bad as what i heard. curious 37 weeks pregnant

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Nicole - posted on 12/08/2009

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I thought it was gonna be very painful... but it wasnt at all... the contractions were the only thing that were painful! I was dilated to a four when i got to the hospital and then when i talked to the doctor I asked to get an epidural and I couldnt feel a thing after that! BUT Its different for everybody! Just relax and stay calm... AND everything will turn out just fine! Good Luck and Congrats!

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for some people yes, but for me it was so much easier than i had expected (my mum wanted to punch me cause i was such a difficult birth for her) with my first daughter contractions went for three days but it was just like period pain wasnt really painful at all and the midwife said we'd better get to the birthing centre i thought it was a false alarm and we'd had to go home..i had my waters broken for me and tried to use the gas as it got more intense but i didnt like it at all made me feel worse, i had a water-birth and as soon as my belly touched the water it was such a huge relief! twenty minutes later she was here! recovery was quick too...my advice is DO NOT LIE ON YOUR BACK OR SIT DOWN!!!!! a lot of women think thats how you're supposed to have a baby but it doesnt allow your pelvis to open properly and makes things so much worse, also try and be up on your knees or standing - then gravity does alot of the work! good luck let us know how it goes..

Sarah - posted on 12/06/2009

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The contractions for me were the worst. Imagine the worst cramps youve ever had in your life, and multiply it a million times. I was 6 days over due, and dialated to 3cm for 2 weeks, when I got to the hospital and finally into my birthing room I sat in a warm bath for about 2 hours, it helped me dialate quicker, and it took the intensity of the contractions away. I was still in a lot of pain, but it was more managable while I was in the tub. Also depends on if your getting drugged or not on how bad it was. I wanted an epidural but I had to wait for the anistiesiologist to come from another patient. I got all the way to 9 1/2cm when she finally showed up, right as they were going to have me push, and I begged to get the drugs. I ended up getting I think its call an IUD its like an epidural only its only your pelvis thats numb, not from your boobs down like with the epidural. And it only lasts 2 hours. after I got the shot, I rested for a half hour and only pushed for about a half hour. If you have a smooth delivery and no complications, you will probably do just fine. Ive heard horror stories but when it comes down to it, when you get the end reslut, its not that bad. Hurts like hell, but totally worth it. Just remember to breathe, and tell your doctor what you want, dont let them talk you into anything

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Brianna - posted on 12/09/2009

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labor is different 4 everyone and it all depends on ur pain talerence. I didnt have a epridural even thought i wanted one which is because i live in a small town they didnt have the staff they needed when i was in labor. when i was in labor i remember telling my hubby that we were not going to have anymore kids cuz i never wanted 2 go threw this again but after my daughter was born the pain was instantly gone and the pain i just went threw suddenly seemed like nothing your just so overwelmed with joy that nothing else matters and honestly a week later i already could barely remember what the pain was like and i would totally have more kids

Kirsty - posted on 12/08/2009

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My labour was forced as I went over by 14 days then had pre-eclampsia, Id had back pain for about a week before they broke my waters. Mine was quite painfully as they werent built up gradually with me having the drip to induce my contractions, they started painfully and very fast. I chose to have diamorphine but it wore of by the time I gave birth, I didnt find this part that painful but did need a stiches which I found more painful whilst they healed. Bearing in mind 3 days later I told my friend I would do it all again, if it was that bad we wouldnt all do it!

Lindsay - posted on 12/08/2009

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As a first time mom myself, I was very nervous about the birthing process. I never attented the classes or anything either. I had this fantasy that I was going to do a natural birth and everything. But when the time came, I took the drugs ASAP! But I have a low pain tolerance, when I hurt I want it solved right away! Everyone is different. But think of the beautiful child you will have when its over, every part of it is worth it. Trust me. Plus, you do forget about it after a while. It helps to have a good partner to support you thru the process and when you want something ask for it. Don't be afraid to be abnoxious and demanding because you are totally allowed!! I am a quiet person in general but when I didn't get my meds right away, I was abnoxiously loud! Anyways, you can't help but be nervous, but your body knows what to do and will lead you thru the process. Best of luck!

