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Ashley - posted on 09/11/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have had almost zero interest in sex since my son was born almost six months ago. I found out the mini-pill I am on (I am breastfeeding) decreases sex drive, but I was wondering if this is normal and when it surpassed for you?

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Jackie - posted on 09/11/2009

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tiredness a sore body and a need for sleep completly take over, you now no your body is so much more than it was before and a tiny person is relying on it , start off slow this must be causing you some concern to bring it up . can someone take the baby for a night so you could unwind with a glass of wine (express first ) maybe a massage and a cuddle , see where that leads. dont beat yourself up talk to your partner nurse or doc, it will come back dont be under any pressure , xx

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Laine - posted on 09/11/2009

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Good luck! And don't worry too much about it, because as you can see from the number of replies you got, it happens to lots of women!

Ashley - posted on 09/11/2009

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He helps out, but he also works all day, and he works swing shift, so with his weird hours, when he does help, it doesn't seem like it is long he helps out!

It probably is the stress...normal stuff, like money and such. I'm hoping that maybe having some time to ourselves might help.

Laine - posted on 09/11/2009

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I have the same problem! I figured evolution caused that to happen, because you can't go around being pregnnt all the time, right? Also, I noticed that a lot of my problem is the lack of help and appreciation I get from my husband. How is yours in regards to helping out around the house and doing things for baby? Then again, maybe the stress of everyday life is the cause, in which case you should take a weekend away with just your husband!

Ashley - posted on 09/11/2009

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These ideas are great...we haven't had a "Mommy Daddy date night" in a while, so that might help!

Alanda - posted on 09/11/2009

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Ugh! I didn't know the mini pill could decrease sex drive, maybe that's my problem. I haven't had interest in sex since my daughter was born either 8 months ago. I have found that an increase in the foreplay has helped me out a lot. Maybe it's the pill maybe it's just mommyhood, who knows, but if you can relax and like Jackie said have some wine (express first) maybe it will help.

Miranda - posted on 09/11/2009

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I had my son almost three years ago and there are some intimate things that my husband and I use to do but I don't like doing anymore since he was born.

Just remember not to view your spouse as a child too, it can make being intimate with him harder because of viewing him as immature.

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