Summer - posted on 12/06/2009

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i thought the contractons were way more painful than having my son. i was also in labour for 3 days.. and i ddnt get my epidural until 4 hours before i had him. My advice.. get the epidural. they put ice in a rubber glove and ran is up my body from my ankles to my ribs.. it felt like touch everywhere until it hit my ribs.. then it was cold. epidurals are a life saver and they dont hurt as much as you would think. its well worth it

Summer - posted on 12/06/2009

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i thought the contractons were way more painful than having my son. i was also in labour for 3 days.. and i ddnt get my epidural until 4 hours before i had him. My advice.. get the epidural. they put ice in a rubber glove and ran is up my body from my ankles to my ribs.. it felt like touch everywhere until it hit my ribs.. then it was cold. epidurals are a life saver and they dont hurt as much as you would think. its well worth it

Marquita - posted on 12/06/2009

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Hey Brandy



You will be fine. I gave birth earlier this yr it is so hard to believe that my son will be 1yrs old in 4 weeks. Anyway i was nervous too and watching birth day on discovery only scared me more. Everyone is different so you cannot rely anybody's birth story to be yours. I ended up giving birth natural. Early that day i had a narcotic that only put me to sleep, when i woke up it had basically worn off. My contractions were coming really fast by the evening i barely had the chance to recuperate before the next one came and i was considering an epidural but it was a good thing that the anesthesiologist was in a c-section because it is not something that i really wanted but i wanted the pain to be gone. This is not to scare you by the way. I am glad that i had a natural birth and i would do it again. If you ask me having my cervix checked was way more painful than actually delivering my son. Hang in there you will be fine do what works for you.

Martina - posted on 12/06/2009

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its not as bad as u think its going to be and as soon as u hold ur baby in your arms you completly forget about the pain and if it really hert that much do you think women would hav more than 1 baby. if u use the gas and air right u wont giv a damn about the pain n e way!

Emily - posted on 12/06/2009

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Brandy, just remember good, easy labors never make great TV! When I was prego, it seemed that every TLC show I watched fed into my fear of labor more and more. But I would say, no, giving birth was not bad at all, and worth every uncomfortable moment. Remember to stay calm, know you body knows what its doing (even when you dont!), and try and think that every contraction takes you that much closer to the end! Good luck! You will do wonderful!

Emma - posted on 12/06/2009

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giving birth is what u make of it lots of people told me horror stories but i had a fantastic midwife that made me believe in my self and i had a 10pound baby boy at home with no pain relief and it was an amazing experience and i wouldn't change it for the world just listen to and be confident in ur body u can do it best whishes for a healthy bub

Jamie - posted on 12/05/2009

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Some people say it isn't bad at all, maybe you;ll get lucky! But for me personally it was the worst pain ever and i was praying for death, lol but it helps to know it will end, the good thing was i was only in hard labor for 3 hours. I know it could have been a lot worse.

Nichole - posted on 12/05/2009

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No it's not as bad as people make it sound (as long as you have an epidural). I had a lot of severe pain before that, but I was having preterm labor in my back. But once the epidural kicked in, it was the most amazing experience. I couldn't feel anything below my ribs, except pressure so I knew when to push. I really enjoyed the intimacy of the those moments just talking to my husband, doctor, & nurses in between pushing. Honestly the worst part for my was the pain before the epidural & the pain of my recovery. But I had a lot of complications. So as long as you are healthy & there is not trauma after the birth, your recovery shouldn't be bad.

Rachel - posted on 12/05/2009

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Quoting Belinda:

Mental preparation is the key. Two successful, 100% intervention and drug free births here. (first labour 22hours!!!! 2nd labor 5 hours) You are designed to do this. Your body knows what to do without you telling it. Basically you are going along for the ride. Yes it hurts, but it's nothing you can't handle if you think about it the right way. Keep moving as much as you can, stay upright and when you get to that point where you think ' I can't go on' (we all get to this point when you choose to go drug free - it's during transition) just know you are near the end. When it's over you feel invincible!!! Like a real superhero and you have this amazing miracle right in your arms. Good luck.



I agree with this comment. Your body and your baby know what to do just relax as much as possible and go with each contraction and dont hold back do what u feel u need to if you need to yell do so. I have 5 children 2 are twins i had them all naturally with no intervention everything was great i just relaxed breathed and concentrated on myself and didnt worry about anyone else that was there it was all about me and making sure my baby wasnt sttressed. Good luck ul b amazing!!!

Misty - posted on 12/05/2009

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Depends on the woman I was 45 minutes and a month of soft labour it isn't all that bad and it is soooo worth it

Ashleigh - posted on 12/05/2009

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Try not to worry too much... my daughter is 18 months now, but I remember being really nervous when I was in labor with her. I didn't think that I would want to have an epidural, but I changed my mind and am very glad that I did... obviously pain relief is your decision, but I am a huge advocate of it... it made the second half of my labor and my delivery a breeze! Good luck! I'm sure you will do great!

Sarah - posted on 12/05/2009

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No i dont think its that bad. Ive had 4 kids now, my biggest being 10 pounds, I did it all naturally and with no pain killers. You just have to go in there positive, with a midwife or docter you trust, know that you can & will do it & at the end you will have a beautiful baby that will make it all worth it. It is different for everyone but stressing about it will only make it worse. Be positive. If you need sum drugs ask but i think its best to go without if you can but be open to having it if you need it.

Good luck

Kevlyn - posted on 12/05/2009

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Quoting Kevlyn:

Like has already been said it is different for everyone...I have given birth to two children and pregnant with number three. The first two labor and deliverys were completely different from each other so I'm not expecting this one to be anything like the other two... If you just keep telling yourself that it will be all over with soon and you will be holding your baby before to long...it makes things a whole lot easier...just try to stay calm and relaxed that does make things better..... With my first I was induced and I have to say it was so much more painful than going into labor on my own and up until a few days ago i thought it was a lot longer also but i started figureing up how long i was in labor and i was wrong i guess it just being more painful i thought it was longer....My advice is to try to go into labor on your own and no matter what try your best to stay relaxed and calm even though it may seem impossilbe at the time....Just keep your baby in mind and no that it will be all over soon and you will be holding your little pride and joy in your arms.......



also when i went in on my own...not having to lay in that uncomfertable hospital bed and being able to move around made things so much better..... I was not really hurting, just a little uncomfertable until I went to the hospital and by the time i got to the hospital my contractions were two minutes apart...so i stayed home for the majority of my labor....but like i said it made it so so so much better....and easier to stay relaxed and calm!

Kevlyn - posted on 12/05/2009

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Like has already been said it is different for everyone...I have given birth to two children and pregnant with number three. The first two labor and deliverys were completely different from each other so I'm not expecting this one to be anything like the other two... If you just keep telling yourself that it will be all over with soon and you will be holding your baby before to long...it makes things a whole lot easier...just try to stay calm and relaxed that does make things better..... With my first I was induced and I have to say it was so much more painful than going into labor on my own and up until a few days ago i thought it was a lot longer also but i started figureing up how long i was in labor and i was wrong i guess it just being more painful i thought it was longer....My advice is to try to go into labor on your own and no matter what try your best to stay relaxed and calm even though it may seem impossilbe at the time....Just keep your baby in mind and no that it will be all over soon and you will be holding your little pride and joy in your arms.......

Laurie - posted on 12/05/2009

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Nah its fine.. I had a C-section with my first one and vaginal the second time.. you will do fine.

Brenda - posted on 12/05/2009

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Not goin to lie, it is painful. To say there is no pain is silly. But you've spent nine months pregnant and uncomfortable, and let me tell you it is a relief to finally give birth. Speed of your delivery plays a huge factor. I had a fully induced birth and 30 hours of labor with my first, spent an hour pushing, and I did have Stadol and an epidural during that time, but delivered with zero meds because they were all worn off. The slower delivery wasn't that bad, things were ready. I had a rapid deliver (labor lasted about four hours total, pushed for ten minutes) and it was a lot more painful but over a LOT faster. I had stadol and an epidural again, but I had incredbily bad back labor with it. It was also forced because he was in distress.



So yeah, it is painful but SOOO worth it. And it will be over before you know it. And afterward, it really is all a blur because it happens so fast.



My best advice is try to be as flexible as you can. I wasn't the first time and had a less positive experience (not negative, just less positive) than with my second. I had things planned out in my head and nothing went according to MY plan. Remember, it isn't up to you to control the situation, the baby will come when it needs to come and how it needs to come. My second, I was more flexible, and it was a good thing because nothing went according to "plan" there either. I mean, I ended up delivering on a triage bed (more of a gurney than a bed) because he came so much faster than anyone thought, including the nurses who figured I had plenty of time because their rooms were full at that time. Try not to let yourself get too worried about things going the way you want them, just be ready for anything and you will have the most positive experience you can. And in the end, when you look down into that little face, all the pain in the world is gone and forgotten.

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You will be fine. I did natural it was a full 8 hour day. It was at the end of the day in the early afternoon that the labor happened. Its an experience that is hard to explain you shouldn't worry and get nervous. And all moms are different for the pain level and all those stories you probably heard just out to scare you. Just relax:)

Jessica - posted on 12/05/2009

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I dont think its as scary or painful as everyone says but Im sure its different for each person! Contactions are sore . . . if you get an epidural and it works, your in the clear! I ended up having a c-section, and I would say thats sore, but not unbarable at all! Like the day after a REALLY hard work out at the gym!

Annemarie - posted on 12/05/2009

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Hey

I had an induction that didn`t work and the next morning had a spinal csection.It`s not bad and it well.I am recovering bery well and my son is blossoming.

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its not bad. take drugs and forget about your birth plan though. the only person that can make a plan is the special arrival

Danielle - posted on 12/05/2009

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Giving birth is something that i dont think anyone can describe or tell you about ... what i can say is that when the baby is out the pain is almost completely forgotten ... dont be scared though honey ... we were designed to do this ... good luck

Nichole - posted on 12/05/2009

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oh and the first time was emergency c section so i was knocked out and the second time i was so scared of being awake that after they cut me open and got the baby out they had to knock me out bc my legs wouldnt quit shaking so they could close me up.

Nichole - posted on 12/05/2009

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I had 2 c sections- you don't want to go that route. EXTREMELY PAINFUL AFTERWORDS. however, up to both of my cesareans i was in labor. with my son i was in labor for 10 hours before a c sections, and with my daughter i was in labor for almost 3 days with 2 hours of pushing and my cervix would NOT open. it sucked. being cut open is not fun, it is extremely painful, and my first one was horrible. i had so much water weight after going home that i could barely walk for weeks. the second time i took water pills to counter act that effect and it went much better. the first time i was glued together, the second time i was stapled. staples are more painful. also, after having my daughter in 2008 i bled for 5 months straight while also passing extremely painful semi-large blood clots the entire time. i had to go on pre menopause pills that i had to stick up my vagina 2 times a day and the depo shot, and those combined took another 4 weeks to work before i finally stopped bleeding. i will never have a child again due to these complications. if i wouldn't have stopped bleeding i probably would have died.

Morgan - posted on 12/05/2009

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My labor wasnt bad at all. I did it natural without an epi and believe it's really a mind set more than anything. I had about 16 hours of total labor but only about 3 of hard and an hour of pushing. The worst for me was the pressure you start to feel at about 8cm. I was induced so I can't say if that makes contractions worse since I have nothing to compare it too but it really helped with my cervix because I had quit dialating. I went it at 3cm then the broke my water at 4+cm and I only had moved to 5+ before they started pitocin. I had a really great experience because I surrounded myself with great supporters and just let my body do what it needed to. Good Luck and you'll do fine!!!

Nicole - posted on 12/05/2009

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It was nothing like period pain for me. I was in extreme pain from the first contraction. I think it was just because my baby was in a posterior position so her spine was rubbing against mine. Woah! It was so intense. I was told to expect a long and very painful labour because of this. After the epidural it was fine though.

Demetria - posted on 12/04/2009

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Honestly it's not that bad as people make it seem. Dont get me wrong the contractions hurt but not to the extent of crying and screaming, but my mom said i've always had a high tolerance for pain so I could be wrong .

Call me crazy but I wish I could relive that day, the pain and everything. It still amazes me the whole pregnancy, labor & delivery, and the beautiful baby that we bring into the world.

It's incredible.

Cant wait til I graduate so I can do It all over Again !



My blessings go to you and your new addition; you'll be fine !

Jessica - posted on 12/04/2009

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That depends on what you've heard. I had a natural childbirth and it was very doable, intense but manageable. Relaxing during contractions is the key, and a good, encouraging coach is VERY helpful.

Brittney - posted on 12/04/2009

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I was absolutely terrified going into the delivery room! I was scared of having the baby and the epidural and everything. I had heard so many horror stories, I thought it was going to be awful. It wasn't!! I recommend walking while your in labor. Walk through your contractions as long as possible. A hot bath helps to ease the pain. I had an epiduarl at 5 cm and after that I didn't feel pain, just pressure. Well, until after they took the edidural out anyways. Just stay calm. Work with your body. Its not nearly as bad as people make it out to be if you have an epidural.

Lina - posted on 12/04/2009

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for me yes it was painful and long what is painful are the contractions the pushing actually feels very good and gives you a sense of relief... the keeping calm part was hard for me to do i was in labor for 40 hrs and was not allowed to get up out of bed which was very uncomfortable i did take the epidural and still felt everything so think about it before you jump the ball the after math is wonderful when you hold the little angel it’s all worth it =D

Joanna - posted on 12/04/2009

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im 16 and when i had my baby i was freaking out because i hate needles and pain, the worst part about it was my age though because my nurse didnt believe i was in as much pain as i had said i was. so i asked for another nurse she told me that i had gone from a 3 to a 9 in 30 minutes and that i didnt have enough time to get drugs and they couldnt find my doctor...so i went through it without drugs and practically had my son by myself. my advise to you is if you want your labor to be as easy as it can possibly get then walk as much as you can its health for you and your baby, it will also help with contractions. also before you get into the car call your doctor. let them know your on your way and would like to speak with YOUR doctor as soon as you get there! if you are going to get drugs, go for as long as you can go without them, no one knows how much pain you are in but you. so if they refuse to give you drugs because they believe you can last a bit longer without them tell them you want another doctor and with them you want your doctor so if the nurse says you can or can not recieve drugs your doctor can explain why not or give you the drugs right then and there. and last thing, dont be nervous if you have to do it without drugs. once that kid is out you feel no pain. lol well until you try to move but your pretty much numb down there afterwards so good louck and it'll be fine :)

Cassie - posted on 12/04/2009

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Paige is right dont listen to everyones horror stories its different for everyone and like everyone else is saying you forget about it after you go through it...the only thing i can really remember is the contrations felt like a cramp omly multiplied by 100

Dasha - posted on 12/04/2009

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No its really not that bad I mean just think about it a females' body is made to do just that push a baby out Its okay to be nervous but dont be scared because I think you will sike yourself out into believing you really in pain I had my daughter naturally with no pain medications or drugs so did like 3 other moms on my floor so its possible and its been done you can do it too congratulations on your new baby I would love to no how it went

Latorya - posted on 12/04/2009

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Giving birth is different for everyone... Dont be nervous you are about to bring a wonderful bundle of joy into the world.

Rabecca - posted on 12/04/2009

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It's not easy but when you are going through it you just aren't really thinking about it being hard or being easy. You won't care once it's over..when you see that baby nothing else will matter. Enjoy :)

Julie - posted on 12/04/2009

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It just depends. I've had 6 children and some were easier than others. 5 of my 6 were head down, but facing the wrong way so I had a lot of back labor. That makes it harder and more painful. After having 6 my advice is ask for an epidural early before the pain is unbearable. That way you can do your lamaze breathing for as long as you can so you feel like you did something, but be comfortable enough if the pain gets too bad to actually enjoy your delivery. I had 2 children naturally, 1 because she came 45 minutes after getting to the hospital so there was no time and 1 because I didn't ask for the epidural when I should have and by the time I did it was too late to get it. The other 4 I had epidurals with and I would much rather deliver with an epidural. The one that came quick wasn't too bad, but most people aren't lucky enough to have it go that quick. The important thing to remember when you're going through it is that even though it feels like it when you're going through it, the pain won't last forever. There will be an end. The lamaze breathing really does help you to relax and focus on something other than your pain. I know when I wasn't relaxed, which is hard to do when you're in so much pain, that my pain was so much worse. Anyway overall I don't think it's ever as bad as you hear unless you deliver after being given high amounts of pitocin with no painkillers on the day of your dad's funeral. (That was my # 5.) Watch t.v., play cards, talk on the phone, anything to distract you helps in the beginning stages. Anyway good luck and enjoy your beautiful baby.

Eugenia - posted on 12/04/2009

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well my first time i freak out cuz i wasnt sure what was going on and the only person that was with me at the house was my lil brother and it freak him out so it was really scarey at first but then my 2 nd kid i was plan csetion since i had an emergency one the first time but the second i gave birth it was so easy cuz i knew what to expect and what was going on just be as prepare as u can for have what u know u need for the hospital just remember the nurses are there to help u and dont like it when you yell at em like i did the first time lol and it will be over b4 you know it

Mandy - posted on 12/04/2009

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The birth part isn't bad. Labor is no fun because it's painful, but by the time you are pushing there is so much adrinaline going through you that you don't even register the pain. If you are too worried about it, get the epidural. I had one and it was great for the labor part. It had worn off by the time I was pushing, but like I said, you don't notice the pain much and afterwards, you block out the pain of the delivery.

Shauna - posted on 12/04/2009

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I don't reckon it is that bad. I went in with an extremely positive attitude as my sister had given birth 8mths before and said it wasn't so bad. I had a natural water birth with a little gas at the end and I can honestly say it was a great experience. It hurt, but not as much as some horror stories. I have only got the one child and want a few more children but the thought of never giving birth again actually saddens me so honestly it can be a nice experience if you have good support people and listen to your midwife/doctor. To get the best thing in life you just have to go through some pain :) Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 12/04/2009

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Every woman and every birth is different. I had my first baby 4 months ago and it was a walk in the park. I was in labor for 22 hours and only felt my contractions for about a twenty minute period right before they gave me the epidural. When I was escorted to the birthing center the nurses were amazed that I could walk and was in no pain. It really just depends. Take deep breaths and try to distract yourself when u feel a contractions. You will get thru it before you know it! And all that pain will pay off. Plus, if you are choosing to have an epidural it numbs you up pretty darn well! Good luck!!!

Amy - posted on 12/04/2009

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i just had my daughter 3 weeks go. And to be honest i do not remember the pain. My contractions were jus like my cramps that i had when i was on my period. And as soon as you see your baby you kinda forget the pain, the problem i had after delivery was a spinal headsche frm the epidural. but after that went away which took almost a week i felt fine, I actually feel back to normal.



good lick

Carmine - posted on 12/04/2009

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it is different for everyone. I was in labour for almost 13 hours before they did an emergency c-section because my baby's heart rate was still fluctuating alot and she wasn't dropping into my pelvis. Don't be nervous, everyone kept asking me that and because I looked up birthing videos on youtube they thought I was going to scare myself. Which they didn't, and i figured there's no point in being nervous until the real thing hits. Of course at the same time its child birth, nobody said it'd be painless either. Good luck!

Rose - posted on 12/04/2009

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Oh, and I would agree with the comment about lying down on you back being the most painful, for sure. Keep moving and water helps too.

Rose - posted on 12/04/2009

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My labor was very long, 38 hours. That was the worst part. I would highly recommend hiring a Douala to help you with positions and breathing through the pain. Really, just member that women have been doing this FOREVER and that you can do it. And, that this is just one day in your life...it will end.

Sabrina - posted on 12/04/2009

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To be honest, this was my second child, and I gave birth without any pain meds or anything, and actually everything was pretty smooth until they made me lay down on my back, which turned out to be the last 15 minutes before giving birth. Those 15 minutes were the most painful, but then again, it's normal when you go from 4-5 cm to 9 in that amount of time. Besides those 15 minutes, in my opinion, and with my pain tolerance, giving birth was a breeze, lol.

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